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Join in the conversation as we host Elyse Archer of She Sells this week on Spiritual Dope.

Connect with Elyse over at: https://elysearcher.com/

Also, Elyse, mentioned the book The Diamond Cutter, check it out below:

Brandon Handley 0:00
321 Hey there spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here. The voice of a generation as we know, Mays was self self indulge every once in a while and I’m on with a quite somebody quite special Elise Archer. And I’m just gonna, I’m gonna let her do the bio for herself in a second here. But before I do that, like Elise is the reason I do a podcast. Right? Before I met Elise, I’d never listened to a podcast, or I was like, fuck podcasts. Like, that’s not for me. And when I when I met Elise, Alicia, we’re doing your podcast with Greg and, Mark. Good. Morning. Yeah. And, you know, and then you know, we’re connecting at some of the networking events. And then I eventually hired you as my coach. And then when we got through the coach, it was for sales coaching, we got midway through the coaching. And I was like, This is more like, I’m getting life coach than sales coach. And and it’s okay, because it’s transferable, but like, as like, Well, you know, what, at least what we’ve been working on, like, it’s been the sales, but I really want to do this, like podcasts, and I was fully expecting you to be like, eyes on the prize brand and focus on what you said you were gonna focus on and you got it. And instead of doing that, instead of doing that, you’re like, well, how can I help you? Right, and you connect them with some other people. And that moment that that was like a life changing moment for me. So thank you for that. And I’m gonna let you do your own little brief intro. Like Elise, what do you all about? And share a little bit of that? And then we’ll get it going.

Elyse Archer 1:36
Oh, my gosh, I love that. Yeah, it’s it’s so cool, just to see what you’ve created in a short amount of time and to see the evolution of it as well. So yeah, thank you so much. I was just thinking before cutting on his podcast, this is so much fun for me, because I do most of the podcast interviews I do or straight business sales, personal branding. And so this is pushing my limits, because this is actually the stuff I care about, like this is, this is the real, I feel like everything I do in the sales and business world is kind of the Trojan horse to try to like, talk to people about spirituality and help them just develop and grow personally. So this is so much fun. Okay, so with that about me, I’m a new mom. So I’ve got a little boy, he’s six months old. And that’s so much fun. Yeah, yeah, it’s the best. I love it. I didn’t know how I was gonna feel elevated. I

Unknown Speaker 2:24
know.

Elyse Archer 2:26
My gosh, No, I know. And he’s kind of he’s past that, like the blob stage now. So he’s doing things which was, but especially for my husband, Jason, I think it’s more fun for him now that he can interact. And, yeah, I’m a business owner. So I do a couple different things. I’m a founding team member of a company called brandbuilders group or a personal brand, strategy firm. And then I also recently launched another brand that I’m running called T cells. And it’s a it’s basically sales, training and mentoring for women who want to break through six figures and learn to sell in a way that feels really authentic to them. And we can, you know, take this conversation wherever you want it to go. But that’s a lot of my background is coming from corporate sales and seeing, you know, sales and business strategies celebrated that, frankly, made me feel like crud when I implemented them, because they either kind of blurred the lines of integrity, or were all about Push, push, push, hustle, and I did it, I did what I was taught, and I financially, I did pretty well. But it was really, really detrimental to not just my mental health, my physical health too. And so a lot of my own journey has been about I would say, reconnecting with myself, like how I’m actually wired, how I was innately designed and learning to trust myself, trust my instincts, trust my body, trust my intuition. And, and I’m really lit up now about helping everyone do that. But specifically, I my brand really is catering to women, because I think so much of what we’re taught, just growing up is like, we, you know, our bodies look wrong, or they’re not the way they should be, or they’re for other people’s pleasure. And it’s just, it’s really disempowering. And so, I’m so passionate about helping myself reconnect with my power and then helping other women reconnect with their power as well. So that’s, that’s a little sliver of what I’m all about.

Brandon Handley 4:15
Just a tidbit.

Unknown Speaker 4:16
Yeah. Just a little bit.

Brandon Handley 4:18
I love it. I love it, you know. And again, you know, when we connected, it was just, I think it was a, it was just an interesting journey. You You and I are connection, right? And just kind of how that how that all? We’ll call it manifested. And let’s start off with the first question that so we have all day to talk. So usually like to start us off with, you talked about connecting with your power always align it with like source, right? So the idea is that source speaks through us to speak to somebody else, right, you kind of get this divine inspiration to share something with somebody else. So the deal is there’s somebody listening to this podcast today that needs you to kind of ignite them to connect them to their power through a message. And what does that message to that person today? At least?

Elyse Archer 5:08
I love that question. I mean, the biggest thing that shows up for me is to trust yourself. That’s like I said, that’s so much of what I feel inspired to share with this brand. And like I mentioned before, a lot of my journey, especially in my teens, and 20s, were, it was it was not trusting myself, and whether that was not not being proud of my body. And I struggled with an eating disorder for 17 years, or feeling like something was just off with, like a client situation or something I was being told to do at work. All the way to, you know, when we got pregnant for the first time, a couple years ago, I went into sheer panic, that I was like, I just, I felt like I was going to lose the pregnancy. And I went into sheer panic about it. Sure enough, we miscarried. And I learned in that moment, I didn’t trust my body. And it’s been so interesting, this journey of learning to I think a lot of times we have to like kind of be brought to our knees to be able to be open to whatever that that message is that we’re meant to receive, and then carry forth into the world for other people. And that was it for me. But then even talking with my mom about it, a lot of her own experience, too, was she didn’t trust her body. And I think a lot of this stuff goes back generationally. So you know that, whatever that thing is that you feel like you want to do, but you can’t do or you have this intuition to do something or you’re like that logically doesn’t make sense. If I could encourage someone to listen to it, and trust that it doesn’t have to make sense for anyone other than you and to kind of stop looking outside of yourself. Even I promise, I’ll be quiet in a second. So you can respond or ask your next question. But I think about the coach I’m working with right now like this was I just did a pretty big financial investment to work with a new coach. And I knew that it was going to trigger all of my scarcity mindset that I was part of me was still clinging on to I knew it. And sure enough, a couple of weeks in it did. And I knew in my core, my intuition this whole time that it was the right move. But logically, it would not be anything that my dad would have told me to do, it would have been anything that a lot of even business mentors, who I look up to would tell me to do and I was on a call with her a couple weeks ago, and I said, I found myself going into panic about making the wrong decision. She was like, when do you find yourself going into panic about that. And I said, usually I’m reading, it’s when I’m reading like a business book, or I’m listening to financial management training from somebody else. And she was like, stop it, cut it off for the next three weeks, no consumption of any of that stuff. And I cut it off, and I feel so at peace. So it’s not that we want to not learn and educate ourselves and challenge our thinking. But I think at the end of the day, you know, your best path for you. And you have to trust that everything that you’re doing and when you act on those instincts, it’s always unfolding for the greater good and for your greater good. So sometimes just putting those blinders on and trusting that you know, what you need to do, is the most powerful thing you can do. So that would be my message.

Brandon Handley 8:14
After keeping it short.

Unknown Speaker 8:15
I’m gonna be all day

Brandon Handley 8:20
I kid I kid I love it. I love it all like and one of the parts where you brought it to know you had to kind of come to your knees right to just kind of accept your your intuition piece for a lot of people would you consider that? You? d a fearful, dark night of the soul for you? Would you consider that a moment of a or maybe like even a dark night of the soul? Whatever, right? And then and then, you know, there’s the idea I love I love what you’re saying there with with your coach, because I bet you it’s almost like it’s almost like a deprivation for you knowing how much you consume to improve or be better or find another technique or whatever, right? Like Hmm, I have to cut all that off. Right like so you probably feel a little bit like a junkie having to withdraw from that at least look and I know this from my own experience, right? I’m like, I’m like What do you mean? Don’t Don’t do it all like right now.

Elyse Archer 9:16
So it was in that did one thing I’ll just add to that is like, she really kind of pushed me with that cuz she was I was like, but I love learning and learning is good. And I love reading. She was like, that’s your comfort zone. She said, study yourself for three weeks. Just study yourself. Whoa, this is so uncomfortable. But that’s right. That’s what we need.

Brandon Handley 9:33
Well, that’s tough, too. Right. So jumping in there and studying yourself. And what I’ll throw in there though, too, is like, so it’s very, I’m still going through this book again. Right? Like, are you ready to succeed? I can’t remember if I saw I might have sent you one too. I can’t recall if I did. I think I sent you have a kid’s book that isn’t yours. Yeah, I

Elyse Archer 9:50
don’t I’m not familiar with this book. So

Brandon Handley 9:52
this is Sreekumar Rao. This is actually by way of Elise Archer at some point. It was back in the day when we were doing the coaching There was a guy that I looked up Sreekumar Rao on like, you know, you are hardwired for happiness, right? And turned out like, you almost cried, watching his little story or whatever. And I was like, Alright, well, I gotta get his book, got his book, yada yada went through it. But one of the pieces in here it’s just really talks about there’s two pieces in here that you’re saying that resonate with me. And one is like, talking about putting all that effort in, right? Like I gotta do I gotta do I got consumed content consume content, you were finding like each time you like power, something that didn’t correlate with how you were feeling or doing it was like, it was like, striking the wrong chord. Right? Quite literally. It’s like, you’re like that is that is out of that is that’s out of tune with who I am. Oh, my God, I need to make an adjustment because this person, you wrote this book, he’s an authority. Right? He

Unknown Speaker 10:48
knows. Oh, my gosh, I

Brandon Handley 10:50
shouldn’t Holy shit. Did I do the wrong thing? Right. So that that’s one piece, right? is to not let the wrong thought in your head. Right? It’s better. It’s like better like like literally cut yourself like with a razor. He says in this book, this came from like a Swami. Right? It’s better to cut yourself like a razor than to let the wrong thought into your head. Hmm. Right. which I know sounds to me. Like, you know, that’s that’s kind of what was happening to you. Like, you know, you’re you’re on your path. But you’re like, you like this guy’s awesome. I love 98% of what he does. But this piece right here is just like a BB in my mind, right? breaking all my shit. And thank you so much. Right? And then and then the other piece is like, we’re trying to do it so fast. Right? We’re trying to we’re trying to do is we want it so bad. We’re trying to do it so fast. There’s another story in this book where he talks about the idea of, you know, if you try to do it so fast, and with so much energy, it’s actually gonna take twice as long. So it sounds like your coach sounds really similar to what your coach is saying is they stop taking all this like outside influence and jam in all this into your cranium. Study yourself, trust yourself. And that’s what you’re saying to is like, kind of trust yourself and believe in yourself and kind of tune out all the other shit.

Elyse Archer 12:01
Yeah, well, that’s so interesting what you said about if you try to like, push and force it into it so fast, it’ll take twice as long. It’s interesting. I hadn’t thought about it like that. But because it’s counterintuitive. It makes a heck of a lot of sense. Because you’re kind of going up river versus letting yourself flow and stuff, right?

Brandon Handley 12:18
Yeah. here’s, here’s how, like, I’ve visualized it more recently. And this is like, this year, right? Imagine, like, you feel like you’re literally putting all the thought energy or whatever things, right? If we’re putting all this energy into this place, right? Then nothing can get in. So if we create space for something to come in, right, if we back up for a second, and let it come to us, then it comes to us, right? Because otherwise we’re blocking it. We’re like, I’ve got to put everything into this spiritual energy, right? Like, I’ve got to put all of my, you know, essence energy into this thing. And I want it so bad. If it doesn’t, we’ve got all these things caught up with it. And instead of like, I do really want it I want it really bad, but like, I want it and kind of like, the way I like flowers and, you know, gardens and stuff where if I go and I plan it, you know, there’s that whole other thing to where, like, you know, if you plant something you don’t keep pulling it up, right? And check into the roots and be like, you plan it. Come back up. Yes, it does what it’s supposed to do. Yeah, it’ll do anyways. And those are some thoughts that are like, you know, coming on mine is I’m hearing your story, right? I’m hearing like your coaching unfold. So thanks for letting me ramble on

Elyse Archer 13:26
I love this. This is no I feel like I’m getting a good like a spiritual lesson from you. And this this is awesome

Brandon Handley 13:31
was so that was so here’s the other thing, right? Like Elise guys is I went through like my quote unquote, like a call, quote, unquote, because nobody can like point a finger and say, Hey, that was an awakening experience. But remember, if you don’t remember that time, I called you up. I

Unknown Speaker 13:43
was like, Oh, yes,

Brandon Handley 13:44
I went through some shit. I don’t know what it is. And it’s like an awakening experience. So Lisa’s been again, guys that’s, you know, just want to share our relationship with the people that are listening, right, and how this kind of all came together. You came to me as like a sales coach. But what ends up happening was all this inner work that I hadn’t done before for personal growth, and it manifested into culminated into like kind of an awakening experience. Right. And from there, we still maintained and again, that was another thing where you were like, Well tell me more about that, like, because you’re just as excited as I was for that, too. So I think that that’s says a lot about kind of who you are and what you accept in your life. So I do want to hear like, you know, how you talked about helping people find themselves spiritually through your own process. And I’d like to hear how you’re doing that. Because what happened with me might not have been intentional. And and, you know, how do you feel like you’re doing it intentionally right now?

Unknown Speaker 14:43
Oh, wow.

