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Srikumar Rao Are You Ready to Succeed

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Brandon Handley 0:00
Hey there spiritual dope and welcome back to Are you ready to succeed? We’re doing some deep dives on each of these chapters with primarily just because I love doing it, right. I love doing I love going through this book. This, like I said, about my fourth time going through the book. And each time I go through it, it’s a little bit different. And I learned, I realized that I’ve learned something new, right? Because it’s not that it’s not so much that I think I’ve talked about this and one of these pieces, it’s not so much what the book is teaching you about what you know, it’s about your ability to grasp the concepts, as your knowledge has changed throughout time. So and also in other news, man, you know, super excited again, I love this book. I love the author, I love his TED Talk. And I’ve been able to book him for the podcast, I don’t know how, how exciting is that? It’s not really something that I really saw coming ahead. But you know, what, there was a, you know, a couple days a couple weeks ago, just kind of on a whim, reached out to him, I reached out to this PM, and I was able to secure a podcast interview with him. So How exciting is that? I guess, you know, kind of how you’d know nothing happens if you don’t ask right, guys. So this, this chapter that we’re gonna be working on is called, it ain’t real. And what he’s going to walk through here with us in this one is mental models. It’s kind of like what what is a mental model? And, you know, where are they employed? The deal is that, you know, you’ve got, you’ve got mental models for what’s true, you’ve got mental models for reality, you’ve got mental models for like, these are the facts, right. And you also have mental models for work, love and family. And basically, you know, you put a model up for just all kinds of different ways that how what, how is truth proceed? what is reality? How do you discern what the facts are, right? You’ve got a specific way that work looks for you. And your, your view is going to be different than mine. Same thing with love. And likewise, with family, it’s definitely something that I learned while doing fatherhood. For the rest of us podcast, everybody’s got a different view on on how the family is supposed to work. Right. But in general, they all kind of work. In, in the book, he gives a couple of different sample models. And kind of like these stories, one of them is the idea of, hey, you’re not a part of the fast track crowd and you don’t fit in and you’re at work, right? I and then eventually you go through this kind of mental model, it builds kind of spirals down. And in the end you you decide that you’re just not going to put in the effort, because you don’t fit into this crowd. And you’re just gonna look to the next best thing, right? That was one of the models, it’s definitely more detailed in the book. And then another one of the mental models that he’s got there is what men what women think, men find attractive. And then, you know, she goes in this in this model, it’s a woman and she goes through the whole idea. And she’s like, Well, you know, I just don’t fit that criteria. So finally, I’m just like, you know what, I’m not qualified. I’m gonna die alone in old spinster. Right? And, you know, that type of thing, and that kind of that kind of mental thinking. So, you know, if you’ve got that type of thinking, you know, what, second, what’s that? Gonna? Eventually, you know, how’s that gonna play out? Right? You’re not going to act on something, if that’s your model. Another another one, this one’s actually it reminds me of the other model reminds me of kind of like a Wayne Dyer story. And he’s talking to a lady that’s getting ready to move to Chicago. And she’s like, Well, what do you think it’s gonna be like there. And Wayne Dyer goes, well, what’s it like? Where do people you know where you are now. And she goes, Well, the people are great. They’re really kind and generous and all these other things. And she goes, Yeah, that’s that’s pretty much what you’ll find there. And then another lady comes up to them, and she’s moving to, you know, some different spaces as well as wage because hey, Wayne, what’s it going to be like, when I moved there? She’s like, he goes, boop. How are the people where you are now? And he’s like, She’s like, they’re, they’re bitter. They’re angry. They, they never help out the room, because that’s pretty much what you’re going to find when you get there. You know, what? The deal is?

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where you are, right? It’s like, wherever Whatever it is, like where you are now, it’s gonna be like that when you get there. It’s like, you’re taking that with you. And that’s a model, right? you’ve kind of got it got that built in. So he presents some different models that you can go ahead and employ in your mind as you go through this book. And it’s better to ask, right, if when you’re presented with a new model, it’s better to ask yourself is, does this new model work better for me than the one that I’m currently using? If you come from the background of, you know, how can you reframe that, right? It’s really kind of like, you know, your model is real similar to the story that you tell yourself that you are, why you are where you are today because of XYZ, right? That’s the story you’ve been telling yourself. But is it possible if that story is not quite right, so what happens if you decide to rewrite your story, right? Try a new model out for a while rewrite your story. And then if it still isn’t a fit, then drop it, I love it. Because so many of us, we want to hang on to this story, you know, we’re so emotionally invested in this story that we’ve created for ourselves that we’ve got to keep it. And he’s like, if it’s not a fit, if, if this is working for you, if this isn’t working for you, then drop it, find a new one, find a new model, and use only what works for you. You know, these are my these are essentially models. And we’ll get to the idea is like these aren’t real, it ain’t real, right. So it doesn’t really matter which one you pick, but pick one that is working for you. The he gives you he gives you a mental model exercise. You know, I don’t think this is really fair for me to go ahead and list out the entire thing or, or even share out like all of the individual stories, aside from the kind of give you maybe a synopsis of them, or give you an idea of what some of these are, right? But the first one is my mental models, right? This is write out your mental models in different areas. And you know, he goes to some of the some of these exercises, as you’re going through them, you’re gonna see your mental models, right. And you’re going to make some changes in your mind as you’re going through them. Because now you realize that you actually have that ability, you realize now that you have the ability to make a shift, to change some of your mental models, when that moment happens. And this is another thing that I love about this book, this is the very first book that I recall, that instructed you to stop reading, stop reading for a moment, and stop trying to push past that moment and savor it. Savor that moment and enjoy and relish in those new thoughts or revelations that you’ve just had. This is my own note right here. If you’re not willing to do these exercises, if you’re not willing to do the exercise, any book that you read, if you’re not willing to do the exercises, when you get to the exercise, I think it’s I think it’s really fair for you to put the book down, because that’s an indicator that says, Would you get the book for right? If you’re not willing to try it out? Then Then if you’re not willing to take action on some of those nuanced, not, you know, some of those new exercises and new ways of being that the maybe not now, maybe don’t do it right now put the book down. This is just me talking. Because I, I know that I’ve gone through many books and done it and haven’t done the exercises haven’t followed through, haven’t gone through it. And I do know that I have with this book and a couple others and each time that I actually follow through with the exercises, my life is changed. And any it’s funny because I don’t know, if you’re listening on the podcast, and I’ve been able to see inside of the book at the exercise, you know, says, you know, when you’re tempted not to do an exercise, resist the urge you only get out what you put in. And you know, I think one of the one of the years I did, it’s like I’m doing this now, like I stopped and I you know wrote in the book, I’m doing this now and I stopped to do it again this year. Alright, we had to take a break for a second there, but we are back.

