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What is going on spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here at voice of generation, we are going through chapter four of Are you ready to succeed by Sreekumar Rao, it’s been a minute, but uh, you know, I was actually having a conversation with somebody else who’s gone through this book with me this round. And this isn’t one of those things where you’re trying to blast through it, right? You’re not trying to, you’re not trying to blast through life or, you know, same same concept of trying to enjoy life relish life and just experience it. So, in that, in that regard, that’s what I’m doing with this book. If I’m not able to do some of the exercises, to the degree that I’m satisfied with personally, and not even to the degree that I am beating myself up, but to a degree that I just want to make sure that I have done some of these exercises and that I am happy with my results personally, right. So not a rush to get through them. Not a rush to get through life, right? Want to be able to relish and enjoy it. So we are on chapter number four. And chapter number four is you can’t kill it. And it won’t shut up. The witness is your salvation, right? That’s the name of the chapter. And this one, to me. This was a little sneaky, sneaky, I’ll tell you, I’ll tell you about it kind of when we when we get away is not the chapters naked. So the next one, this one’s still sneaky. This one’s thinking. And I’ll tell you right now, too. I went through this book, Chapter maybe maybe a few weeks ago, a couple weeks ago. And what I found was super interesting was the idea that there was stuff that was redoing when I was coming back and going through the chapter, again, taking notes and building out the map. There was new stuff, there was stuff that I didn’t see before already, again, and it only been a couple weeks. So let’s jump into it. We’re going to be talking a little bit about the mental models again, right. And the idea is that your personal reality is kind of it’s between your two years, right. And the idea is that most of these models that have come through into your life that you’ve accepted, they’ve been accepted without questioning. I think that the idea is that sometimes an authority figure will toss something out there into your into your life, or television show that you watch or a series or something, that over time, regardless of whether or not you’re doing it on purpose, you have developed this you’ve accepted these mental models, right, they’ve just been pounded into your head over and over again, that they’re stuck there. Right. And these day, create your reality. Remember, it is a reality, not the reality. And, and or at least your perception of it. He does illustrate this with a pretty cool story, basically, you know, and this could happen to you anywhere, anytime, yourself with, you know, let’s just pretend that any surprise birthday party, right, that made the first couple of times that you’ve gone through one, at least I recall getting through one. And you know, I thought people were doing something behind my back, or maybe the party wasn’t going to happen or whatever. You know, I think we all go through this. And if not, I say that just because I want to be alone. But, you know, I still remember, maybe a birthday party doesn’t happen for you. And you’re like, Man, what did everybody forget? And then next thing, oh, there’s this big ol surprise party and you’re like, Man, that’s so cool. They did that. But like there’s this big, long period of time where you’re all worried and concerned. And and the idea is, you know, it doesn’t matter whether or not it’s true or not. What matters are the actions that you take, based upon what you believe, you know, so, so what? So there’s a line that, you know, that’s not what you know, that is not true. What you know, I don’t know, there’s a, I think there’s some Shakespeare line or whatever. But the deal is like, what you think, you know, is really what you act on. Doesn’t matter whether or not that’s true. And that happens in a lot of different places. And sometimes when you act on those things that you believe to be true. You can make a complete ass out of yourself, right? You can make a complete ass out of yourself. He also talks about the I love this idea that you manufacture, emotion to external stimuli, right? This isn’t new to you. And this will also happen to when you’re watching a movie.
You know, so if you’re watching any movie and you can see you know something’s happening on the screen and and it’s a love scene you feel good she it’s a heart touching scene, they call the heart touching scene for a reason, right? They make you feel this emotion. The thing is that you remind yourself during that period of time, that you’re watching a movie, like, gosh, if this isn’t real, it’s cool, man. Cool. The thing is your personal reality, the reality that you create in your mind during the day, when it’s not a true movie, it’s not much different than a movie, right? Your your perception of what you go on is going on around you. The thing is, you believe you’re in your reality, your realities, it’s got, it’s got emotion, it’s got, you know, it’s got these, it’s like the longest running series, right of your life, because it’s been going on your entire life. And you allow for your emotions to dictate your reactions instead of instead, just like, you don’t recognize that you have this ability to hold your emotions in check, just like when you’re watching a movie.