Elyse Archer 14:45
Yeah, gosh, I don’t so I don’t have like an intentional method to it. I think it’s more me think about that cuz I want to actually, I want to, I want to think about what the right or just what the true answer is for me there. I think I think for me, a lot of my own journey has been around overcoming a lot of feelings of unworthiness and worthlessness. And I think a lot of that is conditioned, that’s part of why a lot of the, like the clients I work with are in a business environment in a business setting. And so a lot of times they’ll come for, you know, I want to make more money, or I want to grow my personal brand and presence and just through that process, usually what comes up is, are there tactical, pragmatic things that they can do to do that? Absolutely. But also, and I think the more important thing is we dig into just limiting beliefs that are showing up for them around, you know, I want to make this amount of money, but even the word want means you don’t have it, right. So it especially the women, I work with those, those cut, you hear more than their story. And they talk about feeling unworthy or scared to show up or scared to speak up. And it doesn’t matter how good your website is, or how good your sales process is, if you have that limiting view of yourself, you’re only going to be able to operate within a box that’s like this big right? And get results that are about that big. So I really like I said, I don’t have a set processes, something I’m kind of like working on developing on right now. Because I do want to be able to take people through a more like a more intentional process. For me, it’s typically kind of intuitive with my clients. But that’s usually what I’m listening for when I hear my clients talk is, what are they actually saying about themselves. I was on a call with a potential client the other day. And the first thing she said when she got on our call was she said, Oh, you know, I’m just sitting here procrastinating, like I always do. And she’s a woman who wants to break through six figures this year in her business, and she’s a go getter. And she you can tell like she’s you know, she’s an aggressive goal getter. But the first thing I said was, whatever you describe you prescribed, right. So if you’re sitting there saying, I’m procrastinating, like I always do, you’re going to continue to procrastinate on accomplishing your goals on making your sales calls on whatever it is. So I just I think because so much of my own journey involves poor self talk poor or poor self image, I can hear it, and I can see it and other people. And then that’s what I try to pull out. Because usually we’re just we’re not even aware of it. It’s so ingrained in how we think and how we talk. And most of the people around us usually use disempowering language and thoughts. And so it’s kind of just part of our society. But once you realize, once you’re aware of it, you can’t unknow it. Right. And so I care so much now for myself about how I feel and how I speak about myself. And I try to get my clients to that same level of self awareness. Because the tactical stuff is like 5% of the actual process, the 95% of it is how you think and what you believe you deserve. So I don’t know if that answered the question. Like I said, there’s not a real thought out process. It’s super intuitive for me, but that’s, um, that’s that’s kind of how I do it

Brandon Handley 18:01
a little bit. I mean, it sounds like there is right, so the process is to kind of just identify where they are, right? You know, are they saying something that, you know, you’ve been able to get look as, I don’t think it’s any different than being a doctor, right? Kind of, when, when you first start off, you’re like, maybe I shouldn’t amputate that leg, I don’t know. But I’m gonna go ahead and I’m gonna, I’m gonna, I’m gonna go ahead and cut that one off, you’re doing the same thing with like somebody limiting beliefs, right? Or identifying it. And over time, over time, like you become skilled enough to be like, Oh, that’s this. That’s this. That’s this. That’s this just because of your exposure, experience. And then your own way of working with people in that space, seeing what works. A lot of these things that you’re using a lot of the tools that you’re using, I’m guessing, aren’t brand new, right? These are tools that have been around for quite some time that have had success for years and years and years. It’s just how do you how do you share those tools with these people? So what would be like one thing that you help? Like, when you identify like a limiting belief within somebody else? Right? How do you how do you identify that for somebody to get them past that? Yeah, well, I

Elyse Archer 19:07
think the first thing is just reflecting it back to them. So that’s part of where there is value in having a coach a mentor, just somebody who can hear how you talk. And and actually help help you become aware and almost be a mirror for Do you realize you just said that? Because like I said, oftentimes, our language is so it is it is so subconscious, we don’t even realize we’re saying it. So it’s like, hey, do you realize you just said that? And then oftentimes people don’t even realize it’s a problem. They’re like, well, so you know, so what? So what did I said that and I think so for some people, they’re already really into law of attraction and, and positive self talk, but for a lot of people I work with, they’re not familiar with, with what that means, and how it how it impacts them. So we talked about, you know, whatever you’re saying you’re giving a command to your subconscious to create this thing in your life. And so we start to look at what’s a new and better and different way you could say that The other thing that has been really profoundly transformational for me in my life and that I recommend for a lot of my clients is Joe dispenza his meditations like I am, I’m guessing you follow Him, and I’m such a fan of his work. But every single morning, I’m doing those meditations. And I asked my clients to do the same, and it helps you start to feel the feelings of abundance, genius. Courage, right? All those things that, that we want to embody. And so I get all my clients doing that, as long as they’re open to it, and that is pretty darn transformational as well.

Brandon Handley 20:40
Now, 100%, right, yeah, Joe dispenza is great. He’s one, there’s one that I listened not not even. Not even a meditation, but he’s got like a 10 minute piece that like I listened to all the time. It’s just, it just reminds me like not to look at like, not to look at my social media first thing in the day not to, you know, to retune yourself, right, like to retune your your whole, you know, your whole experience? Do you live life on your terms? Not according to what kind of everybody else is already doing? And that’s why I enjoy him and that. So meditation, getting them to connect with the meditations? Or where did you find that to be kind of like the game changer? a game changer for you? Hmm.

Elyse Archer 21:24
You know, it’s so I’ve been meditating off and on for probably five years, probably, well, I really longer than that, but like, actually really going for it for about five years. But I would say it’s, I kind of, I would do it for a while, and then I’d get off of it. Because it was like, you know, I’m still I still was in the mindset of i, this time would be so much better spent if I was sending emails or creating the social media posts. So I was still in that mindset. And really, I would say, it’s, it’s honestly been more in the past few months that it’s kicked in, for me how critically important it is. Where, even though I think I had done a fair amount of work on releasing anxiety, and like I mentioned, like not trusting myself and stuff. So I’d gotten to a pretty good place about 12 months ago, but I still would have almost this low grade anxiety running all the time in the background, especially on Sunday nights, looking at the week ahead of like, Oh, you know, I’ve just I’ve still got all this stuff that’s been done that I thought I was gonna try to get done this weekend, did I just piled too much on my plate, and then I would kind of beat myself up about just not being, you know, good enough. And I Gosh, if I was better, I could have gotten this done. So it was this habit in this perpetual like cycle that my body was almost addicted to the feeling and the anxiety. And some time, I think sometimes we just have a moment. And for me, I just had a moment, I was like, doing it this way, has gotten me this result. I’ve been feeling this low grade anxiety for years for most of my life. What if I didn’t have to feel that way? What if that wasn’t the reality for everybody? What if I was what if it was just a decision that I was going to feel differently. And that’s when I started really doubling down into a lot of Joe’s work, and into just studying, you know, the different energy centers of the body and how to get them in coherence. And I will say, I mean, it’s a very short time as of the recording of this interview, but for about a week now, I’ve had really consistent checks up brain heart coherence, where you just you feel like in the flow all the time, no matter what. I had that for about a week, and it’s been so transformational. Like, I’m not afraid of anything that’s coming, I’m not anxious, I’m at peace, I’m present. With the people I’m talking to. I’m excited. I’m not triggered by stuff the way I was. And it’s just it’s a totally different, I was able to get there like a little bit before and I could get there and kind of keep it for a while during my meditations. But then something would happen in life, and it would trigger me or throw me off and I’d have to like work to get back. And it’s been really darn consistent. For like I said, about seven days. And I think it’s it was just a decision of, I can have this all the time if I want. And so now i’m i’m showing up on that meditation, that was some ferocity my friend cuz he’s like, Oh, this is good, how much? How much better could it get?

Brandon Handley 24:19
You show it to meditation be like, I’m gonna take this bitch down. Yes. So so that’s great. So there’s, there’s a word that I use in tandem kind of with, with with, with what you’re talking about there. And that’s the word numinous. Right? Like where you’ve got this connection to source and it’s just effervescent. And it sounds like that’s been your week, right? Nothing can derail that, right? There’s nothing stronger than it and there’s no worry, you’ve given yourself some trust, you’ve given yourself some grace. And there’s a it’s just such a great feeling, right? Like how did happen and where’s and it’s always been available. Right, that’s the thing like to you’re like, well, all I had to do was make a decision to make this a conscious choice.

Elyse Archer 25:06
That was it. Yeah, that and it’s and it’s not like nothing has happened, like, I got a mega tax bill I wasn’t expecting because of a miscommunication with my accountant. And in the past that would have that would have thrown me, you know, and this I was like, okay, like, I, you know, I am being honest, it threw me for a couple minutes. And then I just like I’m snapping back into it, because nothing is worth sacrificing this level of vibration and awareness and feeling nothing. So we’re just going to do it and move on. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 25:37
yeah, no, absolutely. 100%. Right. So I thought I definitely talked about this in my process, too, right? To where you make the decision, right, literally, like, so I created that, you know, this thing called the divine framework, right, the first piece of the first piece of this puzzle that you just talked about, is to make the decision. Yes. Right. Like, this is it? This is I’m going for it. Right. But the one thing that, you know, you talked about, like kind of this belief system, you talked about the boxes right and and discover on uncovering kind of like the those limitations, right? Those self imposed limitations. It’s kind of like this whole mindset thing. This is just how spirituality has kind of shown itself for me, right? Like I did the I did the coaching with you awesome stuff. Great stuff went through like law of attraction, right? And I was like, well, this is this is all kind of stuff that I’m putting out there. What if I shake it back and understand that this is a benevolent universe? And that it probably wants things more for me than I actually want for me. What can you show me? Right? And how can I take who I am eternally spirit, like spiritual DNA is perfect, right? I mean, we all have, we all share the same spiritual DNA. But I went from having a human mindset with all these worldly things that we know how to use, right. And, to your point, I’ve made it this far with this human mindset with this human capability. As like, what happens if I choose divinity? What happens in right? What happens if I’m connected to source at all time? And if I accept that source is everything, right? Who, you know, what am I capable of then? Right? And so that’s just fucking blew the lid off it. I’m like, you know, and that’s, that’s that again, just another choice to make right then. And so you can take a look at spirituality and the, you know, you can call it maybe it’s Christ consciousness, I don’t know, right to decide, like, Hey, listen, this is this is Buddhist consciousness, I make this decision to do what you did, to say. I’m just gonna stay connected to this ship, because I feel real good. I don’t have to drink to get here. I don’t have to get high to get here. All I have to do is show up and decide to be here. It can’t be that easy lease.

Elyse Archer 27:56
It’s it. It is literally it is a decision. I mean, that’s it. That’s been a huge lesson for me in the past 12 months that I think we could be scared to make that whatever the decision is. Whether it’s a decision to show up differently, a decision to to move right a decision to, for me invest in this, this high level coach. One other thing that happened for me a couple months ago is I made it not I guess it was more a month ago, I made a decision to spend more money than I knew where it was going to come from to work with this particular woman. So I felt very intuitively guided to do it. And I remember going through the fear and I like I said yes to her verbally. And then I like kind of shrugged back for a week and I vacillated It was like, Oh, this is a bad idea. It’s not it’s not responsible. It’s not smart. And I reached the point. And I think you saw my video I did on Instagram about this. But I was just thinking about why am I not moving forward on this. And it was the fear of the unknown. It was the fear of making a bad decision in the unknown. And, but what it reminded me of was, when I was in my late 20s, I was in a just a, I was in a marriage that was really toxic. And I was so scared to leave because I was afraid of the judgment of being young and being divorced. And my family put a lot of money into the wedding and we were only I mean I knew before I got married to him I shouldn’t have but at this point where I reached kind of the turning point we were like 1214 months in I was so scared to do it because of the fear of judgment and what was going to be on the other side would I ever find someone who was actually a good fit for me all that stuff. And I just reached a point where I said it can’t be worse than this you know so let’s let’s pull the trigger and do it and so I I asked for the divorce and six months to the day that I did. I met Jason who’s my husband I knew within minutes that he was going to be my husband. very inconvenient by the way in North Carolina. You’ve got to be separated for a year so we were still tech Are you gonna you remembered for a year for you to get remarried.

Brandon Handley 29:58
For the for the guys out there. They listen, they’re gonna probably, they’re gonna want to know, what can somebody do in a couple minutes to make some money?

Unknown Speaker 30:07
Right? I

Elyse Archer 30:08
know, I know. Yeah, they are. He just showed up and I was like that, you know, you hear about you know it when you know it, you know it I’ve never had that experience before. But I, I knew him. I knew that I was meant to be with him. So that’s a whole nother story, because then I had to proceed to chase him and date him and all of that stuff. It was a frustrating courtship, I will say, but here we are. So

Unknown Speaker 30:29
if I had to do one, that one, I won that one. Yeah.

Elyse Archer 30:33
But if I had not left that situation that I was so scared to leave, I would not have met him. And we would not have our son jack now. And that just puts things into perspective for me. And I think everyone can relate to something in their life where they’ve been so scared to make a move, because they didn’t know what was on the other side. But think about what happened in your life is a result of what you have now that you wouldn’t have had if you hadn’t stepped out in faith. And for me, that was like, this is it. Like, I don’t know what’s gonna happen on the other side of this, but I know, I can trust my intuition that’s leading me to do this. And I know something really good is gonna unfold, even if it’s not what I’m expecting. So it’s kind of that surrender, like, Alright, I’m along for the ride.