Brandon Handley 9:44
It was dinnertime. I think I think we’ll keep going here. So again, if you’re not if you’re not willing to do these exercises, I don’t think that you’re just not. You’re not ready right now. And that’s okay, too. But you’re in luck, you could only just go ahead and read the book. I’m not saying don’t, um, you may, you may find an exercise past this one that you’re able to do, and then realize just how just how much these, these doing these exercises does help. So it’s not real, I love this, you know, he talks about the whole idea is that you cannot unlearn an idea that has taken root. And that’s really, really why we got to be careful about what does go into our minds and what we really think about because once we once that thing kind of gets in there and seeps in there, it’s it’s almost impossible to to unlearn that idea, that concept, it’s in there forever. Everyone perceives the world differently. This is what what he says here in a book that is the the bedrock of effective negotiation is to understand here that somebody else is going to perceive the world differently, and try and figure out what that difference is, so that you can effectively negotiate. This is a universal truth. The fact is that everybody is going to see the world differently. foundations of a worldview can change when we look inwards. When we recognize the whole idea, the whole idea, then is when we recognize that someone or anyone has different views, we also realize that we have the capability to change our own as well. So we can change our models, we can change the foundation of our own worldview. Once again, we get in there and we make it and make it seated. Look, we got people out there that did a to have a flat Flat Earth view, right? Who really truly believed this, because, you know, because somebody has been able to spell it out in some way that is, that makes sense to them. And that’s really all you got to do is figure out a way to where it makes sense for you. And ultimately, your your whole worldview will change as well. So our worldview isn’t even really knew. The deal is that we’ve made it out of mental models. And then once we create these mental models that we discuss, we live within those constraints, we create something based off of our perceptions, you know, what it is that we think that we’re seeing based off of what we know. And then we live within those constraints, we are making our own prison the most, or, you know, or, or we’re creating our own freedom. So it’s merely a construct, you have dozens of models, that you stitch together to create the fabric of your very own reality. I love the concept. And the idea that he puts in here is each each one of these models that you put together is like the facet of a geo disc home. And the deal is if one of those facets isn’t real, then maybe none of them are, maybe none of them are therefore, therefore, this son of a bi T, therefore, your life is not real. And never has been because you base it off of these concepts, these ideas, these constraints, your perceptions. Right, and so that part, so I remember reading that for the first time, and it blew my mind, too. So the deal is you made the construct, you live in the construct, and there are equal parts of that construct that they’re real and unreal, but you made it, you live in it. And then this piece right here is kind of the next one that would, you know, just kind of blows the lid off. The life you are living is a reality. The life you are living is a reality. He says your mistake is thinking that it is the reality. All right. I mean, when you think about it, when we think about how do you even envision your future, or you’re sitting there and you’re like it could go this way that way or the other way. You’re thinking about all of those multiple possibilities, all those multiple realities that

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that could actually come forth. We’ll pause it here on this part, and this would be long enough and they’re about 15 minute mark and we’ll finish it up. So this is going to be the It ain’t real. This will be the end of it. A real CHAPTER TWO OF sukumar. Rouse, are you ready to succeed? And we’ll pick it up here we go.

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Brandon Handley 0:00
So as we we continue on literally chapter one is is not even that big right? I think it’s all of Was it 19 it’s like 15 pages. And it’s a it’s a 10 minute read, but this is this is what you take away. So what are some obstacles? What are some obstacles in chapter one? to this ideal life that we’re talking about what you know, who do you want to become? What kind of life do you want to have? Do you want to have that fulfillment? Do you want life to be? Oh, humming, I know, I want to be humming, right, I want to just be a beautiful state of harmony and resonance. Um, maybe at some point, I’ll share this a meditation where you can find the harmony and resonance within your own heart. to to to feel what to feel that to feel that resonance that I’m talking about. At least my again, this is all coming from my place of understanding at this current place time. And that’s always growing. So obstacles to that ideal life obstacles are this right? You’re gonna, you’re gonna run into many books and authorities that tell you to be a good human so that you can profit. Ideally, you already behave this way. You treat people right? Because it’s the right thing to do. You do think you do well, to be good, not just because of profit, and then attempting to link your values with external measures, like profit, cheap it and just credit your actions. Guys, I’ve gone down this path. And I know this to be true. Right? I’ve gone down this path, simply because I was just following, you know, some of those authorities, right? I was just following some of that. And if you do it for for expected gains, and then they don’t happen, you’re like, why isn’t it happening? And you’re attached to it? And, and again, it cheapens it like, you mean, you were only doing this so that this could happen? Yeah, I’m not proud of that. But at the same time I am, because I’m aware of what it’s like to go through that. And I’m aware of what it’s like to, you know, kind of, you know, follow this path, so that so that I could profit, right. I always tell people, I recently this recent interview, or somebody asked me how I get along this path of healing I was that wasn’t on purpose. You know, when I went into it with the wrong intentions, I went into it, you know, to be a good human, so I could profit right, I wasn’t for the right intention. But I’ve since grown out of that, right, I’ve since had a change of heart, I’ve since had a change of being. And it’s it’s it’s powerful transformation. And again, that this book is a big part of it, a big part of it. So we’re and this is a quote from Woodrow Wilson, which I think is super powerful. We are not here merely to earn a living and create value for our shareholders. We are here to enrich the world and make it a fire place to live. We will impoverish ourselves if we fail to do so this is exactly what we’re talking about here. The current society is greed driven, has been driven by untested sciences and economics and also untested behavior models to justify actions. I don’t have any specifics in front of me right now. But if we look back, I mean, the look and look at right now, we’re going through, hey, let’s just infuse it with cash. Let’s, let’s, uh, we look at I’m in the technology industry, where, you know, we’re shutting Huawei out of like, all different types of networks. And when I say we, I mean, the United States of America. And again, to me, this looks more like, this looks more like it’s to make America great again, versus the idea of, you know, a global, a global purpose, right? You know, the Euro, right, creating the Euro, all these things that are done to all these things that are done to propagate consumerism, right, and, and whatnot. This is driven by greed versus again, you becoming all of who you should become.

Brandon Handley 4:52
You don’t have to take my word for it. Take a look at yourself as what’s been done, for you to become the best of who you are. In Sreekumar, says, hey, these would otherwise be considered repeated activities. And I think that if you look deep enough, and, and and tightly enough, you’ll you’ll find the same, you’ll find it to be true for yourself. Companies are changing for the better, there’s a B corpse ought to look for some more of them, but one of them that I know of is Ben and Jerry’s ice cream. And then we’ve also got the

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oposite.

Brandon Handley 5:37
So we’ve talked about the different companies, the B corpse, and how they’re changing it to be a humane business paradigm, the company that I’m with is is one, I believe, where they put the people first people’s growth burst, and how can they come in and contribute to the company as a whole? And how can they protect their people and make it so that they are not concerned so much about the need for survival. Because once you once you put that into somebody’s mind, how am I going to survive, you begin to diminish that person’s ability to create to operate, you diminish that person’s ability to operate from a place of not abundance, a person’s ability to operate from abundance. If you take that away from a person like that, we freak the fuck out. Alright, they are going to be they’re going to be looking at a ways that they can make ends meet, they’re going to be looking for different things that they’re going to focus on survival just spoke about, and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. When you look at your survival needs, you are not able to focus on growth and thriving spaces, because if something’s missing in their survival Foundation, you will focus on that until it has been resolved most cases, most cases, see change where you are, you know, so you don’t have to, you’re able to, you’re able to go out and look for or create a company that you can align with, you will enjoy work more, you’ll you’ll be in harmony with your either your own values, or that company’s values, and they exist, and you can create that. Or you can create that and you will find, again, if you can align with a company’s values. And if they are working, and from the position of going to humane business paradigms. It’s going to be that much more, right you’re going to get you’re going to have that kind of fulfillment in your life. I believe that we can go ahead and we can jump into the final piece of chapter one of the ideal life. And you can we will jump into the quest for more. The idea, the myth that is that more, makes you happier. Right. And and as we go, we look back at some of these other ones I’m trying to think of, yeah, obstacles to an ideal life, you know, powerful Institute’s are driving this powerful Institute’s drive marketing companies, you know, the companies that are strictly looking forward to going back to even the Woodrow Wilson quote, right.