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Brandon Handley 6:11
But it’s just, it’s the same thing. You can, you can almost, almost invariably just watch yourself in a scene as it is playing out in real life. And if you could hold off for just one second, if you can offer just one second before you react. You can save like, you can save yourself a ton of ton of time and effort. Because then you don’t react to the new remind yourself, you’re like, Oh, shit, this is in my mind. You know, maybe that’s not exactly what’s happening. Maybe I’ll shut up for a second and just let it play out. Right? Maybe, maybe there’s not a ghost in the closet with Scooby and Shaggy. Yeah, right. Maybe there’s they’re eating a sandwich, who knows what’s happening. So does reality work for you, you’ve got to, you know, maybe, maybe go through and reflect on your ideal reality exercise that you could have done earlier. And if you didn’t, you know, go check it check out doing the ideal life exercise. And if you can’t find it in the book, feel free to reach out to me, I’ll be happy to provide you with one. If you did the exercise, have you already created zero does your ideal life exists for you? Right now, today? If so, great, you’re down here, congratulations. Call me. I’d like to know how you got there. But if you are like the rest of us, if you are like the rest of us, most of us most of I mean, I don’t have a stat here. But you are massively dissatisfied with the life with the reality that you’ve created between your ears, you are concerned with what others are thinking of you, you’re always thinking of ways to win them over. And you you’re attempting to try to climb the corporate ladder, or maybe be successful in some other way. Maybe it’s not the corporate ladder, specifically that you’re trying to climb, but you’re always, you know, trying to impress somebody or you know, make it to the next level play. It’s always like level up. And each rung of that ladder that you’re trying to climb up and down, or each level that you get get higher up into each one brings maybe a little bit of joy, like I made it, but then then it just it goes away, right? Let’s just say it’s like a quick hit. And easily, you plateau, like almost immediately. You have frantic actions, do you want to hold on to the things that you’ve got? While you’re trying to get more, right? You don’t want to lose anything, but you want more. And, and often this leads to, you know, dropping balls. And you know, lots lots of frustration can happen there. And at some point, some point, this one just knows that every time I read this, you get through reading how all this is you’re, you’re doing this, and he gets up to a point, you realize that there is a song within you. And you don’t know how to get it out. You don’t know how to get it out. You realize there’s a song within you and he don’t know how to get it out. Each time I read that each time it’s like a severe impact because it’s so true. So true. And and you know, look, I’ve had multiple conversations recently where all of us so many of us have been directed in what to do that we get to that point. And we realize that we’ve been directed what’s doing and we want to claim our lives as our own. Right, recognize that we have this capability. And we recognize that there is a song that we want to sing We want to let it out and where we’re at right now. It’s not. It’s it’s not conducive, right? It’s not. There are people around or like don’t saying, I know, it’s like the song metaphor, but your song can be anything, right? It’s a, it’s an artwork, it’s a way that you feel it’s how you live your life. So, I’ll get to the next piece here. So he goes, uh, by golly, I’ll stop that mental chatter. So that’s all the stuff that’s gone in your ears, right? You’re still trying to climb, climb this corporate wrong. You’re beating yourself up, you’re trying to, you know, you’re trying to impress others so that you can get to where they told you that you want to be. Right? And, and, and so that they’ll give you permission to be great, right? And so you’re like, hey, look, I’ll just, I’ll just stop that mental chatter. I’ll just stop it. I’ll get rid of it. And the deal is that you may try and you will inevitably, you know, you, you and evitable bleed, you will find that you cannot, you will find that you cannot stop that mental chatter. You cannot stop that voice of judgment that’s always beating you up. And
we’re just judgment. It doesn’t always have to be beating you up, like we talked about before, it could be saying something positive, the likelihood of the positive voice judgment is less likely than then most others. But the deal is right, what will happen when you attempt to put an end to the mental chatter? Well, what happens when he gives anything some energy I wrote down here, remember, the Gremlins don’t feed those Fockers after midnight look, because they turn into monsters, you feed those you feed those things. The any energy, anything you give to energy is simply going to grow. Right. So don’t feed those fuckers after midnight. Because they’re Gremlins just in your mind. So he’s got an idea here that he talks about. Imagine a wild horse that is running in a field. Sometimes it’s standing there peacefully. But what happens if you go out and you try to mount that horse, chances are, it’s going to buck and throw you off. And honestly, I’ve experienced this. Remember, I was about 10 years old out in a ranch in California, and hopped on the back of a horse and, and didn’t necessarily bucked me off. But it didn’t didn’t really follow my every women command. And there was a gentleman right another horse in front of me who the horse thought that he was on it, it lost control, right and it took off running with him, ran him into a tree branch, I saw that guy get thrown off the back of the tree on bounce and I’m sitting I’m like 10, or 11 I forget was like holy shit. And I had two things happening. In my mind, I was like, I hope nobody hears me swearing. Because my you know, my family was watching from a distance as as I was riding this horse, and I was like, I don’t want to be the one that gets, I don’t want to get knocked off the horse that way. So I pushed myself off the back of that horse and smashed my face into the ground. And I, you know, I survived the incident. But, you know, when you get on something that’s running full bore, with all that energy as a good chance that you’re gonna get knocked off knocked over or it’s just gonna take off without without any control and go to a place where you you don’t want to be. So I’m going to clip this one here and we’ll clip on this one, this one, there’s quite a bit of information in this in chapter four. So click here and come back in just a sec, or when you need to be and we’ll continue
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