Brandon Handley 31:16
That’s it. I mean, that’s it. 100% right. You know, it’s, it’s following your intuition. And kind of, you know, trusting it. And for you, you know, that’s seems to be working fairly well. Seems like, hey, look, what I love, too, is like, you know, listen, no matter how much of this work you’ve been doing on yourself, I’ve been doing myself, anybody out there has been doing it themselves. years, right. You’re still catching yourself, like beating yourself up? Right? You’re still catching yourself. Like, you know, there are moments where everything’s not fucking perfect. And that’s okay. Like, and I think that, I think that that that can be a challenge too. Because to accept that right to to be able to say, this, this moment, right here is not ideal for me. But that’s still going to show up no matter how much work you do. And I think that that’s important for people to hear and understand. Because they put themselves in into, oh, I shouldn’t be feeling this way I shouldn’t, then they beat themselves up for feeling that way at all. Like you’re saying, like, I shouldn’t be doing this way. And, and and I should be you should I’ve done it differently. And all these other things. And I’ve had another guy that had on and I know well, you called it he has the acronym, acronym Tina, right? There is no alternative. However you did it, right. There’s no alternative to what’s already been done. Right? The only alternative mate would be like your perspective on that, like, as you move forward, you’d be like, you know what, you can look back and be like, you know, what, in my mind, at that time, this is what I thought was going on. But now if I look back, it’s a totally different scenario. your perspective on what happened may be different. But the actual event, there’s no changing it. Right? That’s your your way past it. Right. Yeah. But you know, so how would I mean, a dress that though right, especially for you know, you again, being a coach, having gone through, like all this work, and still finding, you know, yourself kind of having those challenging moments? Do you accept those for yourself? Or do you beat yourself up for having those and then, you know, how do you get through it? What do you do from there?

Elyse Archer 33:28
Yeah, yeah, that’s a good question. I, so I do accept myself for having those. And I used to beat myself up a lot over it. And I think a lot of that is just we see people, whether it’s our parents, or like, for me, I saw I like, I love my mom dearly, but I saw her do that my whole childhood growing up. So I that’s how I operated for a long time. So now with those moments, I am so conscious of how I talk to myself, because I realized if I beat myself up, I’m only perpetuating the negative emotion negative feeling, I’m just going to attract more of that back into my life. So yeah, I mean, even yesterday, I had an introduction to like, a big time, big time, big time podcast to go on. And I had been like, really psyched up.

Unknown Speaker 34:11
You know, we’ve been talking for a while.

Unknown Speaker 34:14
See, it’s always working.

Elyse Archer 34:18
So I had this. So this was like, you know, like, top 100. Like, it was a big it was a just in terms of audience a big show. And so I got myself kind of psyched up for it. And I get on the call with the woman I’d been introduced to who is kind of like the gatekeeper and she was like, Oh, I’m so sorry. If there’s a misunderstanding. You know, he’s booked up for a whole year like I just really wanted to get to know you. You seem like a cool chicken. It was like, in that moment, I felt I felt disappointment. And then I gave myself like two seconds to feel it. I was like, okay, nothing is worth feeling that nothing is worth perpetuating that. So let me instead flip this and focus on how can I show up for her in this moment because I genuinely believe everything is always working out. For me, and if this is not the thing that’s meant to be right now it means there’s something even better down the road. So cool. So let’s have fun with this. And let’s like, show up and have fun. And then who knows what will happen in the future. But I think it’s that an attachment to like things being so perfect that for myself, for a lot of people, right, I think a lot of women I work with everyone, we can get kind of caught up in perfectionism, and things have to turn out the way we thought they would. But when you can be kind of unattached and just more attached to like, feeling good and having fun and showing up in the moment. It’s, it’s a heck of a lot more enjoyable. And you end up

Brandon Handley 35:35
Yeah, listen, you could find yourself on spiritual dope, too, right?

Unknown Speaker 35:40
I love it.

Brandon Handley 35:41
But the deal is to have right like, I mean, that is, you know, the dude, you’re talking about that seven days of being connected. That is, that’s the spiritual high, right? That’s, that’s the, that’s what the spiritual dope is. That’s the hits. You know, when you got that meditation, and you’ve got that meditation buzz of man, I was just so connected, I was so aligned, I was so detached from, I don’t want to say worldly things. But I was so detached from all all the activity and things that I felt like we were talking earlier, like, oh, maybe I gotta go make another pose. Maybe I got to go do this, maybe I got I got, I’ve got 10 minutes, I can squeeze in like five posts, maybe I can I am in and check for emails, right. And instead of being like, like, your coach is saying, Go study your fucking self for a minute. Right? Like, you’re pretty special. Right? recognize that? You know, I think more recently, you know, some of the meditations that I’ll do would be like, how far can you visualize yourself out? Right? And I’d be like, oh, infinite, right? The edges of the universe? Yes. But then more recently, I was like, well, inside is just as infinite to like, how deep Can I go into myself, and it’s infinite. So it’s infinite internally as much. So like, that was there’s been like a new rocking revelation, right? Like, where you just kind of you go internally, and you just hang out with yourself. And you see that, like, you know, you are 100% connected to source at all times. And it’s like, you’re saying, it’s a choice to say, I’m connected in this moment, to the person to the lady that was on the call, or title for my own shit. And I could I could show up and be there for her, or be tied up my own shit. And again, you’re like, I’m gonna take this moment, be there for her. And be open for the intuition, the inspiration, what’s coming out of this that is meant to be like your best.

Elyse Archer 37:35
Yes. I don’t want to add something to what you said about just studying the depth of ourselves. So one of my girlfriends, her sister, passive cancer a couple years ago, and they were super close, super, super close. And I wouldn’t talk about this on most any podcasts. I’ll talk about it here because I feel like you’ll get it. So she her sister passed. And then a mutual friend of theirs, called my friend out of the blue a couple months later, and she was she was like, I don’t know, I just feel like I have to call you. And we needed to reconnect. And this, this woman also channels and connects with people on the other side. And suddenly, while they were talking, my friend’s sister Lauren started coming through her and say, like, really literally reconnecting with my friend and what Lauren was saying, was, she said, You have no idea how big we are. She said now that I’m on the other side now that I can see it. She said, imagine like zoom out look at your house. Imagine you’re looking at it from above. You see the house and then zoom out to the block and the street and then your city and then the world and then the universe. She said you’re so much bigger. She said we are so much bigger than we know. She said I can’t wait for you to see this and know this. But she was just like, it’s you should have this this one on your podcast, I can introduce you because it’s powerful. It’s so powerful. But that perspective from the other side of are so much bigger than we can even fathom. Have

Brandon Handley 38:59
you connected yourself to that yet? Um, have you had that experience for yourself?

Unknown Speaker 39:04
No. Have you I want to Oh, can can you tell me about

Brandon Handley 39:07
it? Because I mean, it’s you can’t right that’s the whole Yeah, you can’t that’s the whole like, mystery school mysticism. translate that thing now? I did do I did do one good podcast on it where I’m not sure if you’ve done breathwork yet.

Unknown Speaker 39:23
A little bit not

Brandon Handley 39:24
not a ton, but a little bit. It’s like it’s it’s it’s like, cracked out. Meditation. When done when done well, like when you when you nail you’ll know when you nail it because you’ll come out of it. Like, what the fuck just happened? And can I get more of that all the time? Anytime? And the answer is yes. Right. Which is also powerful because that’s just like, like I said, meditation force multiplied and add connections and scenes, that you know, in those moments, that that’s the That’s just like a knowing, right? Like, it can’t be anything other than that and and more back to what you were saying before is it doesn’t you don’t need an external validation for that type of thing. You know this as truth. Right and and so, yes, right and that’s the that’s the question all right and and you know, I had similar experience to where this actually so to Elise has meant guys just again so lease is a lease is actually responsible in part for spiritual dope as well I don’t know if I told you that or not it was the interview without What was her name last one you got me in contact with the spiritual

Unknown Speaker 40:41
Oh, Regina Yeah,

Brandon Handley 40:43
so I interviewed Regina for the prosperity practice which in its own right was fucking awesome. I did love it and actually enjoyed it. But I also realized that I was I was kind of, you know, trying to sell the people what they wanted, but then give them what they need. And finally, I was just like, you know what bucket like your friend, right? Like, a much bigger, you know, spirituality, right? our spirits are much bigger than our bodies and it’s self evident. There’s like, you know, recordings of it with just even just with your resonance, right? You talked about also like the mind, mind heart coherence, experience that often, right? And that’s through meditation, but again, like through a number of things, once you recognize how to connect that and resonate that piece, and then you’re like, oh, like, like, all the time like it just like, it’s so great. Anyway, so yeah, so I interviewed her. And I was like, Why? Why am I holding back? kind of the best part of me? The best part of like, what I believe, right? Because here was this, you know, here was this, you know, ex lawyer fucking doing it. Right? And I was like, why am I waiting? Right? For who? Who, who? And then this came all the way back from my first podcast. So anyway, so first podcast was like, who gives me the authority to do this, right? I do. You do. You give yourself the authority to be you, right? You know, to go out and do the things that you know, that you can do that you’re capable of that you’re called to do, right? And that’s what you’re doing now I get to be a witness to seeing you punch through like each layer of that shit, right. And that’s what’s been fun for me to kind of watch you too, because we’ve had I feel like kind of similar experiences in that way be like, like, this is all shit. I’m out of here. This is better, but and it’s not even leveling up. Right? It’s just finding yourself in a different space because even even to a different level of awareness to what already is. Right? It’s just and goes back to your belief system be like, how When do I get to the side? Like, there’s more? Well, there’s a whole universe that is currently yours at your disposal. How do you want to use it? Right? Do you want to use it if you if you again, if you want to use your human self have fun with that. Right? And you’ve experienced that? What do you want to do with your Divine Self? What do you want to do with your universal self? Like what other kind of mindset Can you put yourself into and there’s again, that’s unlimited to

Unknown Speaker 43:16
this is so good. Oh my god. Yes,

Brandon Handley 43:20
yes. Yes. So again, guys, it was Elise who connected me with Regina and then when I connected with Regina, my wife had a friend who was medium as well on channel with me so it was combination of my wife whose childhood friend who she connects me with my grandfather like my closest you know, kind of Anthony in my life and and doing it with Gina and like, it was like the the medium wrote like a coming out letter of like, mediumship, right, like to her family, like I’m coming out of the closet medium type thing. So I was like, I was like, You know what, fuck it I’m coming out of the closet like spirituality and we’re just we’re just gonna go do it and ever since Sinhalese blown up blown blown. I mean, just the doors been blown off the people I’ve connected with, you know, I just interviewed my man here. I released you know, and and that, that was no following intuition. There was a 215 phone number, which is a Philadelphia area phone number. I was like, You’re fucking up here. I’m calling. And I just called. I was like, I was like, I was like, Listen, I was like, I got like, you know, his pm and she was awesome. knew where she lived. We had this great conversation. I was like, I just got to let you know I love this book. I’ve gone through it like four or five times I leave groups on it, yada yada. Would he be open to being on the podcast and she goes, You know what he normally he hates them. But let me see what I can do. That’s so cool. But again, so thank you like this is kind of like a trivia tool, a lease podcast. A lot of a lot, a lot of things because it’s been a lot of fun and without your support. You know, in part, of course, like us, all other all other people that have been a part of the journey, but you’ve been a big part about it. So I thought I’d share that with you.

Elyse Archer 45:11
Thank you. Thank you. Well, any audience? Yeah. And I think to just to see kind of how you’ve, you’ve taken every step of your evolution and turn it into something that’s good for other people. And I think that’s really cool. Because I do think back to when we were first working together, and it was like, how do we sell more of these?

Brandon Handley 45:32
things? Right. But that goes back to what you were saying, like how, you know, there was like, you know, you were selling stuff, and you were doing it where like, there was like integrity issues. And it’s like, yeah, you could sell something. Yeah. Maybe you could overcome some objections. Yeah, you maybe get this person to do this thing. But like, in the end, at what cost to you? And who?

Elyse Archer 45:50
Yes, exactly, exactly. Like, what is it actually all about? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 45:55
Well, so how do you I mean, I think that leads into a really good piece. So So how do you do it now where you’ve got it all tied together, that you feel aligned with what you’re doing.

Elyse Archer 46:04
Um, I just really listened to what, what my body says about what whether it’s working with a particular client, whether it’s launching a program, and I don’t fault myself for changing my mind, either, like I launched something new with the rollout of my new brand that was actually it was based on what a shaman who I follow what he does, or just like a $10, weekly, I drop in, he goes a healing temple. And it’s so much I was like, Oh, we should have that for sales, that would be so much fun. So I did like a $10 weekly drop in sales training. And it’s been, it’s been fun, but it’s like the numbers started off really high. And then they kind of dwindled with the number of women who were coming every week. And I used to go into panic about that. And now it’s like, oh, cool, I’m being divinely guided to transform this into something else. So I’m transforming it into something slightly different a monthly membership, and women are signing up for that really fast. So it’s like, just knowing that it doesn’t have to be perfect. But if I take the, I listen to what I’m being told to do, I take the action, I’m not attached to it being that way forever. And then I just kind of keep receiving that guidance. And that’s how I’ve launched my programs. That’s how I choose which clients to work with. That’s how I chose my brand colors. Like all of it, it’s just all the

Brandon Handley 47:21
colors, by the way. Don’t go gold, white, and red, which are which are all pretty cool. Yeah, I like that too. Like you talked about, like, you know, being able to change like kind of like your your and and, you know, in the business world or be ready to pivot, pivot, pivot. But being able to pivot, right, being able to adjust on the fly is something that I think a lot of people have a challenge with, too. How do you help them to overcome that, like, be like, Oh, I made this decision to do this thing. And I was told to commit. And, man, if I, if I just stick with it, persistence, and yada, yada, yada. So how do you help somebody that’s stuck in that space?