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You

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You’re not here just to make shareholders happy, okay. And know that so they’re powerful Institute’s driving that kind of economy, our current economy, our focuses and fosters consumption only. One of our key metrics that is posed as a benefit is our per capita consumption. How’s that? Yeah. We’re great consumers. And this, this key metric proves it right? Is that something to be proud of? And it goes, goes back to kind of a attachment to outcomes. A, you go for more because you believe having more of that. Versus more of what you already are and have will make you happier. is funny because more of anything and everything will make you happier. That’s a myth. More money, cars, houses friendships, freedom, leisure. Ironically, more of less, I want I want simplicity. I want minimalism. renunciation more, more more of all these things that you know, versus what you already have, you don’t need more. To make you happier. You simply, you know, you kind of, it’s okay. It’s okay. It’s okay want more for sure. But do not connect having more with your happiness, okay? You do not need to struggle to find happiness srikumar Rao says, Hey, you know, you do the work in this book, that it will come unbidden that the you do the work in this book, and it will well you’ll find happiness well up Within You Without making that a struggle without putting happiness, you know, as the goal without happiness. It’s funny because happening at the word just like happenstance, you are reacting into relation to something happenstance that something that is without you that really is are the external conditions. Going through this book, a portion of what you will find is I found, at least as I have found, you will find that happiness is with you at all times, will find that happiness is with you at all times. So that’s been chapter one, an ideal life of Are you ready to succeed, the plan is to go ahead and continue with this, I don’t know, I don’t have a specific goal. For how long this is going to take, I do know that the plan is simply to complete it. And the idea is almost that remove time, from how long these things are going to take, right? If I rush this again, then it’s going to take me longer, right? If I stop for a moment, as I did, as I have done as the book recommends, when something hits you stop for a second, be with it, feel it, let it be you know, a certain line or is still every time again, guys, girls, any fucking body. The idea is, you know, when something hits you stop and be with it, feel it. So this has been chapter one. I think there’s you know, 910 chapters, I forget, it’s been a while but I’m gonna go through them all, I plan to share them all out with you. And let me know if you’re if you’d like to a you know, join join up with the group that I’ve got going for this right now. If you’d like to participate, because again, going through this book by yourself while it can be you can do it and it’s great. It’s much nicer to kind of go through it with the community and with others. And and you’ll be able to kind of bounce ideas off of each other right? The will have a diversity of minds, as it were as we approach it together. So guys, take it easy. Be on the lookout for many more interviews coming up. Many other solo podcasts coming up and again, this little little journey that we’re going through. Are you ready to succeed?

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Brandon Handley 0:00
So as we continue through the book, are you ready to succeed. And as we continue on to the second ripple, which is organizational change, we’re gonna we’re gonna look at how we can, you know, we can look at the idea of how we connect, and how that determines our lives. And then we also look at the idea of, how do we how do we determine how do we differentiate between a pure network contact,

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which are cultivated for connections and positions and and all this other stuff? Right? We go after the Hey, what do you do? Oh, man, you could really help me what I do, and let me see how I can use you. And your role for for my gain my company’s gain, right versus a true contact, right? Which is gonna change our intention, how can I? How can I How can I help you out? What is it that you do? How can I help you close a gap? We look at Zig Ziglar. And his old saying, which was, you know, the more you help others to get what they need, the more you can get what you know, help others get what they want, so that you can get what you want type of thing. So that type of intention, and I love that srikumar Rao has in here, whatever you are trying to do, must bring spiritual and material growth to others, right? How can I help you to grow spiritually, and materially, because live that we we live in those two different worlds, and that’s okay. And that is what’s going to begin your organizational change, you know, to change how you connect, how do you connect, let go of the idea that you person or body that you are the orchestrator of the events, it goes back into kind of creating the serendipitous events, how we don’t even know how we are here in existence, let go of the idea that you are the specific orchestrator of events. When when you know, so again, that also goes back to the idea of control what you can control. That’s just kind of like your thoughts and emotions and reactions, responses, that type of thing. Everything outside of that. It’s beyond your control. And again, this is this is this is coming at this with my current level of understanding. Okay, so second ripple, organizational change, when you have the right mixture of passion and detachment, as well as the acceptance of what really happens. So, look, I’m super excited to be involved with some of the technology that I’m involved with, and some of the ideas that I’m working on. But I’m not

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to the outcome, being what I believe it needs to be right. So I think it should come out like this, or even a relationship or dinner, anything, right? I go out at night and get a flat tire, we should go out. I remember one night that Meg and I, you know, went out how to Uber and, you know, the, the date night, we hit a deer on the way home Buber driver hitting you know that that was you know, if I was would have been attached to a certain outcome, that outcome, that wouldn’t have been the outcome, right. And I could have gotten angry or upset that that happened, right? I could have gotten angry the doober driver, you didn’t dodge it or whatever. But I accepted it. We accepted it of what really happened. And again, in technology, or, you know, in the sales business, wherever you are, you know, you’ve got a great idea I made this video, this is what I’m creating. I’d love for it to have thousands and millions of views. Maybe maybe one maybe get zero views and and that’s got to be okay, I’m not doing it just for the likes, or the or any of it. I’m doing it because I enjoy it. I’m doing it because I believe that there’s value for you to go through it as well. I believe there’s value in these concepts and ideas. And the more that I learned about them, the more that I put them into my own mind, the more that I could bring bring into the world with them, if that makes sense. All right. So also think about the idea and like he says, you know, in an army, you know, you create these different connections, right you can, you’ve gone through this organizational change, and army will show up to support you the moment that you need it. You ever, you know, once you realize that you’re not the person that needs to To create and do it all, soon as you realize that you’re a member of a team, and you’re willing to be a supporter in that team. This is something that I, you know, eight years working at Cisco, I think taught me. So I went in there and I just wanted to help and

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do

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do well with others and help them along. And, and the idea is that it wasn’t for just six, I just wanted to help. That’s wanted to make sure that the work that I was doing, was helping another person, get their sales, again, helping them to get what they need, so that I get what I wanted type of thing. But not even that wasn’t even even wasn’t even done with that intent. I just wanted to do the work. And I want to do it because these were good people. And, and they showed it all the time, I they would turn back around, and they would support me all the time. How but it also reminds me to have the idea of an army of angels that I had an interview with like a Mar, the deal is like, Listen, whatever you’re putting out there, as long as you’re putting out there, like good stuff, you’re supporting others and trying to help others. The moment you need them, the moment you need that army of angels, they are going to show up and support you. In the in the chapter of an ideal life under organizational change, he’s got a James Allen quote, about the golden opportunities that will present themselves on your path. And honestly, this is always happening, going back up to the idea that there’s going to be obstacles in your way, those obstacles. Man, I really, I still don’t like the book. But you know, the obstacle is the way that obstacle, that challenge is, is the golden opportunity. What is it that’s in there, if there’s an obstacle in there, it’s going to take some type of growth out from you from your team, from your ability to change perspectives, you simply need to identify it as such, and move forward on that, can I make this larger, let me make this larger. On the screen that is so that’s that James Allen, quote, golden opportunities present themselves on your path. As you continue through, going through this, this change, right books and other aids, will, that you need, will come to you unsought. also understand that the books for reflect