Elyse Archer 48:01
Yeah, cash. And it’s tough to write because we hear self discipline and persistence. And there’s a lot of value. There’s a lot of value to those attributes, in a lot of ways, but I think sometimes we get, you know, you hear like sunk cost theory in business. So I’ve put so much time and energy into this. And we can hold on to something just because of that, just because we already invested a lot of money or a lot of time. And even in our core, if we know it’s no longer the right thing. So again, it comes down to intuition. And so if I’m working with the client, we kind of we look at, okay, if you were, if you were starting this today, would you do the same thing? Like if you were starting from scratch? Would you do the same thing? If the answer is yes, then it’s okay. You probably just need to keep going at it for longer. Like it’s just, it’s keep showing up, keep doing it know that just like you said, with the flower when you plant it, it’s gonna take a hot minute sometimes, and that’s okay. But if you’re being honest, and you wouldn’t do it again, the same way today, or you wouldn’t run this program today, or you wouldn’t. I mean, this is a big one, but you wouldn’t marry this person today. Right? Like, then I’m not counseling people and relationships. So take that for what it’s worth, but you kind of look at, okay, are you attached to this just because you’ve put so much time and energy into it? Or are you attached to it, because it’s actually what you’re meant to be doing. And it just needs a little more time to mature or grow or terminate.

Brandon Handley 49:23
I love that. I love being associated. Again, you know, I’m a big fan of the word grace these days. So give yourself a little grace and let you kind of, you know, let that let that life energy just go ahead and propagate the way that it’s supposed to. Right. And I love though, to that you’re saying you know, if you started today, would you still do this? Right? Because again, we we put all this energy into the sunk cost thing even like, well, the Titanic sinks, it’s sunk, right? Like I mean, fucking let it go. Right? They jump off the boat because it is sunk costs, and it hasn’t accelerated you or gotten you to where you think you should be by Now and if you were to, you know, kind of continue that trajectory, it’s down at this point, right? I love it. I love it. So, what, um, you know, let’s what is a, you know, a hit of spiritual dope for you like, you know what, you know, meditation, I mean, having, you know, maybe looking at your son, you know, what is what is something that, um, that’s just your pure hit a spiritual dope.

Elyse Archer 50:24
I mean, it’s totally hanging out with my son jack now like that’s just to see see the pureness of a little kid and to see how they just just their wholeness and their appearances, and his unfiltered laughter is so much fun. I absolutely love that. And then I think the other thing is just when I can show up and give or do something for somebody else that has nothing to do with me. And that’s actually, when I found myself a couple months ago, like going through some of that Panic of like, Oh, my God, am I doing making the wrong decision or the wrong choice? That’s part of how I would shift out of it is I would be like, What can I do for somebody else right now to get my head out of my ass and focus on what really matters. And that always, to me, that always helps. It’s that quick shift. It’s like, What can I do for someone else, whether it’s write a comment on their social media, whether it’s had a client who wants to book club, I was like, I’m gonna join my clients book club right now. And that’s gonna make him feel good when he looks in his inbox and sees that he’s got a new member. So just stuff like that. Right? It’s, it’s always kind of getting our focus off of ourselves.

Brandon Handley 51:31
I love this. I mean, it doesn’t have to be complex, right? You can go out there and kind of give of yourself and support somebody else in small meaningful ways. And you’re gonna feel better about yourself. Hmm,

Elyse Archer 51:42
yeah. Well, and it’s the whole Have you read the diamond cutter?

Unknown Speaker 51:46
No, I have not, oh, this

Unknown Speaker 51:48
will be a good one. I

Unknown Speaker 51:49
think you’ll be into this.

Elyse Archer 51:50
So the principle behind it is whatever you want for yourself, help someone else get it. So I’ve got my, my mastermind partner. She’s also going for seven figures in her business right now. So one of the things that I’ve done and I told her I was like, This is not entirely altruistic that I want to help you do this. Like, I’m really curious energetically how this works for me.

Brandon Handley 52:11
It’s interesting, though, at least, right? Like, when I started fatherhood, for the rest of us, it wasn’t for the pure reasons. Right? It really wasn’t and I can look back and I can say that right? I’m like, you know, I did this for all the wrong reasons. But I was doing the right things, even if it was for the right reasons, for all reasons. Yeah. And that kind of tilted the whatever right into into always say like, I’m like the Grinch my heart grew to sizes too large or whatever, right? Like it went from being like, you know, this thing to write. So I think that you and I think you know, are you know, when you collect new Java Roman back in the day, I remember him going into, you know, talking about that, right being like, what happens if you do the right things with like, the wrong reasons. Now, I would say and wrong reasons is really kind of hard. You can’t really say it’s for the wrong reasons. You’re really trying to do it for the benefit. Yes, of you. And of them, but like, you know, that kind of shakes off. Just Just for I mean, my experience has been that kind of shakes off like initially, it’s kind of like, I’m doing it mostly for me a little bit. You still feel okay, I’m doing it for like, you know, at least I’m not, you know, at least I’m not calling you an asshole, right? Like, you know, merger. Nobody’s a jerk. I’m doing all these things. And eventually, that it’s just kind of like rust away until like, this purity situation happens where like, that’s just becomes who you are. Right? So there’s really nothing wrong with like, trying on different clothes until you find the pair that fits.

Elyse Archer 53:38
Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. And I think it’s you always know because it’s the energy or doing something and like, how do you feel while you’re doing it? If you feel secretly like, with this, this friend of mine, who I’m helping, I’m just kinda like consulting and helping her for helping her hit seven figures in her business this year. It’s like, the energy that I feel around it when I do it. If I felt jealousy or if I felt scarcity or like, I should be spending the time on my own stuff. exactly what you’re talking about, right, like doing it for the wrong reasons. But I think it’s it’s, you can tell when you feel like whole excited, fulfilled, relaxed while you’re doing it. It’s really different.

Unknown Speaker 54:13
You are at ease. Yes,

Brandon Handley 54:15
you’re at ease and the things are easy. They’re simple. They’re fulfilling. Yeah, right. All right. Super awesome. As always to catch up with you. Unfortunately, we can’t stay on all day. So where can we send people to go find more Elise Archer,

Elyse Archer 54:33
thank you so much for having me. Elise. archer.com has all the things and then on all social media. I’m at Elise Archer. So with love, love, love to connect. I’ve got a podcast, she sells radio so people can check that out. It’s like sales with a healthy dose of spirituality.

Brandon Handley 54:49
Now, who would you say your ideal client is Elise?

Unknown Speaker 54:53
Hmm.

Elyse Archer 54:55
It’s often a younger me. And I’m not saying that in an egotistical way. It’s just I can really help them. A woman because I know

Unknown Speaker 55:00
what’s going on.

Elyse Archer 55:02
So it’s typically going to be a woman who is either a business owner or she’s in sales, she’s looking to break through her first six figures. And it’s like, something’s not quite clicked there. But she’s ready. And she’s probably a little bit turned off by a lot of what she’s being taught from either corporate sales training or from the book she’s reading and it just doesn’t quite feel right to her and she’s like, could I reach my goals in a way that actually feels really good to me and other people and I love helping that type of woman so that’s my ideal client.

Brandon Handley 55:32
awesome guys. Go

check out Lisa’s especially, you know, if you meet that description, I can promise you that, uh, you know, it’ll work out for you. Right? guarantee that, you know, to go through some of the coaching or some of the programs that Elise has offered, they will be valuable to you.

Unknown Speaker 55:48
Thank you, my friend. Thank you. This has been wonderful.

Transcribed by https://otter.ai


Grateful to be able to share this episode out with you, Kohdi is a survivor of liver failure and realizes that there is much more to life than the average human is willing to take a look at… take a listen and let Kohdi know that you heard him here on Spiritual Dope!

Connect with Kohdi: http://kohdirayne.com/

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Synopsis:

Kohdi Rayne… Master of all kinds of marketing  “A Communication Artist”

  • Mantis Program
  • Course Creators Academy (powered by the Mantis Program)
  • Podcast:  The Visceral Human Podcast
  • Hitchhiker’s Guide to Video
  • And more!

Systems in life:

Systems are important. Having structure:

“The way you do one thing is the way you do everything”

  • We are a system 
  • Processes and data intake.
  • Power of choice.

BH: The universe speaks through us. What message do the listeners need to hear from you?

KR: 

  • Surrendering to the moment.
  • Removing judgements.  
  • Just being in THIS moment. 
  • Being one with moment.

KR: Discusses looking into the reflection not at it, realizing “Kohdi you are not wasting time. You’re seriously experiencing the illusion of it.” 

He continues “And so it was that moment today, this morning, that I was so in the moment, in the expression, that I was actually practicing ‘Dynamic Freedom… Those thought are in your head because that’s what you actually want to do. Those are the things that you’re interested in.”

What does this mean? Go. Do the things. There are no restrictions. “Practice this. Get in the moment. Be more in the moment. And that’s why, once again, man (he chuckles) today is the best day of my life, Brother!”

BH mentions a transformational coach he recently interviewed on the business side of things, asking “How do we integrate our spiritual side into our robotic work side?’” She has her clients do the mirror work. Say “I’m here with myself…” BH says to the Spiritual Dope listeners: “Give this a shot.”

KR interjects that he knows about mirror work but he’s never done it. So, he would say “When we feel like we’re doing work–even having that word “work” in there–it already has that connotation that it’s going to be difficult… I don’t like work. I like doing.” He goes on to explain that over the last few months he has been really diving more and more  into who he really is and who he really wants to be. So today it was natural for him, not work. It was just an energetic pull. He looked at the reflection and decided “I’m going to give you a moment of my time.”

BH: “The illusion of time. We feel obligated, like you got to be doing this. You got to be doing that.”

So it sounds to BH that KH is not looking at himself as a unit of production anymore, but as a human being.” (KR agrees, smiling) 

BH: Mentions this reminds him of the Banksy thing “If you want to achieve greatness stop asking for permission.”

KR wonders is this experience he had a coincidence because of the podcast today? “I don’t know. That’s the exciting part about being.”

KR is excited about these types of moments, because he is in a constant state of curiosity and growth. He knows it, he feels it, he repeats it to himself. “I am it. It’s a staple in my being to be in a place of evolution.” He talks about how you surrender. He feels the feelings, he feels the tears well up, he looked at his own smile and took note of it, realizing “I am just being. I’m just one. I feel good. I am excepting these things, and yeah just removing those permissions.” He understands he’s granting the permission to himself but restricting access at the same time, which is a conflict. So, he lets go of the restriction.

BH: “What does it mean to become more of the person you are? Who do you feel like you are?”

KR: “You are your truths. You are what you say you are. So, I mean thoughts.”

BH: “You rise to your level of thinking, so who do you think you are?”

KR: “Right. Right… When you think of ‘Who do you think you are?’ it puts people in a place of contrast, of going ‘Who do I want to be? Who am I comparing myself to?’ There is nobody that’s going to do a better job at being you than you.” For him “I am who I say I am and I am happy.”

BH: “When did you first fully become aware? Do you feel that you’re becoming more aware, and what does that mean to you?”

KR: Over the last two months, being surrounded by like-minded people all working on these things like boundaries, connections, spiritual enlightenment, what he has noticed about self-awareness is “You think you’ve got it, and then you level up. You think you understand it and then you actually understand, and then you feel it, you experience it. It’s a whole different level.”

For him, self-awareness comes down to absolute truth, removing filters and restrictions and being 100% honest. Self-awareness is “literally connecting to as much of your personal truths as possible. It doesn’t matter what the truth is, because you believe it when you are honest with yourself… when you can connect with those things, because of the truths, because of what you’ve told yourself, how you feel about them you are more real with everything and everyone, and more importantly more real with yourself.”

This leads to happiness, success, abundance in amazing ways. “Self-awareness is realizing you are in a place of growth and you don’t know everything. It’s knowing what you like, what you don’t like. Even not knowing what you like and don’t like is still something that you know. So, when you’re in that place of uncertainty then you’re aware of this. It’s looking at these things going ‘I am unsure, I’m confused, or I am really centered and focused on this and [it] feels good to me. I’m going to use this belief to guide my behavior in a positive way… you just ‘do’“.

BH talks about how when you peel back to societal layers and restrictions you realize you were serving all of them, but not really serving yourself. “So how are you applying this to your business? How is your life different, weaving together life practice/spiritual practice?”

KR: “I build a cerebral Super-Suit for entrepreneurs to connect more deeply with their core audience. The reality of that is you’ve got to step into the shoes of your clients, of your customers, of the people you serve. I don’t care if it’s the homeless guy… I don’t care if it’s this, I don’t care what solution you’re providing or what you’re doing in life. When it comes down to really expanding your business it doesn’t come down to the tech. That’s the easy stuff. It doesn’t come down to your sequences and your landing pages and all that stuff that’s easy. Connecting with the people that you serve comes from my place of oneness of understanding of self… the spiritual enlightenment along this journey of personal growth, you’re actually opening yourself to understand and feel and have more compassion for the people that you’re most likely to benefit. More importantly, how they’re going to benefit from you.“

“The stronger you’re connected to yourself, the more likely you’re going to be able to connect to the people that are going to benefit from your products and service.”