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level of understanding, and often contains the keys that you seek. I think of this in the terms of, look, I went through my awakening or conscious change, you know, that was a pretty dramatic, I don’t, I didn’t, I didn’t understand the language that I needed to use, I couldn’t understand it, because I hadn’t been exposed to it before. I had no understanding. And I needed I need to these books that again, this is one of the books that came to, to my, to my aid, so that I could go ahead and I could grow in it, and could learn. So as we’ve got the, you know, the different levels of understanding that you’re going to get from these books. You know, again, you’re you’ve already got kind of queries in your mind, right? You’ve already got thought thoughts and ideas of how things are working, you’ve already got different ways of understanding. And what you’re looking for is how do you teach that to others? How can you share that out? Right? I can’t tell you the number of books that have just, that just continue to pop up in my life for the past like three, three and a half, four years that have helped me to understand

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me,

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right, who’ve helped me to understand all of all, all of what I’m going through with you right now. In Are you ready to succeed? And, you know, movies, anything really once once you once you kind of develop this, this idea of any you don’t even notice it right? Really, this is kind of looking forward if you haven’t already seen this for yourself. So Steve Jobs quote is you you can only connect the dots going backwards. Another interesting just kind of a tidbit here, my kids read this book, Deuteronomy Stilton. And what was interesting and I thought that it was cool that they did this they they needed keys to the crystal cavern or something like that. And and there was a crystal key that they have to find within the book. Right that that seed is planted in their mind that the keys are within the book, right? They had to find these images of the the key Within the book, and you know, they don’t see it that way right now I guarantee it, right. But my current level of understanding is, Wow, that’s really cool that they put actual keys within the book that would help them to unlock different different things. And that’s probably not the way the author intends it. But it could be wrong. This book will help you to powerfully connect in ways so that you are in harmony with your values. And to me it has, and I believe, I believe for you that it could otherwise otherwise I wouldn’t be taken this much effort to to share it all out with you. If your current level of connecting is, you know, how can that person benefit me in my life? How can I go to network to you know, climb a ladder type of mentality? Can you get there and that way? Yes. How will you feel in the end? You know, can you get there? And what’s that going to look like? That’s a you know, that’s just a question that I’ve got for you versus, you know, we talked about the different ways that we connect right and how to differentiate that become a light that intersects with other lights creating a unified and brighter spot the ideas of like different spotlights on the stage, the idea of you being a light spotlighting somebody else. And what’s great for them out there. When you know, you’re driving up a vehicle, car, when you have the headlights go they they are they are set so that they they they intersect each other in a brighter space in front of the vehicle. So they will you know, you could do you have to manually adjust them, at least you did at one point so that they face is called light alignment. And you need to adjust those headlights so that they intersect at a certain place where the beams will intersect facing down in front of you. And where they intersect. They create a brighter light and they work together as a team. So if you’re working again as a team and not as an individual, as a part of the greater whole, as a part of the all then you you will create that stronger ripple that was discussed.

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Brandon Handley 0:01
Have chapter one ideal life on both podcasts and the video. So part two, we’re going to go into the first ripple, which is individual change. And, you know, the first ripple is, you know, be you want to be so involved with work that you that you love so much that the time flies and to me, that brings up the idea of the book and the concept of flow by Matt Haley, and I don’t have his last name in front of me, but but my Hayley, and, you know, the idea is that you continue to grow each time you continue to learn and you continue to expand on what you already know and love and and converge on. And, you know, when you do that time will fly. That’s part of the first ripple of individual change. A penetrating awareness of the course that you are creating, what what, where do you want it? Where do you see yourself right? What exactly is it that you are creating, and when you become aware of the choices that you are making and what you are doing with your life and your goal for life, then then the course becomes, develops more clarity. Alright, so again, here are a couple that come in here a clear knowledge of your place in the scheme of the universe. That’s, that’s something that, that you’ll recognize in this and that also aligns with vision, you’ve got a vision, you may not know how to get to that end. But as you chart that course, that we’re talking about, in the course of creating the becomes becomes clear as you work along.

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The work that you do,

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feeds and brings you great contentment and peace you’re getting this is the idea that you are getting what you put into the universe if you’re if you’re doing this work to serve others and to help them come along themselves and to bring them along. And it’s not just for you. Um, that’s you literally you get what you attract, right? That’s the idea is to concept in my mind, again, this current level of understanding, you will face obstacles, those obstacles are not designed for frustration. those obstacles are designed to bring out the best in you, they help you to create a strong, sharp edge going back up the flow. And the idea is you’re on the ever expanding edge of the universe. And you have to keep in mind that we are approaching all of this as though the universe really only wants what is best for you because you are a part of the universe and the universe is put you here for some reason and purpose and it wants to see you succeed so the universe is in full support of your endeavors and this is just a mindset that you create within your individual change in your individual change as you go through this lock doors will open mysteriously you don’t need to know how some of these things are going to happen. You simply have to believe that they can and that they will and I can tell you from personal experience that this happens you put the vision out there and you put it out there with the intent with a with your purpose and and you take the first couple steps towards that and and things begin to open up and it’s a it’s this kind of indescribable but it happens you essentially your personal life becomes more fulfilling right? And to be to be honest with you looking for how the question should be how do I have a more fulfilling life To me it’s not your why your why it’s weaksauce your why it’s cool, it’s a sure it’s a it’s a it’s a cool, it’s like a pebble in the bottom of the lake. Right? Um, to me, the bigger piece this is your What is it that’s going to bring you ultimate fulfillment in your life. I also love that he hits on the idea is if you’re a parent as I am, and if you are understand that you know in this individual change that child or children will bring you great satisfaction also know that they will chart their own path and that you will not be able to To see their path,

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however,

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if you will be their springboard and know that and to know that that’s the case, to me that that brings me very much satisfaction. Being a parent and seeing it, I mean, see right now, I was working with Liam, my youngest to go, you know, create a video or do something he wants to do him my vision, my path, start his path, I can give him the ideas, he can give me his ideas, and I can try and help him and enact those. And however he decides to do it is up to him each day, and the individual change is going to be a, it’s going to be an improvement over the day before, each one day more perfect than the day before. If you can imagine it. Maybe you don’t think that the day before you today was perfect, but who knows. Just talking to I just had an interview, I just recently had an interview and the Word Perfect means that you don’t need anything else, right? don’t need any more to to to get through the day or two to get through life. So if you look at yesterday, did you have everything that you needed? In sometimes Did you have everything that you wanted in that day? It’s neat, but like, did you have everything that you needed in order to have a successful day, and if that’s the case, and you had a perfect day. So know that today, maybe and probably is more perfect than the day before. You will feel an infinite amount of gratitude. And this gratitude is tough. Gratitude is tough because most of us, especially as men are going through life in an A, in what we’re going through it and a analytical mind first kind of thing. And as men in Western society, we’ve been taught to shut down or remote odds, shut that shit down. Right. So everything’s by thought, everything’s by analytics. Everything’s by logic, everything’s linear. And that’s just that’s just, that’s just not the case. So the feeling of gratitude is something that we need to implement. And once we begin to get in contact, touch our feelings and understand what those feelings are. We can begin to feel gratitude. And as we think and feel gratitude at the same time. We are we are then tuning it in, right we are then we’re then tuning ourselves to gratitude, mentally, with feeling and we are pulling that into our lives. You will recognize throughout all this process, right? This is again, this is the first individual change you will recognize all this is is the cosmic principle, which according to this book is the merger or emerging of spirit, body and mind.

Unknown Speaker 8:21
Ultimately,

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sensation and feeling is really indescribable. I’ve done a podcast called I’ve done a podcast based on word called numinous with Carl Jung, and Theodore auto where whereby you have tried to capture some of what that cosmic principle looks and feels like. There’s other ways to go through it and feel that but that’s one way to recognize it. So this type of life is your birthright. There’s nothing like this. It’s nothing. This isn’t entitlement. This is open to everyone. And it doesn’t matter how old or young you are. Sure, birth rate. I mean, God I had a conversation the other day with my wife and I love her death. And she goes, you know, I’m not special. Nobody special. We’re not you know, we’re not a bunch of special snowflakes out there. Yes and no. Yes. And everybody is special and everybody’s looking for a way to express themselves. The thing is, is that you’ve been taught not to express yourself to the fullest of who you are. You’ve been taught to express yourself in an industrial age into what you know, what is it about you that is most productive in an industrial environment. We are not industrial beings. We are fucking human beings. So what you got to do is convert back If you are, and understand that this is, indeed, your birthright, and as we go through this book, you’ll understand that this is this is a process a way to achieve it. And so during the first ripple of individual change, you will also recognize that you must desire this desperately, you must want this with all of your being all of who you are. But you must also be okay with the dot happening. It like what the hell man? And this is what a Sreekumar calls the desire, paradox desire issues a paradox. And he also because because all paradoxes are resolved with greater understanding, and we can look at, we can look at, you know, what are some things that you wanted, when you were younger? What are some things that you wanted, when you were younger, you desired it, desperately, but they didn’t happen. And, you know, sometimes, sometimes I can tell you with myself sometimes, like, for example of, you know, I partied way too hard back in the day, and what would have happened if I had been, you know, super rich, or had access to a lot of money in party that same way, I would have bought, like, more more jobs or more of these things, and those things that I desired at that time. Maybe they might have killed me, right, and we go scroll back up, and we’re gonna say, all right, well, let’s not forget that the universe, a universe is really kind of got my back on this right. In the universe’s, like, he may not deliver on that. Because that’s not in my best interest. That could be, you know, something that kills me. And so thank you universe for not delivering on some of those. That sub desire pirate paradox, again, the best that the greater understanding is, you know, then I’m like, Man, I’m pissed and upset that this didn’t happen. today. I’m grateful and thankful, as I continue to go through life and learn and grow more, and can deliver some of these messages as I have a different level of understanding. As it says, as we’ve talked about, and the story of the you know, kind of like the layman and the master, right, attempting to rush this will double the time to achieve and impede progress. Again, imagine, if I put up a wall I put up, you know, even if it’s an energetic wall, I create something and I put something in the way of allowing something in I am impeding progress by trying to go harder, faster, I’m not going to recognize I’m not going to see things because I’m too focused on my personal desire,

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versus what may truly be better for me. So again, nature like a vacuum. Soon, as soon as you remove any energy or substance from an area, nature will replace it with another universe like, you know, likely result that you are seeking. And you can do something you can do with like half the effort. Right? Imagine, imagine that and I’m sure that you’ve, you’ve tried to open a jar of whatever. And, and sometimes you’re turning, you’re turning, you’re suing you putting all this effort in one way. But if you almost like if you loosen the grip a little bit and turn it like with a little less effort, it finally releases. So that’s going to be the first ripple of individual change. I’m going to cut it here as well.

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Brandon Handley 0:00
Alright guys, what is going on? Welcome a spiritual dopers working with a small group. And I figured I’d share on the podcast to the book is called Are you ready to succeed? This is about the third or fourth time I’ve gone through this book, it’s very powerful. I’m gonna be working on chapter one today, and one of the things I’m working on is do a vine map of this. So you may want to check out the video, you may want to just listen to podcasts nanji, May, you may just want to reach out to me. But that that’s what today is about. Yeah, so we’re gonna be we’re gonna be sharing some of that with you. The book is again, are you ready to succeed streak Kumar Rao. Great book, I found it when going through, you know, my Ted bench fees. And he’s got a video a TED talk called, you know, you are hardwired for happiness. that inspired me quite a bit, pick up the book. And when I first got the book, in the beginning of the book, it basically tells you, you need to commit to this, you need to be ready to go through it, you should have a group to do it and all these other other pieces. And I thought that was pretty cool. But I wasn’t ready at the time took me a year to even decide to pick up the book. And then I went ahead and I decided that I would also I would also create a group to do it with and I did that. And this is I think the third or fourth year that diet each year I get a little bit different takes from it. And each year I grow a little bit more and come at it from a different angle. And just just wanting to share some of it with you. This is the first year that I’ve gone as deep as I’ve gone. Where I mean, I’ve got notes written I’m holding up on hold up the video, but i’ve you know, I’ve already highlighted it for the past couple of years. But this year, you know, I’ve got I’ve got new highlights, I’ve got new underlines. I’ve got notes in the I’ve got notes in the actual book, where are you? What are these things making me think of? All right, what is one of my takeaways? What’s my level of understanding as I approached this book, this year, and this time, so this year, and this time, I will be recording, like I said, the this mind map that I’m using an app called x mind, I got this idea from God, gosh, man, what’s the guy’s name Rodriguez, he does some amazing videos over on YouTube. And I saw him going through his ex map, an ex mine and sharing out some other books that he’s done. And I figured, hey, let’s try that out for just myself as a way to again further ingrain some of this stuff and really embody it. The knowledge so I’m gonna go ahead and I’m going to pop over into I’m doing this in a video, like I said, I’m gonna pop over to x mind. The book is going to be rd rates succeed. The first chapter that we’re dealing with here is his ideal life, right talks about what does it look like to build out your ideal life? And you know, because he has some questions in there, he says, Hey, are you you know, do you feel he sets the whole thing up? Right? Do you feel stagnant is uh, do you have low Connections is it you know, as you feel like life is short, and talk through it, because again, look every day, this this is some of the stuff makes you crazy writing every day that you’re not radiantly alive and brimming with cheer is a day wasted, which is to me, like an uppercut into the soul. It takes your breath away. All right. Um, he also talks about the idea that there’s a nonlinear relationship between the work that you do and the results. And he also ties that into a story