BH equates it to tuning yourself like a crystal, a radio dial to your clients, to the people you can serve. 

KR says that clients are really connecting, developing real relationships and friendships, thinking of each other even outside of business hours, etc.. “When you’re in a place of curiosity, in genuine growth, and you recognize that you’re there you listen more, you really don’t have to speak as much. We have one mouth and two ears. We are meant to listen.” He explains that this means that when you do talk your words have more value and impact. 

In relating to clients in the digital space, he’s noticing that “the more self-aware you are, the more connected you are with the universe and how you relate to it and more importantly how it is relating to you. When he writes copy, says words, creates a video and those kind of things he is creating with purpose and positive intent. So, some of the people receiving these things connect with the energy and feels the intent that was present when he wrote it. These are the people that he attracts and why he is having such a great time doing what he does!

BH elucidates that some people give the “like”, the “thumbs up”, but other people really connect and feel the power and the awesomeness. They get where you’re coming from. And maybe the former one day come around more like the latter. That’s why it’s good that people can come back to the content later and connect. He calls that the “Power of influence.” It’s out there and people connect to it right away, while maybe other people come back and find the connection later when the time is right for them on their journey.

KR believes that there is no real original. These thoughts and ideas have all already happened. It’s more about alignment. Being pushed towards or pulled towards something at the right time. 

To harness this, KR has developed a practice of using whiteboard wallpaper and notepads all around the house in areas where he frequently hangs out. Recognizing words, thoughts and things that stand out. Words come up once, twice, at different times. Then he says that later you go back and “connect the dots.” He believes we’re just doodling and brainstorming constantly. When words or people or things that are mentioned come up twice or keep coming up, “Get interested!” It means that you’re being pulled. It’s worth your time to go with these impactful things. Follow up!

  • See it once: It’s got your interest 
  • See it twice: Start to focus 
  • See it a third time: You’re hooked!

KR discusses how our subconscious minds are always very active. “Somewhere along the way, your mind picked up on it and it needs clarity. There’s an open loop somewhere that you’ve got to close.”

KR says that we need to get a bunch of notebooks and “elaborate!”:

  • What happiness and success means to you. 
    • “Define what happiness looks like, smells like, tastes like, feels like.” 
      • When we write it all and get clarity, that is programming. So we’ll be looking out for it. 

BH asks Kohdi to discuss when he started getting into the whole “programming thing”

KR discusses being a liver failure survivor. When you’re on your deathbed, surrendering to the universe, why justify the things that got your to that point? It makes no sense. Instead reevaluate. It’s an opportunity to be “a whole new me.” He calls it “Self-auditing”.

When you start thing about happiness and success and you’re telling yourself “No that’s not going to work. Whoa! Whoa! I just told me ‘no.’ WTF?!? And I believed that? What just happened? I just shut myself down. I can do anything, and I said ‘no’ to me?! Why is that a thing? I can do it. I am doing it. It’s happening. Go!… You’re developing healthy thought patterns. ‘I can…’ ‘I can’t..’ NO! It just is.

Yes!’ Well then, I’m going to keep doing those things.” Practicing these healthy behaviors and habits, the repetition creates the neurological connections.

BH discusses how there are people that aren’t dying, or that have a safe life. “How do we get people to recognize they’ve got these patterns that aren’t serving them, even though they’ve got ‘a good or safe life’?”

KR says that you’ve got to ask them, “Is this familiar to you? Is this what you do? Is this your thing? Okay. Have you done anything else? Have you tried anything else?… If you keep doing the same things you get the same exact results… If we keep living in a place of familiarity and comfort, we are never gonna get comfortable with being uncomfortable and we’re never gonna grow. Is this as good as it gets? Is this how you want it to be? Is this what you really want? Seriously. Ask yourself this question: Is this what I really want? Is this how I really want to feel? If I can relive this, my state of being [until] the end of my existence, is that good enough for me? Can I achieve more? Goodness! Is this how you really want it to be?” 

He goes on to say, “Nine times out of ten it’s ’NO!’ Even in a healthy place,” and, “if I get complacent here, I get no more results. I have to keep on growing.”

BH asks: “what are some other things that you would hit on in this space that you would share with anybody… in terms of leading with spirituality?”

KR: Discusses moving past the closed-mindedness and doing things like being open-minded. This led him to begin “posting with purpose,” and things begin to perfectly align or line up to fall into place where someone received that post and the intention behind it, which ultimately led to him landing in Texas and experiencing more growth than ever before.“

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  • user avatarbrandon handley00:08All right. Very cool.
  • 00:10Very cool. Well, they’ll start it off in 54321 Hey there, spiritual dope. I’m on today with Kohdi Rayne is like he’s a master of all kinds of marketing. He’s got the Mantis programs got this podcast Visceral Human
  • 00:27He has a course creators Academy that’s powered by the mantas program you’re looking to get into video
  • 00:33Code is your guy, he’s got the Hitchhiker’s Guide to video. He’s got so much other he’s got so much going on. I personally kind of wonder like how you keep it all together. But you know, it’s obvious to me that you’ve got a system of implementation.
  • 00:46And you just kind of rock it out because you do have your systems in place, but man, thanks for joining us today. How you doing,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program00:52Hey, thank you so much brother is such a pleasure to be here. Yeah. Man systems in life so many things that we, I love that you talk about systems because we are a system.
  • 01:04We are a series of processes that are constantly executing. We’re taking a new devil data developing it, we are processing that data, making decisions utilizing our power of choice and for me.
  • 01:17My brain has been really scattered my whole life, because we’ll just say ADHD and all these other random things. And so for me, systems and all that stuff is very, very, I don’t want to say it’s necessary, but it is important.
  • 01:31And so for me, kind of having that structure is, you know, the one way you do one thing is what you do everything so
  • 01:39I structure my life.
  • 01:40And that reflects in my business man. So with that, yeah, I got a lot going down constantly emotion constantly thinking about the things that a lot of people tend to ignore.
  • 01:50And I appreciate you for having me, man. Today is the best day of my life and I’m so excited. I get to share it with you.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:55Now, man. Thank you. Thank you. I appreciate that. I always tell people I’ve waited my entire life for this moment right
  • 02:01Right.
  • 02:01I mean, because here we are. I mean we everything’s everything’s built up to this moment.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program02:04Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley02:05As far as we know, right up until now.
  • 02:07So, so, you know, I think you started off with something pretty well there and and i think it would tie into this piece, but I’m gonna go ahead and ask this piece anyways because it may may hit you differently, right. So,
  • 02:19We, we agree, like the kind of universe speaks through us. Right. And that like when somebody listens to this podcast. It’s gonna
  • 02:26They’re gonna hear something that you and I didn’t even hear right in between our dial. I think like that these guys, this is what they’re talking about. Oh my god. So to that person through you today. What, what message do they need to hear me to the universe.
  • 02:42The universe, Dorian,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program02:43Hey, yo. Gotcha. Man, if I was to speak to anybody. My message to
  • 02:48Everyone at all times. It is, isn’t it, it is oneness to what happens when I’m sorry what’s most important is what’s happening right this very second right this second.
  • 03:03In a perfect kind of will say execution of that or example is I woke up today.
  • 03:08And pleasure to be here right woke up. It’s amazing. And for whatever reason, had a song stuck in my head. I don’t remember my dreams or anything, per se, but I do remember waking up with a feeling
  • 03:19But then I also remember kind of surrendering to the thoughts and then I put on some music wasn’t sure what was going to play and that first song just
  • 03:26Just hit man, it means so well you know when music hits you, that you don’t feel any pain.
  • 03:33And so it hit me really hard and I had to kind of surrender to the moment and allow myself to remove judgment to remove you know will say the permissions. I might be asking for to express myself.
  • 03:48And I just stood in the middle of the room in his eyes closed and just listen to this song and try to express myself, honestly.
  • 03:57And I’m just in a moment. Man, am I thinking about what’s going on for the rest of day. I’m not worried about what happened to me. I’m not worried about the projects and backlogs and clients and business. None of that stuff.
  • 04:09I’m seriously just being one with the moments just looking at it, breathing filling my heart rate feeling this my skin. The breeze from the fan above me.
  • 04:20And I’m just in the moment and I went to the mirror. I looked at myself and for whatever reason, I looked at myself a little bit longer than normal. It’s one thing to recognize yourself.
  • 04:31To experience your reflection. But for me, I felt like I was looking into a whole nother world but connecting at the same time. And I realized that Cody, you’re not wasting time. You’re seriously experiencing the illusion of it.
  • 04:48And so it was that moment the today this morning that I was so in the moments in the expression. I was actually practicing dynamic freedom.
  • 05:02My ability to do anything and being honest and real with who I am today right is second. And I’m thinking about these things. And I realized
  • 05:13Cody, those, those thoughts are in your head, because that’s what you actually want to do. Those are the things that you’re interested in.
  • 05:18Go outside man do these things. There’s no restrictions practices, man. Get in the moment be more in the moment. And that’s why once again today is the best day of my life, brother.
  • user avatarbrandon handley05:31I love that I actually, I interviewed a you know a transformational coach last night. She’s been been at the work for quite some time. And one of the first pieces that she has somebody do
  • 05:44You know she she she coaches, people who are on the business side and how and this podcast is related to this, right. Like, how, how do we integrate our spiritual self all of who we are into
  • 05:56Our business mechanical self right like this robot and, you know, checking off the boxes piece. And one of the things that she hasn’t do is just what you said there, which is to do the mirror work.
  • 06:07Right. Look at the mirror and say I am here with myself. I am here with myself. Right. So, I love, I love that you’re doing that and, you know, to, to others that are listening and I totally. I think that that’s something you should give yourself a shot to right I would
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program06:21Like to express this on that notes.
  • 06:24Sure know about mirror work.
  • 06:26I’ve never done it. And so I will say this man when we feel like we’re doing work.
  • 06:33Like me we’re work even having that word work and
  • user avatarbrandon handley06:37Sure, sure.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program06:37Already has that connotation, or like it’s gonna be
  • 06:40It’s gonna be difficult. I don’t like work right.
  • 06:42Like doing. And so for me today. It’s once again. It wasn’t like I was out to study myself. I was just in a place
  • 06:51Over the last few months, man. I’ve been developing and constantly evolving to be more and more and more of the person that I really am and more of the person that I actually want to be
  • 07:03And so today, it was a natural thing that happened. It wasn’t like, Hey, I’m working on myself do this. What do you notice it just, I just felt like an energy line. It just kind of pulled me there. I actually caught my own reflection and I was like, I’m going to give you a moment of my time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:22Now hundred percent
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:16He has a course creators Academy that’s powered by the mantas program you’re looking to get into video
  • 00:22Code is your guy, he’s got the Hitchhiker’s Guide to video. He’s got so much other he’s got so much going on. I personally kind of wonder like how you keep it all together. But you know, it’s obvious to me that you’ve got a system of implementation.
  • 00:35And you just kind of rock it out because you do have your systems in place, but man, thanks for joining us today. How you doing,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program00:41Hey, thank you so much brother is such a pleasure to be here. Yeah. Man systems in life so many things that we, I love that you talk about systems because we are a system.
  • 00:53We are a series of processes that are constantly executing. We’re taking a new devil data developing it, we are processing that data, making decisions utilizing our power of choice and for me.
  • 01:06My brain has been really scattered my whole life, because we’ll just say ADHD and all these other random things. And so for me, systems and all that stuff is very, very, I don’t want to say it’s necessary, but it is important.
  • 01:20And so for me, kind of having that structure is, you know, the one way you do one thing is what you do everything so
  • 01:28I structure my life.
  • 01:29And that reflects in my business man. So with that, yeah, I got a lot going down constantly emotion constantly thinking about the things that a lot of people tend to ignore.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:44Now, man. Thank you. Thank you. I appreciate that. I always tell people I’ve waited my entire life for this moment right
  • 01:50Right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program01:53Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:54As far as we know, right up until now.
  • 01:56So, so, you know, I think you started off with something pretty well there and and i think it would tie into this piece, but I’m gonna go ahead and ask this piece anyways because it may may hit you differently, right. So,
  • 02:08We, we agree, like the kind of universe speaks through us. Right. And that like when somebody listens to this podcast. It’s gonna
  • 02:15They’re gonna hear something that you and I didn’t even hear right in between our dial. I think like that these guys, this is what they’re talking about. Oh my god. So to that person through you today. What, what message do they need to hear me to the universe.
  • 02:31The universe, Dorian,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program02:32Hey, yo. Gotcha. Man, if I was to speak to anybody. My message to
  • 02:37Everyone at all times. It is, isn’t it, it is oneness to what happens when I’m sorry what’s most important is what’s happening right this very second right this second.
  • 02:52In a perfect kind of will say execution of that or example is I woke up today.
  • 02:57And pleasure to be here right woke up. It’s amazing. And for whatever reason, had a song stuck in my head. I don’t remember my dreams or anything, per se, but I do remember waking up with a feeling
  • 03:15Just hit man, it means so well you know when music hits you, that you don’t feel any pain.
  • 03:22And so it hit me really hard and I had to kind of surrender to the moment and allow myself to remove judgment to remove you know will say the permissions. I might be asking for to express myself.
  • 03:37And I just stood in the middle of the room in his eyes closed and just listen to this song and try to express myself, honestly.
  • 03:46And I’m just in a moment. Man, am I thinking about what’s going on for the rest of day. I’m not worried about what happened to me. I’m not worried about the projects and backlogs and clients and business. None of that stuff.
  • 03:58I’m seriously just being one with the moments just looking at it, breathing filling my heart rate feeling this my skin. The breeze from the fan above me.
  • 04:37And so it was that moment the today this morning that I was so in the moments in the expression. I was actually practicing dynamic freedom.
  • 04:51My ability to do anything and being honest and real with who I am today right is second. And I’m thinking about these things. And I realized
  • 05:07Go outside man do these things. There’s no restrictions practices, man. Get in the moment be more in the moment. And that’s why once again today is the best day of my life, brother.
  • user avatarbrandon handley05:20I love that I actually, I interviewed a you know a transformational coach last night. She’s been been at the work for quite some time. And one of the first pieces that she has somebody do
  • 05:33You know she she she coaches, people who are on the business side and how and this podcast is related to this, right. Like, how, how do we integrate our spiritual self all of who we are into
  • 05:45Our business mechanical self right like this robot and, you know, checking off the boxes piece. And one of the things that she hasn’t do is just what you said there, which is to do the mirror work.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program06:10Like to express this on that notes.
  • 06:13Sure know about mirror work.
  • 06:15I’ve never done it. And so I will say this man when we feel like we’re doing work.
  • 06:22Like me we’re work even having that word work and
  • user avatarbrandon handley06:26Sure, sure.
  • 06:29It’s gonna be difficult. I don’t like work right.
  • 06:31Like doing. And so for me today. It’s once again. It wasn’t like I was out to study myself. I was just in a place
  • 06:52And so today, it was a natural thing that happened. It wasn’t like, Hey, I’m working on myself do this. What do you notice it just, I just felt like an energy line. It just kind of pulled me there. I actually caught my own reflection and I was like, I’m going to give you a moment of my time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:11Now hundred percent
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program07:11Really interesting to think about
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:14Now, I love, I love it. I mean, you also you also hit on to you know to experiencing the illusion of time right where you were, you were talking about.
  • 07:31You’re looking at yourself as a human.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program07:33Being right
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:35Right, right, right.
  • 07:37And I also love to, you know, you talked about, you know, the permission for greatness. It makes me think of that Banksy one right. The thing you know and it goes, you know, stop asking for, you know, stop asking for permission to be great.
  • 07:46You know, for greatness and yeah
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program07:49It’s amazing how that works.
  • 07:50I realized today. And today, maybe is it, is it a coincidence. Is it meant to be that I have this this experience today before we had a chance to speak. I don’t know, man, that’s the exciting part about being
  • 08:05Right, I’m excited for those moments. I’m really excited to explore them. More importantly, I’m excited for the experience
  • 08:12Because I’m in a constant state of curiosity. I’m a constant state of growth and I know this, I repeat it to myself, and I know it. I feel I am it’s it’s a staple in my being.
  • 08:23Is to be in a place of evolution. And then when you surrender. A lot of times people go surrender means you got to give up. No.
  • 08:31You have to allow these emotions to set in. I remember feeling it. Tears welled up. I looked at my smile. And I was like, how I’m smiling right now.
  • 08:39Hold. I’m just being I’m just one. I just feel good. I’m accepting these things and yeah just removing those permissions when you go, man. You’re the one granting permission but you’re also restricting access at the same time.
  • 08:55Yeah, it’s conflicting so today I was on that part where I recognized my restriction and I just let that let that down for a little bit so I can just be
  • user avatarbrandon handley09:04I love it, I love it. You talked about like a, you know, awareness and becoming more of who you are right. Let’s talk about that. What does that mean, you know, becoming more aware of the person of who I am. So who do you know, who do you feel like you are
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program09:19You are your truths.
  • user avatarbrandon handley09:21You are what you say.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program09:22You are
  • user avatarbrandon handley09:23Okay, so, I mean,
  • 09:25Right, right.
  • 09:25I mean, so I mean what, what does that mean to you, right. Like I always, I think that when we were talking. I’m not sure if I hit, hit on this or not when you have me on. And thanks for having me on. It was a
  • 09:34Great One
  • 09:35Um, you rise to your level of thinking
  • 09:38Right, right.
  • 09:39So who do you think you are right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program09:42Right. That makes sense. Well, when you think of who you think you are, it puts people in a place of contrast of going, who, who do I want to be my comparing myself to
  • 09:52There is nobody that’s going to do a better job at being you than you and if someone can be a better version of you. Then you’ve got some real work.
  • 10:01Some people are there.
  • 10:02Right. But who am I right, I am what I say I am I’m happy.
  • 10:07Yeah, that’s as simple as I could possibly put it, who I am is also what I am is where I am, as well.
  • 10:15When are you
  • 10:16I’m happening in. Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley10:17Sorry.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program10:18I’m in a place of happy, you know,
  • user avatarbrandon handley10:19Right. That’s a state of being right like a state. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I love it. And you have a great question on your podcast and almost, you know, I think that I’m gonna steal it today for you.
  • 10:30The, you know, and you said you hadn’t had the state of awareness yet, right, like, and when did you first fully become aware
  • 10:36Right. Do you feel like you’re becoming more aware and, you know, what does that, you know,
  • 10:40What’s that mean to you was me to become aware
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program10:43That level of awareness. I’ve noticed that I’ll say over the past two months, right, because I’ve been surrounded by the most amazing people.
  • 10:53Were all practicing boundaries and communication and connection and actual spiritual enlightenment on a day to day what I’ve noticed about self awareness is you think you got it and then you level up.
  • 11:05Think you understand it and then you actually understand it and then you feel it, you experience it.
  • 11:12It’s a whole different level self awareness for me is coming down to, and I’m going to repeat this absolute truth.
  • 11:21It’s not this is what I’m going to say because it’s going to sound good, or I don’t want to hurt your feelings or I don’t want to say this, I’m it’s removing those restrictions and being like, Man, I don’t like that it’s being able to go. That’s for me, that isn’t for me.
  • 11:35That’s a yes for me that’s a note to know your level of self awareness stems from not looking at your reflection and going this is two separate entities and I’m connecting and I’m self aware, because I can make choices.
  • 11:49It’s literally connecting to as much of your personal truths as possible. It doesn’t matter what the truth is because you believe it.
  • 12:00When you’re honest with yourself and you’re going, I like that. But that’s not my thing. I love that because it does this for me. I really enjoy this.
  • 12:11When you can connect with those things because of the truth because of what you’ve told yourself how you feel about them.
  • 12:18You are more real with everything and everyone. And more importantly, more real with yourself.
  • 12:25And you only do the things that can contribute to your progress through life, your happiness, man. Your success and abundance. It’s amazing. So self awareness is first off, recognizing that you’re in a place of growth and you don’t know everything.
  • user avatarbrandon handley12:40Right, right, right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program12:42It’s knowing what you like what you don’t like even not knowing what you like and don’t like is still something that, you know,
  • 12:49So when you’re in that place of uncertainty, then you’re aware of this, it’s looking at these things going. I’m unsure. I’m confused or
  • 12:59I am really centered and focused on this and feels good to me. I’m going to use this belief to guide my behavior in a positive way. So being self aware man is is really just, I’ll say complete self awareness is not having to think about this stuff ever you just do
  • user avatarbrandon handley13:18That yeah well I absolutely i mean but i mean i think that you know some of this stuff is a