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of like a Zen master. Right? So it turns into like a story of a Zen master the uses to, you know, illustrate this and basically, you know, let’s say a monk or a lay person comes up to a Zen master or just a person who has mastery and goes, Well, how long is it going to take me? Master to get to your level, or at least a level of mastery? Because if you work at it now, it’ll take 10 years. A guy goes bad 10 years. Well, what happens if you’re at it? 24 seven, if all I do is is this? And his intent is to cut the time in half and in his mind is And this took me five years. And the master goes, if you double your efforts, instead of taking 10 years now will take you 20, it will take you 20. And when you think about it, you just think about all the efforts that you put into everything. And in my mind, it kind of brought up this this idea of if you’re also again, this comes from a level of understanding all the other stuff that I’ve got my mind. So it comes up with the idea of all the imagine, you know, nature abhors a vacuum, that’s, that’s the line that I’m working with here. And maybe instead of putting all my energy into a space, I create the space and let nature fill that vacuum. And so what’s that look like? It means again, if I’m putting all my effort, if I’m doubling my efforts, I’m not allowing anything else to get in. To my space, i’m not i’m not i’m putting all my energy versus letting some other energy or ideas into it, I think, you know, right now, my current level of understanding, that’s how I that’s how I see that. So in the ideal life section, it also talks about learning to create serendipitous moments. If you keep doing what you’ve always done and acting in the way that you’ve always acted, you can pretty much and thinking the way you’ve always thought you can pretty much expect to have the same results. So what does it look like to create a serendipitous moment, maybe you’re inspired to go volunteer somewhere, you’re there because you simply want to be there. And, you know, you run into some other people who believe in the same cause, and, and, and they, you know, they’re in the spirit of giving their opening, giving and the happy to be there. And they know that their efforts are meaningful, and you create a connection with that person, then that person and you connect and then further further on throughout life and you know, eventually create something together. That would have never happened if you didn’t leave your house because you are inspired to go volunteer, go do something, it doesn’t have to be a volunteer activity. But that does it does look like acting on your inspiration or inspired moments in order to create those serendipitous moments. And that’s right there be moved by deep inner conviction and you What do you believe in what is powerful for you? Right. I believe in this pledge believe in this. I believe in this book, I believe in you know, caring for my children, I believe in things for my family. For before like, career, all right. I believe that you know, I want to see what happens here or or even within right? If you look at the motto, I think I was Keller Williams for a little bit. It’s God family, career, God family work, right. And as as we kind of come along this path and if you’re a fan of Vedanta, or you know any other religion, they all tell you kind of focus on God first, but what does that mean? That’s going to be you know, something that’s up to you. So, you know, your ideal life again, you there’s something in that you deserve, right? You deserve to wake up and have a brilliant and beautiful life that’s filled with joy. So, how do you know that this book would be a fit for you? He goes through this book and it says, Hey, you know, how do you know this book would be be for you? Well, it basically this was the line of the book that that I knew that it was for me. Do you have the nagging sense that there’s a great deal that you have to accomplish in this somehow? You are not living up to even a fraction? even a fraction

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of your potential?

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That’s it That’s a hell yeah, for me it was a hell yes. Every time I read that line, it’s a hell yeah. Is this is comfort, strong and growing again, that’s a big Hell yeah. A big Hell yeah. Are you willing to make the effort to Know thyself every time? What who is thy self goes back into that deep inner convictions. Right? Who? Who are you?

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Right?

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That’s where we kind of get into you’re not living up to even a fraction of your potential. Where’s your connection who With right, according to his book, you know, these are these are just a couple of the the key indicators that you are indeed a fine fit to we pick up this book and check it out why change matters, right? You know shifts of consciousness can occur with started startling rapidity. When I first picked up this book, I think that I was in I was in just a, you know, follow these steps, and these are the things that will happen for you. kind of mentality, it was very external. It was very, I guess, career externally motivated. And is somewhere in between reading this book and, and, and the first and second time, it has some massive shifts in consciousness. And it’s hard not to say that the part of that didn’t because it wasn’t because of this book, or in part because of it. So where are a couple of areas that need to change, you know, where, where change will need to occur. So that’s individual change. And I think that that’s, that’s fairly self explanatory. It goes on to so there’s three levels of it. So the individual, organizational and societal individual fairly self explanatory. Organizational. goes over says, look, the old command and control hierarchies are unsuited to our current era. Right? That and, and some of the change mechanisms that are out there, they’re, they’re really literally just just band aids. Right. And I love the visual that sukumar puts out there is that band aids cannot cope with a severe artery, right? She shouldn’t need surgical, high level medical assistance, you know, a complete and total, you need the doctor, right? He’s somebody who can really come in and help with that. So that’s an organizational change, right? And then under societal value changes, better leaders will only emerge when we change what we honor. Right now, we honor a lot of this material, external success only at the detriment to the detriment often, of the internal personal self, to the family to too many other things. And it doesn’t have to be that way. God, I love this line Tuesday of spreading ripples from a stone tossed into a pond. And this is under societal, right spreading ripples from a stone and toss it upon with ripples growing stronger instead of attenuating. Let’s take a look at it in this in this one way. We can look at it in in kind of a social network kind of way. Or if you’re from the finance world, one at one of the things that they’ll have you look at and finance when you’re going through it. Business Finance and and you know, who’s kind of like the most likely to pay? Or, you know, be engaged with you? Is it the person that has, you know, kind of put the most money in? Or is the person who’s paid last I mean, that’s, that’s one of the that’s one way to look at it. Right? Generally speaking, it’s going to be the person who’s engaged last with you. Versus, you know, over time, so who the one closest and most recently engaged is going to be your stronger ripple. Another way to look at it as kind of as, as you speak your truth, as you engage others, the ripple you know, you know, attenuate it means that it gets, you know, kind of weaker as it goes out there. Instead, it’s going to grow stronger. And we’re going to talk a little bit about that as we get into the third report societal change, and you’ll see how and why that can happen. But again, imagine, imagine that, you know, it’s weak from the center and it’s not until later that that, that that, that that ripple finally grows into a tsunami

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You head over to https://sacredreality.org/ and connect with coach Shannah White.

Take a listen to our conversation to learn what it means to be love in motion as Shannah and I cover a variety of topics such as energy, relationships and becoming superhuman.

Brandon Handley 0:00

4321 Hey, there’s spiritual dope and welcome back to another interview session with. I’m here today with channel wave. She is a super humanity coach. at Sacred reality his sacred reality is an organization that is making the mystical, practical. And what they’re doing there is they’re giving, helping you to create a paradigm of natural giving from an inner sense of wholeness, real intimacy, peace and freedom to be off in authentic and relationships, ease of self expression and communication, confidence and gentleness, sensitivity to love, within an inner guidance system for appropriate harmless action, and joyful alignment between inner purpose and one’s work within the community. And Shana, her coaching focus is on practical skills of mine that enable you to connect with your own inner spiritual resources by which you can naturally blossom in a wholesome sense of self worth, peace, joy, and freedom to be yourself and be in love with your life. This work heals your relationship with the self, which is the basis for all healing, and all other relationships. The foundation of the self awareness practice is summed up by coming to experientially understand all aspects of the following morning meditation, which I’m not going to read about that. How are you today?

Shannah White 1:35

I just have to make one correction. It’s Shauna,

Brandon Handley 1:38

Shauna, you know, it’s so funny. It’s so funny. I totally ignored intuition. When I was like, I asked her This is Shana or Shan Shan. Hundred percent, not not even not even a lie. Like I was like, let’s just kick it off. So you got a shout out. Thank you so much for for being here today. And I love I love I love the I love the piece about super humanity. Let’s Um, so I’d like to start this off with the idea that source speaks to us, right? divine energy, we are conduits for the universe. And the idea is that you are speaking to somebody who is listening today. This message only flew for them through universal source. What does that message?

Shannah White 2:28

Oh, what is that message today was a message we have right

Brandon Handley 2:31

now what’s called source?

Shannah White 2:33

Aha, thank you.