  • 13:25You gotta peel back to, you know, societal layers, right, that have kind of been been you know enforced on you right, you’re like, Wait a second. All the stuff that I’ve been taught up into this moment.
  • 13:37It was serving those people
  • 13:39You know, but not necessarily me. It was serving this function, but not my function of growth right type of thing.
  • 13:46So now, and I love it. Right. So let’s talk about like how are you applying some of this to your business man like I mean how the other question is like how could you not, but like, you know,
  • 13:57How do you not, but like, how does, how does this, like, you know, like I talked about earlier, you talked about like the robotic guy that you know shows up and just
  • 14:05Eight. And, you know, nine to five or whatever, you know, how is your life different because of this call it a spiritual practice right of your life practice and weaving those together. Talk about that so
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program14:17What I do is build this cerebral super suit for entrepreneurs to connect more deeply with their core audience.
  • 14:24The reality with that is you got to step into the shoes of your clients of your customers of the people you serve.
  • 14:32I don’t care if it’s the homeless guy. I don’t care if it’s this. I don’t care what solution you’re providing or what you’re doing in life.
  • 14:38When it comes down to really expanding your business. It doesn’t come down to the tech, that’s the easy stuff. It doesn’t come down to your sequences and your landing pages, all that stuff that’s easy connecting with the people that you serve.
  • 14:56comes from a place of oneness.
  • 14:59Of understanding of self. So along the spiritual enlightenment along this journey of personal growth. You’re actually opening yourself to understand and feel and have more compassion.
  • 15:12For the people that you’re most likely to benefit. More importantly, how they’re going to benefit from you.
  • 15:19So for me, I look at oneness and connection that is missing. Now I look at where I’m at. I’m paying attention to how I feel what I’m thinking.
  • 15:29I’m going to state of curiosity. So I’m wondering why that’s all that’s coming in. I’m going to state of health. So I’m changing the foods have it seen how it affects my body. I’m getting rid of things that don’t serve my journey.
  • 15:41And do not serve my focus
  • 15:43And don’t really deserve my intention. So when I personally develop as a human being and become more of a human doing
  • 15:53I am putting myself to in a place to thoroughly connect to everyone that I’ll be serving which helps me
  • 16:01Develop better wording in my copy when I’m writing an email. It helps me reach out to better people. It helps me attract better clients.
  • 16:07It helps me build better websites helps me build stronger teams, it puts you in a place of connection to who they are in their core. So, the stronger, more
  • 16:21Will stay connected you are to yourself, the more likely you’re going to be able to connect to the people that are going to benefit from your product and service.
  • user avatarbrandon handley16:28Now, I love it, I love it. So, I mean, what I’m hearing in there. Those like you know you determine kind of
  • 16:34How you love yourself and and what serving you. Right, letting go. The things that don’t deserve your attention. I love that line, you know, you’re going in with your journey and you know be being able to write better copy do better marketing. You’re in my mind.
  • 16:51You’re tuning yourself. You know, like a crystal tuning. Right. You know, like a radio dial.
  • 16:57To your clients to the people who you can serve. You’re like, this is, this is what I’m transmit this is what I’m good at this is what I love to do this is if I was working with you. Oh my god, I would serve you so hard.
  • 17:08Right.
  • 17:09Space, right, like I’m and like you know you’re going to be blown away by what I give you, because
  • 17:14You’re you you tuned in. Not only did you tuned in. But you to deal with, like, an amplifier on your side you turned it up, you’re like,
  • 17:20What’s up,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program17:21Yeah, it’s amazing. And lately. My clients have been going. They’ve been they’ve been reaching out to me personally.
  • 17:27Outside of like business hours, which is the best feeling ever because now we are connected, we are comfortable
  • 17:33We are really considering each other. We’re thinking about each other outside of business hours and it’s more of a real relationship and a friendship went up.
  • 17:42And what I have noticed is especially over the last couple months is when you are in a place of curiosity and genuine growth and you recognize that you’re there.
  • 17:52You listen more you really, you don’t have to speak as much, actually there’s a reason why we have one mouth and two ears.
  • 18:00were meant to listen and when we listen to people when you deliver what you actually want to say or how you can contribute
  • 18:09Every word that you say has more impact and more value. Now when it comes to connecting with your clients, how it relates to people in a digital space.
  • 18:18I’m telling you this man, the more self aware you are the more connected you are with the universe and how you relate to it. More importantly, how it is relating to you.
  • 18:29When you write your copy. When you say these words when you create that video when you do those things. You’re literally creating with purpose and positive intent.
  • 18:40There are times when I will release something, and I’ll type it out and I’ll put it up into the digital space.
  • 18:47And it will be the same exact words no difference. Everyone’s interpreting it differently from their own level of perception, their mind state.
  • 18:56The people that I love working with are the ones that feel the intent behind the message and pick up on the energy when I wrote it and they feel it speaks to them. And those are the people that I attract. This is why I have such a great time doing what I do.
  • user avatarbrandon handley19:12Now, I love it, I love it. So it’s so funny, you brought up purpose and intent because you know I was gonna ask you about that right how to, you know,
  • 19:17We do deliver that message and just like you said, the people that there’s there’s going to be the one set of people that you know just give you a thumbs up or like or be like, you know, Hey, that was cool.
  • 19:27And then there’s going to be the other set of people that are gonna be like wow that was, that was awesome. That was powerful. Right.
  • 19:32And they get, they get kind of where you’re coming from on that and it’s a totally
  • 19:37That the two different groups, but that doesn’t. And what I think I like about that too is that, you know,
  • 19:43The group that doesn’t get it today doesn’t mean they won’t get it tomorrow or see it like you know a little bit later down the road, and they’re going to go back to your content and they’re gonna be like, I didn’t, I didn’t even realize you were into all this shit.
  • 19:55Right. Yeah. Yeah. And because because you can. It’s funny.
  • 19:59I do that without so my own my own my own stuff. Right. Like, why go and I’ll look at other people’s content, who I follow it earlier, but I wasn’t at my
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program20:09This mind state. Yeah.
  • 20:10You go into through a different lens.
  • user avatarbrandon handley20:12And I’ve got a new job or I have a whole brand new lens right whole whole new lens on like, Where have you been,
  • 20:20I never even saw
  • 20:22And so it’s really interesting that the content that you put out
  • 20:27People
  • 20:28Come back and take a look later and it’ll
  • 20:30It’ll be fresh to them.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program20:31I 100% and I was just talking about this yesterday. And the reality is to put the content out. We have to realize there’s entire generations of people that are moving through going to go to catch up to us.
  • 20:42We could be saying the perfect thing right now to people that don’t even exist yet.
  • 20:47Like
  • 20:48What we put out there is really important. And you think of your overall vibe, man. So as people become more connected and understand
  • 20:55Their power of influence and how we are influenced and just the decisions that they make.
  • 21:00Man, they meet someone may go, Man, I want to create a podcast called spiritual dope. I wonder if that’s even a thing could click there’s
  • 21:09There is, oh my god, they’re talking about all the things I didn’t even know it was an idea was connected. I felt it. I mean, I took an action and this is everything I’m looking for and you spark an entire movement, based on your idea man.
  • user avatarbrandon handley21:23Simple thought simple action. Right. It’s just, it’s just a matter of taking that action. What’s funny. I mean, it’s funny you say that though I did prosperity practice before spiritual dope and
  • 21:34Somebody else I spun up prosperity practice like afterwards, after the fact. Like I reached out to her. I was like, I was like, wow, you’re doing like the exact same thing I’m doing. I was just like,
  • 21:43So it’s really interesting. I’m not sure if you’ve ever seen like some of those videos or, you know, I forget, like, you know, let’s talk about Tesla or being connected to the Akashic Record right or
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program21:52Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley21:53Hello, say like two thoughts happen at the same time, like
  • 21:56Different receivers. Right, so you’ll receive thought somebody else or received thought only one person X on it though, or maybe both people act on it the same time.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program22:04Right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley22:05And it’s not until like later that they converge and and you know you see it show up. So
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program22:10That when I remember saying
  • 22:12interprets that differently. I really never there’s no such thing as original I always say this every thoughts already been funk. Like, what are the chances of you thinking of a sentence or something or whatever.
  • 22:22As someone else hasn’t already done that you’re picking up on something somewhere actually look at that as alignment.
  • 22:29If you’re having this thought and it’s moving you. That means you may actually be being pushed her poles.
  • 22:34Pulled in that direction.
  • 22:35Hundred percent old yeah
  • user avatarbrandon handley22:36Yeah. So when we talked, right. We talked about the, the, the idea of everything’s already been created. It’s just a job. What’s your awareness of it right and it’s funny that because you talked about the losing time right the future now and the past are all here right now.
  • 22:52Right, so
  • 22:53You’ve got the, you know, we’ll call it the multiverse, right. We’ve got your, your quantum entanglement kind of guy.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program22:58So, yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley22:59You know you can sit there and you can think for a second, you’re like, All right, well, if I make this direction, kind of like a Sherlock Holmes type you know movie right like if I go this direction. This is what will happen right
  • 23:07Right. Or in my case, it’s like, you know, the, the, the Green Hornet with like Seth right and he’s like sitting there thinking, and he looks like he’s gone. Fast as mine is really going five minutes. Anyways, the deal is like
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program23:16I get it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley23:17You got like all these slices of possible universes, each one of those each thought that you just had they all just happened.
  • 23:24Yeah. He’s one of those things happen.
  • 23:26Right, and it’s happening right now. So, I mean,
  • 23:28Whichever one you kind of lock into and tune into that’s the one is pointing forward.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program23:33Right, the one that you’re going to resent so
  • 23:34I’ll give everybody a practice right now. I’ve been doing this.
  • 23:37I’ve whiteboards all over the house Ivan. What do you walk into every door. There’s a small whiteboard and it’s it’s whiteboard wallpaper. So I put it on the things that I
  • 23:46Hang out around most often. And so what I’ve been doing is recognizing words. Okay. There’s a reason why words stand out to you. So Brendan, I see writing stuff down rather just like this, man. I got notepads and notepads
  • 24:02All this is not just client notes. These are thoughts.
  • 24:04These are things that are standing out to me if I here at once and it gets my attention. It means pay attention if it gets my attention twice. It means focus on that it’s get detailed with it. So you’ll see random words written all around the house. It’d be like proximity
  • 24:22Right, right. I was Moses.
  • 24:24And then it’s just random things and then later I’ll go back and connect the dots. Our oneness is
  • 24:30We’re, we’re basically it’s inevitable that we’re going to grow based on our environment or as Moses and our proximity to people who are at a higher state of consciousness.
  • 24:38That creates this infinite loop which connects that we’re just just doodling manages everything is just total
  • 24:47Brainstorming so if you if it gets your attention once pay attention if it gets your attention twice focus on that. There’s a reason why you are being pulled towards that.
  • 24:58Get, get close to whatever that where it is, whatever that thing is if that person if they mentioned somebody towards two people on two separate days mentioned the same person get interested
  • 25:09Yeah, that means that person or that thing is leaving an impact. And it’s worth your time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley25:14Sure. I mean, the person’s calling out to you right
  • 25:16If they got what they’ve got like something something they’ve got is really, it’s meaningful for you so
  • 25:21You know, follow up on that, I love that. Thanks for sharing that. So, one more time. So if it’s, you know, if you, if you see it like once you get your interest rate.
  • 25:30See it twice, you know, focusing on that, like, you know,
  • 25:33And then the third time, like, I mean you you’re hooked right like you shouldn’t be.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program25:36You, you are the third time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley25:39Right on.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program25:39If it gets your attention. Twice I say this because if we continue to go Wait I need three times right to is the coincidence three is a staple
  • 25:50Rather, if a guy your attention to times. Why are you paying attention. Why is is getting your attention, two times. First off, you could have been thinking everything you could have been doing anything.
  • 26:00It literally stopped you in thought and got your attention. It’s there for a reason, our subconscious is very active at that
  • 26:09Moment. And so there’s the zoo, there’s something you want to get from it. There’s something you want to define might be something you just want to explore for understanding but somewhere along the way your mind picked up on something and it needs clarity. There’s an open loop somewhere.
  • 26:25Yeah, gotta close this.
  • user avatarbrandon handley26:27For sure, for sure. And I love that you know programmatic reference right if you’ve got an open loop. It just keeps going and going and going and going and going until, like, you know, there’s some type of closure. Right.
  • 26:38Or control see right
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program26:39You know, just, yeah. Stop, stop at
  • user avatarbrandon handley26:42The so um you brought up something really cool that I really enjoy too is like the idea of the subconscious always being on the lookout for what you’re on the lookout for you.
  • 26:52Programmatically said you set a filter, right, these things are popping up because you set a filter for that. Right. You said you said all right.
  • 27:00Hey, yo, I’m really interested in something like you know give what is something that you’re interested in, you know, proximity osmosis where you know and and so now you’ve got your, your mind and subconscious filter on that. Like for me right now I’ve got divine and divinity. Right.
  • 27:17That’s my thing.
  • 27:18Right. I’ve got a divine framework set up as my next course right so
  • 27:22Anytime somebody says divine. I’m like,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program27:24Yeah, it’s
  • user avatarbrandon handley27:25Over there. Amen. Amen. I’m like, What are you saying
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program27:27What do you got the coolest part that so you you look at your mind if we open with this as system.
  • 27:33A series of processes hundred
  • 27:34Percent computers and quantum tech and all that stuff. The quantum computing, man. It’s just algorithms. It’s going into this than that. If that doesn’t this
  • 27:43You’re just computing data.
  • 27:45So when you program your mind, based on your intent. This is why I always say define what happiness looks like smells like tastes like feels like
  • 27:56Get like get just seriously go to Amazon buy a bunch of notepads for like six books in just elaborate on what happiness and success looks like to you. Yeah.
  • 28:07Do it right, right, right, right. You’re only going to spend like a half hour doing this thing. It’s nothing in the illusion of time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley28:14Well, I caught the the
  • 28:16Real quick, real quick. So I mean, would you would you make them write it down or type it out.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program28:21Does it matter personally
  • 28:23I’m into writing
  • 28:25Okay, now
  • 28:26Now, and I. The reason why is because of the time it takes for me to write it out. If I still commit to that thought. By the end of the sentence, and I still feel good about it.
  • 28:36And it’s an actual thought
  • 28:38If in mid sentence. I’m like, this isn’t my thing, then it’s just a thought. It’s just something that popped in here. Probably for contrast
  • 28:45And so when I write it down. I’ll say this, there hasn’t been a single person that I know that is working on themselves. That isn’t writing stuff down
  • 28:54Hasn’t been writing a book isn’t journaling isn’t doing any of this man this is pages I just naturally picked it up. I don’t necessarily enjoy writing
  • 29:04But I realized that for me to be honest and express myself. I need to write these things down and go back and label them right
  • 29:13These are all these are all staples in my, in my future, man.
  • user avatarbrandon handley29:16Now, I love it. I call it
  • 29:18I call it looking at last.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program29:19Thought the programming brother, when we do this when we write all that stuff down or type it out.
  • 29:26Now we get clarity. We’re programming our subconscious to look for that. So when we are in a podcast and say, I got a big window right here. And if I was looking for a motorcycle motorcycles make me feel happy.
  • 29:40Anything that’s going to get my attention that may resemble a motorcycle. I’m gonna, it’s going to get my attention. Oh, is it. No, it’s not. It’s like somebody you’re waiting to arrive. Is that damn is at them.
  • 29:51Right. Your subconscious is going to constantly go out and look for
  • 29:55All the things that satisfy your happiness make you feel successful make you feel to find find divinity, all of those things, man. So programming is really important, but only if it’s healthy.
  • user avatarbrandon handley30:07Well, I mean, I think that, uh, you know, healthy, healthy is also subjective right initially. And I think that even if you begin to
  • 30:18Just even understand the dynamic of what you’re talking about like the programming right set yourself up, you make that choice consciously to be programming yourself. Yeah, right. Because up until up until that point. I mean, I’d love to hear when you realize that
  • 30:34You needed to program yourself.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program30:37Yeah, well I was, you know, my story. Man, I’m a liver failure survivor.
  • 30:43Like I was on my deathbed, and I know what it’s like for your body to start dying and have to sign away your life surrender to the universe.
  • 30:51I don’t know what’s happening on it was going on, but all of the decisions every single thought that I’ve had to that point has led me to my deathbed. Yeah.