Shannah White 2:36

Gosh, well, I suppose messages that you are loved in motion. And yet, I understand that you may not know how to experience that in yourself. But it’s simpler than you think. It’s not as far away or as complicated as we make things with the complexity of our thought process and the way we tie our emotions into our thought process.

Shannah White 3:07

It’s really

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giving yourself permission to relax completely out of thinking. And there can be fear involved in doing that. But if you can open up a space where you can relax, and let your thoughts also relax. And then move your feelings and sport. Actually, you know, there’s a transition from thinking to feeling because we even think in order to experience ourselves, we experience ourselves through imaging. So it’s really like, the step is to turn off the imaging. Maybe you notice how you feel yourself where your sense of self is, like, I’m familiar with feeling my sense of self behind my eyes, if I’m in my head if I’m thinking and then shifting out of that place, turning off the visual processing, and moving that awareness and feeling into the body. Like for me below the jaw, maybe I start with back my head, let him move down into my being and just become curious what there is to feel in this space. And this is already the beginning of peace possibly mean really depends on who. Well, people can have challenges you might have emotional energy builds up in your fields. So that might be the first thing that you notice that you feel when you get yourself to To just feel. But as we go deeper in this experience of just feeling without thinking, and breathing, allowing the breath to be the navigation device for our feeling,

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which means for instance,

Shannah White 5:22

I can breathe right now and feel like

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everything in letting the breath, open up my middle back and feeling what my middle back feels like. But I’m not just feeling the physical quality of my middle back, I’m also feeling the kind of emotional or energetic quality in that space in my being. So and then just being with what I feel, noticing it being curious, and being so something magical happens just from us showing up to witness what we feel. And emotion can clear just from being with that process. So that’s the beginning and stop, where I’m ultimately looking to end up. There’s no end really, but where I’m looking to go is deeper inside the center of my chest with this feeling quality. So after I feel a sense of ease in the hole of my body, then I will pull myself deeper inside or bring my focus, look inside with my feeling, not with my visual, but look inside with my feeling into the center and my chest. Now just keep going deeper and deeper and deeper into that center. So it’s, it’s kind of deeper, like the center is maybe four inches in or whatever. But I’ll go deeper than those four inches into that very center. And I just keep going deeper until this warm energy ignites of its own accord.

Brandon Handley 7:08

So this is kind of a description of love and motion, right, you are loving motion. And that’s kind of the journey to and through it. And some of the experiences that you’ll feel throughout that process.

Shannah White 7:18

This is the description of how to connect with love energy. The to become loving motion is, you know, every time we move, okay to become loving motion is to listen to the energy of love, to find our movement to inspire our movement. In every moment, we’re listening to a voice inside us, that is telling us what to do. And that’s either the voice of our history, the way we’ve learned to process it through our personal reality, which is unfamiliar calling that the ego. Or we’re listening to the voice of spirit, the voice of the heart, this love energy that comes from the center of our core, but we have to be available to hear it. When we’re all busy in our head. and pulling from our history and getting emotionally involved in the way we’re thinking about things. Our attention is all in the outer sphere of our being and on the material plane. Our attention is like a spotlight. So if you’ve ever noticed that, perhaps you’ve gotten a bruise and you don’t know where you got it from.

Shannah White 8:39

All the time, all the time.

Shannah White 8:42

Well, for me, that’s proof that my attention is like a spotlight and my attention was so exclusive on something else that I didn’t even notice that I hurt myself that is on there.

Brandon Handley 8:54

That’s all like that. I like that. Yeah, so God.

Shannah White 8:57

Yeah. So when we’re our attention is all focused up in here. We’re looking away from and not listening from, we’re looking away from our feeling sense. And yet our feeling says comes back around and becomes full of our emotional reactions to what we’re thinking. So there’s another layer of distraction. So this way, we have this kind of unplug the thinking and let the feeling sense clear. It’s like all the ripples on the water just settle out in the water becomes still and then in the stillness. Now we can start to hear like heart music

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in the center.

Shannah White 9:39

So it’s a

Shannah White 9:43

it’s a listening skill, inner listening skill. But then when we can listen and actually start to feel that love energy. Then we have somebody to work with for how do I move in This moment as when when we go to do something, the first thing is going to happen is we’re going to go back up here because we have a whole library of ideas that we chest of how to handle different situations. So we reach for typically, we reach for the easiest thing that we know how to do, right? So it takes patience and practice, but we can learn, we can rewrite our choices about what we trust, for how to move. So here’s a really great way to think about it actually. It’s whether we reach for the known, or for the unknown. Because the unknown is basically like we reach for something from memory could be a belief, well, I don’t know what else it would be actually, because we started because we believe that we thought, Hey, this is good, I’ll use this again, right. But the place, the alternative to that is a place where we are hanging out in the inner and I call the inner unknown, where we are choosing not to go for what we know from before. And instead, we’re allowing ourselves to say, Hi, this is a completely new moment. And I do not know, based on history, I do not know, let me feel what do I feel right now.

Shannah White 11:22

Jeff becomes our

Shannah White 11:25

vehicle for discernment.

Shannah White 11:30

So but then also, when we practice feeling that love energy in our center, and then we choose to move to our day, with the patience to wait in the unknown before we move. And to wonder what our What are feeling sense has to tell us about this moment, then we start to find that we can move in alignment with love energy.

Brandon Handley 11:57

I like the idea of feeling sense. All right, what does that what does that mean? Right? And what is what is feeling sense? Because, you know, I get the feeling and I sent something, right? Is this an internal external feeling? You know, just to expand a little bit on what you mean by feeling sense?

Shannah White 12:17

Sure. Okay. So the feeling sense is our intuitive sense, it’s our ability to read energy.

Shannah White 12:28

And

Shannah White 12:30

our feeling sense, is also where our emotions register. I think of emotions as the energetic feedback from our thoughts. So when so it’s like an instrument, this feeling senses like an instrument. And I feel it from my jaw, to my belly button, in a sphere. So I also also actually feel like I feel sometimes I feel like I feel energy kind of behind and below my arms. So it’s not limited to the body. I do feel like in order to use my feeling sense, I have to bring my attention inward. If I look outward, thinking, I’m going to feel something out there. I lose my feeling sensitivity. And the energetic sense that, you know, emotion can just come and find you.

Shannah White 13:29

Where you are. Right?

Brandon Handley 13:32

Well, you know, I’m a little caught up in the idea of the Taurus right now. Like there’s a toroidal field. Right? And, and so, you know, if you’re looking anywhere outside of yourself, you’re kind of fumbling and signals may be weaker, whereas when they come into your core, that’s your receiver. Right? So I mean, to me, like, you know, that’s, that’s where the, that’s where the signals being sent, it’s a matter of tuning yourself to, to signal, right, and especially if you’re not familiar with this space, if you’ve never been taught how to tune in the first couple times, you start to tune in, it’s gonna be real weak, right? I mean, just like, again, is eerie and funny as it was at the beginning of our conversation, I had an inner sense that I should ask you, how should I pronounce your name? Right? And I totally ignored it. But now I’m like, right. And so it’s when we it’s, it’s these small recognitions of catching those moments and jotting them down and remembering that that just happened, that you begin to develop that ability to tune in more and more often, and that’s going to come to the inside though. Does that sound fair?