  • 31:00And I’m still defending that for some reason, like why am I defending being here. I’m justifying my death. Oh, I lived a good life. I’m doing. Are you serious, I haven’t even tried yet I’m 32 at this point on my deathbed, and I’m trying to justify that I lived a long good life.
  • 31:18And I was just meant. That’s ridiculous, man. So when I get in. When I start recovering I’m realizing all these thoughts and it wasn’t until I started debating my environment.
  • 31:29I’m not in that scene. Am I surrounded by those people am I doing those things am I interested in that stuff. I don’t think those thoughts. Why am I still the same person.
  • 31:38Hmm. Why am I still the same guy before I died. This is a whole new me
  • 31:46Right.
  • 31:46But is it really a whole new me, this is, this is just me.
  • 31:51With a new opportunity. So who do I want to be. And then as I call this self auditing.
  • 31:57Then you start to realize where your brain starts to go, you start thinking about happiness and success and these these other things that you want to accomplish.
  • 32:03And then you start recognizing now that’s not gonna work. Whoa. I just told me know what the
  • 32:11And I believe that what happened. I just shut myself down. I can do anything. And I said no to me. Why is that a thing. Okay, I can do it.
  • 32:24I am doing it. It’s happening go okay and then that thought comes in again. No, no, we’re doing this. It’s happening. Got it. Go, then it starts to be less and less. And then I’m starting to realize that I have just created a healthy thought pattern.
  • 32:40When it comes to can or cannot there. Is it just is man, you just, are you doing it.
  • 32:45Are you focusing on your happiness. Yes, well then I’m gonna keep doing those things are you building your business. Yeah, I’m gonna keep doing that thing.
  • 32:52I am giving myself permission, I get really good at doing that and anybody can develop healthy habits healthy thought patterns, they can easily reprogram themselves.
  • 33:02From an actual neurological standpoint, we need at least 63 to 64 repetitions of anything to be considered good or for it to be written into our being all those veins in our brain.
  • 33:16Those lumps and things
  • 33:18The valleys. Those are based on repetition. Right. So developing healthy habits. It comes with practice. And once we put ourselves there, man. Then you get really good at practicing. It’s not what you’re practicing. You just get good at creating good habits.
  • 33:34And then this is kind of all easy peasy. From there it’s difficult with there’s a lot there’s less less difficulty involved right
  • user avatarbrandon handley33:43I think that it’s a you know it’s it’s the idea that, you know, somebody as they grow older, right, they, they try something once
  • 33:51And it didn’t work out. I’ll give a couple more shots. But you’re saying it’s like 64 tries and keep at it and you know it’s not like it’s you need that repetition. I also you’re calling from
  • 34:02Your computer land right I look at that number 64 and I think about like 64 bits, right, like
  • 34:07Yeah yeah so
  • 34:08So that’s a, that’s interesting. So, you know, you’re on your deathbed, and and you you crawl up out of that and you start to recognize
  • 34:18You know, you’ve got to make these these pattern changes and you’ve got to develop these healthy life patterns, you know, the challenge that I think that we see is somebody that isn’t dying.
  • 34:31That isn’t you know isn’t dying and has a safe life. Yeah.
  • 34:35Right, I mean you know that they haven’t they haven’t drunk themselves death, but maybe they have several beers at night and maybe you so
  • 34:44How do we get someone to recognize that they’ve got patterns that aren’t serving them even though they’ve got quote unquote good are safe life and they can have more
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program34:53Is that familiar do. That’s the question is this, is this what you do. Is this your thing. That’s where you do these are that that okay
  • 35:02Have you done anything else. Have you tried anything else you realize that you’re back in the bar, you have this. How many times have you had this drink. You know what it is.
  • 35:11If you keep doing the same things, you get the same exact results results. Why do you think I became an alcoholic is because I needed more and more and more to feel normal. I’ve never had this until like yesterday. This is amazing. I’m a
  • 35:27New person holding pineapple.
  • 35:30I had to switch it out, like, what is it synergy raw kombucha
  • 35:35Love this. Right.
  • 35:37Did a hippie. Give it to me. Yes, but does it matter. No, my point with it is that if we keep doing the same things and living in a place of familiarity.
  • 35:46We’re never going to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Therefore, we’re never going to grow.
  • 35:51Is this as good as it gets. Is this as good as you want it to be. Is this what you really want. Man Seriously, look at this point, you’re just writing. Just ask yourself this question, is this what I really want
  • 36:06Is this how I really want to feel if I can relive this my state of being for the end of my existence. Is that good enough for me. Can I achieve more goodness. Is this how you really want it to be nine times out of 10 it’s know
  • 36:24Even in a healthy place.
  • 36:27If I asked myself, This Is this really how good you want it to be, or is this really where you want to be. It’s really where I want to be right now, but it’s only getting better. So know if I get complacent here I get no more results.
  • 36:42I have to continue growing right so we got to look at that complacency and go, you know what, man. Is this as good as it gets. Is this as good as you want it to be right now.
  • 36:51Chances are the same. And then we start taking action. And I know this because just the power of influence from three people, we were able to get an alcoholic to leave the bar. The other day on a podcast and he went home to go play with his dogs.
  • 37:07Hmm. He made the decision to leave the bar, man.
  • 37:11stopped drinking poison not permanently.
  • 37:14But the power of influence is there, he made that decision. It’s amazing what happens when you realize that it can be better.
  • user avatarbrandon handley37:21Yeah, no 100% you know I know when I quit drinking
  • 37:27It has influenced many people right and you know we talked about being pulled you know I was pulled, man. I wasn’t, I didn’t quit drinking because I didn’t like I love drinking
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program37:38Drinking. No, I haven’t done it since.
  • user avatarbrandon handley37:41I have a blast. I you know do stupid shit all day long.
  • 37:46And and but you know it fell away man fell away is something I didn’t need anymore. And I found that I could do stupid shit without having to drink.
  • 37:57And I could be there more for people. Right. And so, but but that influence is just like
  • 38:02It’s not something we’re not doing any force on anybody is because I just feel great.
  • 38:07I get to I get to drive whenever I want.
  • 38:09I get to do and go places, whenever I want.
  • 38:11Because I haven’t had a drink.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program38:14It was one of the most interesting compliments. I’ve received recently is you don’t need anything in your system to have a good time. You don’t have to smoke. You don’t have to drink enough to do anything you’re just having a blast all the time right now my
  • 38:31That whoa, you’re right.
  • 38:33Well, I know this.
  • 38:34But now you’re saying it. So you got my attention.
  • 38:38Whoa, that’s cool. And then they’re going, I don’t, I don’t really need to do these things. It’s just not really. I mean, I get
  • 38:45You know, it’s not necessary.
  • 38:47It’s not a staple of my existence anymore. Let’s just say that. Yeah.
  • 38:51Wow, man, that’s, that’s amazing. And people talk about high on life. I get what they’re saying.
  • user avatarbrandon handley38:57Is visual rather than just
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program39:00The Scripture that
  • user avatarbrandon handley39:01That’s it. That’s it. That’s man. That’s exactly what we’re here. And what we’re doing right
  • 39:07You know, talking about that. And again, you know, being able to live from that space and be successful in business right and leading leading with that right not like that’s not your cover. That’s not your life, you’re not like I go home and I meditate, I go home and I pray. No, I read
  • 39:25When I was with with spirit. Right.
  • 39:27So, I love, I love, I love that you’re doing that, and I love you know I see what you’re creating
  • 39:33A see the momentum. You’ve got new built
  • 39:36You know what, what are some other things that you would hit on in this space that you would share with anybody.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program39:42In regards to tech or personal or just just
  • user avatarbrandon handley39:44In terms of like, you know, you know,
  • 39:46Leading from spirituality. Was it. That’s right. Yeah, I heard you say to you came from, like, a hippie. You know, you kind of came from that background to right and that was real similar to me to write hippie mom.
  • 39:58And just
  • 39:59For me, it ends up coming easily because that’s how I was raised, I fought it
  • 40:04For a long time, yes. Talk about that. Right. So talk about knowing that it exists, and then being like them being like, Oh, shit. It works. Yeah, I know that resistance.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program40:15Is useless. Honestly, I just posted about this. And yeah, my parents, you know, different what 6070s
  • 40:22Yeah, you know, so they were raised, like that. My parents are definitely hippies, but not like your, your typical hippie not like will say modern day hippies, or what I i actually been thinking about and you’re welcome to take this and join me. Not all hippies climb trees like
  • 40:37I want to start a movement.
  • user avatarbrandon handley40:39Well, that’s a special again. That’s what spiritual dopes about there is a greatness. And if you go to my website right now says you don’t have to wear like beach. You don’t have to wear that.
  • 40:47Dress. You don’t have to wear sandals. You don’t have to
  • 40:50You don’t have to put on this uniform to feel this way.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program40:52100%. So we’ll talk about that. Absolutely. There’s a
  • user avatarbrandon handley40:55Reverse it what I’m saying. And you see
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program40:57Like we’re on the same wavelength.
  • 40:58Yeah, man. And so, so here’s the trip is my, my brother, my older brother, he’s like a hippie is of all manly man, but he’s climbing trees, he’s cutting trees down building homes log cabins, he makes his own tea and coffee and everything is from the earth and He is like 100% hippie.
  • 41:15Spiritual Empath all of that stuff. It’s really amazing.
  • 41:19Now for me, I always thought that because I’m a tech guy right at artists. I’m an artist in general.
  • 41:25You know I connect with people in different ways, but I’ve been through an extreme amount of trauma before liver failure. So my trauma.
  • 41:34I’ve had to process these things differently. And my viewing angle my perspective on will say the hippie approach is it’s a little too flu fee for lack of better words this little to
  • user avatarbrandon handley41:46motherly soft
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program41:48It’s not it do, like, just take your shoes off and just seeing one drink like okay
  • user avatarbrandon handley41:53I want to kick a door. Yeah.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program41:55You can’t force this hippie just like religion or anything.
  • user avatarbrandon handley41:58Right, right, right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program41:59You have to be open to it. Oh, so on my journey.
  • 42:04As it became more receptive more open, more compassionate towards other people, and more importantly, developed more compassionate towards myself, which I learned from my mentor asara sundry
  • 42:16With that, I started to let down those walls and I started to break those permissions started signing off on my own.
  • user avatarbrandon handley42:24Certain he
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program42:25Recognizes my permission slip and
  • 42:27Walk down that hall of success and happiness.
  • 42:30And in doing so, I started to realize that people have been telling me this forever.
  • 42:35And I’ve been to so
  • 42:36Not have it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley42:38I mean, that’s what we talked about earlier, though, too, right, like in writing your content right you’re yourself. You’re telling people, some things and
  • 42:45They’re just not. They’re not in that spaceship, they’re not they’re not there right and it’s not until it’s not until you kind of come into your own awareness of being and you can look back and be like, Oh my gosh, people been telling me this my entire life. Yeah, right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program42:59100%
  • user avatarbrandon handley42:59Now, I love it man.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program43:01It’s amazing the way it works. And I’ll tell you this, brother. You remember. Oh, sorry about posting with purpose.
  • user avatarbrandon handley43:06But
  • 43:07I intent, but
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program43:08How do you think I ended up in Texas, dude.
  • 43:10There you go right person, pick up on the intent and the power and energy behind the same message and they open the opportunity like you. We want you to come here.
  • 43:21Right, that’s how I ended up in Texas in a series of events had to happen perfectly in alignment.
  • 43:28And I ended up here in the most incredible place I’ve ever been in my entire life more growth, more happiness more communication more connection.
  • 43:36More forward progress than any other time in my entire life. And I’m beyond humbled all because I posted with purpose man right person felt it. And then we all took action make magic happen. It’s really, really cool.
  • user avatarbrandon handley43:52That’s cool, man. So, I mean, you know, again, this is kind of like a follow your bliss type moment right
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program43:57Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley43:57I love it.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program43:59Though well
  • user avatarbrandon handley44:00I mean you got you got to do it for yourself. Right. Like each person. Everybody’s got everybody’s got to find that for themselves, you know, you talk about your truth right you could
  • 44:07You could say, Hey, you know, for me, you know, at this moment, this bliss is my truth right if I’m feeling, you know, and again, I’ll talk about that word, you know, vanity, I’m feeling
  • 44:17Or creative source like through me and, you know, or like we talked about resonance and we look at, like, you know, somebody just plucking my divine source string.
  • 44:26Everything has resonated and that was bliss and so I’m following that like somebody, you know, talking to me and just dragging me out and like me, like, yes, this is, oh my gosh, this is uncommon. I’m on my way you
  • 44:37Know how this is going to end. Oh yeah, they are they aware of the path. Now look, you’re always on your path right it’s like you’ve got a you’re always on your path you’re never all fit. It’s just, you’ve got to make that decision.
  • 44:48To to recognize that you’re walking. It’s at your part of it that you’re being it right
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program44:53You know, want to man.
  • 44:54Like, think of it. Think of it like this in like I if I go to the doctors right now and they they put a needle in my arm. Yeah, that’s gonna be my only, you know, uncomfortable. I’m not worried about the needle, man. I’m worried about the results.
  • 45:06They want to see how unhealthy. I really am.
  • 45:09Don’t want to like surrender to that.
  • 45:11Right. Some people really aren’t. They’re not good at walking through the doors, man.
  • user avatarbrandon handley45:15Yeah.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program45:15You’re not good at that. That’s their out of practice.
  • 45:18And sometimes we got to kick those doors down, they gotta be receptive on the other end. You’ve got to kick those doors down for yourself.
  • 45:24Man, once you open that door now.
  • 45:27Then you can see the path.
  • user avatarbrandon handley45:29Yeah.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program45:29And know that you’re on it.
  • 45:31And then you can frolic down that bitch as much as you want. You know I’m saying, like, what are
  • 45:34You going to do
  • user avatarbrandon handley45:36All that. Well, I mean, look, you can’t make a wrong decision. You know a lot of people
  • 45:40You know that they’ve got their systems in place that work for them. And if you get off of their system, they’re going to come up and say, Well, well, well, you got it. You’re, you’re off your system and you’re off your path, but
  • 45:50That’s not true. You’re off of what their path would be you’re off and out of their system and so have faith in yourself, man. I love what you’re doing, I love, I love that. That’s what you know you’ve developed like kind of this core
  • 46:02Being again and you’re, you know, you’re, you’re leading with that and you’re in that space. That’s awesome. Where should I send people to go meet up with you and find out more about you.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program46:12Absolutely. So my primary focus right now is the mantis program so mantis is every single thing that I’ve ever learned tops mastered
  • 46:25All in one place in regards to not just evolving as a human being but evolving into the strongest and most accurate business mindset that you could ever possibly hope to get yourself into
  • 46:38It’s the reason why I can operate at a peak state of performance for forever and cost deliver content get things done while having a family doing all that stuff.
  • 46:48So I want to show people exactly how they can implement
  • 46:52These specific concepts into their life. But more importantly, there’s so many people who don’t take the necessary steps because they go all but there’s technology, there’s this and I don’t understand that.
  • 47:03I cover it all, every single aspect. So you don’t have to be able to business or even bill yourself without fear man like you don’t have to do that. You don’t have to restrict yourself. And it’s basically what I now that I say I give people the permission to evolve as a human.
  • 47:19And then, yeah, so that’s the mantis program. So the mantis program com
  • 47:24And then of course graders Academy man the CCA it’s an extension of the mantas program. This is for people who want to build an online program.
  • 47:33I have numerous clients 2020 is packed with people who are going. I know what a lot of information. The online learning industry is a $34 billion industry.
  • 47:44If you know something, and you want to get it out there and develop a program for people to get their hands on.
  • 47:51And I hope people evolve through that process developed a program and then also handle all the tech and all that stuff with with just with ease.
  • 48:00Then yeah, then I’m gonna communication artist. So I help people communicate more deeply with their, their core audience, not just as a servant leader, but as a professional graphic designer 20 years in Photoshop.
  • 48:12And yeah and then for everybody who already has a message or is looking to dominate the second most powerful website on the planet YouTube
  • 48:21I have the Hitchhiker’s Guide to video marketing and that’s showing you, not just how to get video views up into the millions
  • 48:27But I’m actually showing you how to build a complete online digital business or any product or service that you’re working on. Or like to get your hands on. That’s the secret behind the sauce.
  • user avatarbrandon handley48:40Yeah, man, that was
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program48:41What
  • 48:42What is there, man. So you can also find me on Facebook or is Cody rain and then you could also go to Cody rain calm. If you guys want to learn more about me or jump on my calendar, we can have a chat about you and your business.
  • user avatarbrandon handley48:53Awesome, man. Thanks for joining into
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne – The Mantis Program48:56Thank you, man, I appreciate you.