Shannah White 14:52

Yes. But I think so part of what’s going on in what you’re talking about when you say writing it down. You You’re taking the time to process what happened, which allows you to, to actually incrementally increase your trust in that. And then you’re like, Oh, I can trust that. So then next time, you might be more interested in listening. And the other thing is that there’s a Would you agree that there’s an element of do blow right past, like do rush to be rush past the intuitive hits? versus exercise in patience in the unknown? And say, Wait, I just felt something that would you say, that’s part of the,

Brandon Handley 15:41

you know, I am, I am so bad at waiting on anything. So, patience, as I was growing up, I was always taught patience is a virtue. I given to the idea of of letting things unfold. Right. I love the Buddhist, you know, one of the sayings is the flower blossom thing, right? If you’re trying to squeeze the bud of a flower to accelerate it blooming, that doesn’t, that doesn’t do it, right. So you can’t squeeze that you got to let it unfold on its own. So I agree with you that it’s just a matter of stop doing right start being

Shannah White 16:20

and allowing the sign and waiting like that, right, I will either move slow enough that I can process it and say, wait a minute, I just heard something, right? Or I won’t. And I’ll be like, Nope, sorry, I’m reaching for the nearest file and made a structure for this one.

Brandon Handley 16:41

Right, right. No. And I think that that comes that comes with time, and I love I love the idea of,

Unknown Speaker 16:49

we don’t have to

Brandon Handley 16:49

slow down, we need to calm down, right? And just let the things come to us again, instead of trying to accelerate anything. We were actors in this whole thing, right? We are, you know, our lines are given to us or coming to us and and we’re kind of acting them out. And we’re following our intuition. But if we can slow down a little bit, we can enjoy it a little bit more,

Unknown Speaker 17:17

right?

Brandon Handley 17:18

And we can allow for it to blossom. And I don’t even like that I don’t like evolve anymore. I don’t like leveling up anymore. Words like that. To me. That’s just Where are you? Right? Where are you not above or higher than anybody else? You’re just you are becoming more aware of what already is? So that’s right. I mean, there’s everything, you know, everything already exists. It’s just what’s our awareness of it.

Shannah White 17:47

That’s true. That’s true. What do you mean by work? factors? Enter? Right?

Brandon Handley 17:54

Yeah, I don’t know. I’m just, you know, just kind of throw stuff out there. Again, like, so, you know, when we started this things off, right? Like, what’s coming through us isn’t sometimes even necessarily for us. Right? The acts that we do and given sometimes we’re like, Why don’t just do that. And I’ll use an example. Like, I wrote something out last week and shared it and like, I didn’t, didn’t honestly put much effort into it social media posting, like, Oh, my God, I got to get a post out today, because I’m on a schedule, my train is going to be late, that kind of thing. Um, so anyway, I put a post out there. And yeah, I put some thought into it. But again, just nothing crazy. And somebody reached out to me, a friend of my friend of my wife’s, she goes, she goes, can I use the words that you wrote there? I was looking for something to you know, say it. My mother’s wake about my mother. And this was, this was it and this is like a day or two before and she’d been struggling find these these words. I was like, by all means, right. I was like, obviously, that wasn’t for me.

Unknown Speaker 18:59

Right.

Brandon Handley 19:00

And it’s like, the only you know, one or two people that saw or liked the posts. And, you know, that’s what that was for. So we’re kind of actors where we are receivers. And it’s kind of like, um, we can act on our intuition or we can ignore it. Right. And I find that when we act on it, we tend to be doing somebody else outside of ourself. Some good

Shannah White 19:28

right? Right. I was talking about this with someone today that I feel like we could think about I don’t mind the word God, but could be universe could be love of capital L could be whatever. Sure. Um, but

Shannah White 19:44

I was thinking about that.

Shannah White 19:48

Loving motion is actually God’s thoughts coming to be expressed sure that it’s not just us that we’re, you know, are you I think from my perspective, so that looks like one person. We’re all in this ocean of thoughts moving. And we can either like stick your head out of the ocean and be like, I’m gonna think my thoughts, my little thoughts, you

Unknown Speaker 20:10

know, be the wave, right?

Shannah White 20:12

Go library, right? Or I could just ride slow flow in this ocean and be part of a dance that includes everyone who’s willing to relax, and also feel the flow and flow in the flow. Yeah. And then things like that happen. Which is beautiful. That’s beautiful.

Brandon Handley 20:34

Yeah, when it open, when it opens up, it’s great, right? And that’s just the, the constant awareness, developing an awareness, being open to it. And all of that fun jazz, I want to talk about you and your super humanity coaching, let’s talk about, let’s talk about what it means to be a super humanity, coach, give me a one to know all about it.

Shannah White 21:01

Okay, so first of all, what we were just talking about actually does touch a little bit on what I’m indicating, by the word, super humanity. where, you know, it’s natural for the human being to be an extension of love, or to be loved in motion. But we are not taught how to use our minds to enable this way that we’re indoctrinated in, in a when we’re young, I think from our head, and to distressed, shuts down our capacity to, to experience the energy of love in our center. And we’re also taught that all the following ways you become an expert is by consuming information outside yourself, and then get a badge that says, Look, I consumed all this information outside of myself, I am now authorized to regurgitate it to you and you have to listen because now I’m an expert.

Brandon Handley 21:58

Right? I think and we were talking about this before, right? How annoying is it? Like you have to you have to run around you have to go pick up a certificate for from somebody or somebody be like, Listen, I can do this because I I consumed all this stuff guy Kiko.

Shannah White 22:10

Right, right, where there’s this whole other level of authority and knowledge that comes from within, you can’t get by consuming from without. So this is where this is where super humanity comes in. Because it’s our heart center is a portal to connect with the divine. And that is beyond the definition of human that has been created by the mundane materialistic focused world, the the outside in focus world. So super humanity calls to, for calls out this experience of being human that is beyond what the world has defined as human and humanity. Where it’s about letting go of your beliefs, getting out of the belief, emotion, dynamic of personal reality. And actually, walking in service to love energy, it really feels like walking in service, because it’s not about what I want from a little I place. It’s about feeling letting this energy come in and, and move you but what’s really wild, okay, is that before experiencing this, it feels like, Oh, no, I’m going to give up my self, I’m going to give up my will. I’m going to be I’m going to sacrifice myself to be in service. But when you actually experience it, it doesn’t feel like that. It feels like oh my god, I feel so aligned, and peaceful and relaxed in myself. And I feel fullness from my wants instead of wanting in a way that I feel empty and needy. And these wants become like, Oh, this is what I’m creating. This is what I’m becoming.

Brandon Handley 24:13

So I love I love that. Right. So I mean, a big key of this is you’re working to teach other people how to create. Yes, yeah. Look, I used to listen to a YouTube channel all the time called you are creators. Right? You are creators. I mean, what else are you right? If we’re here and live, let’s use the Bible since everybody else using it. You know, you are made in His image. And you know, what does he do? He creates,

Unknown Speaker 24:42

right, right.

Brandon Handley 24:44

So what do you do? And you know, we’ve been taught to consume, right? Yes. But then if we look at Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, right, the top the pinnacle of that is to self Express right to self reliance, self reliance, which is the suffix Which is to create something that will, you know, expression is that what, what’s within you? Right? So and let that out and create something, bring it to reality. And that’s self realization is to bring yourself to the to reality. And how do you do that yourself is inside of you, right?

Shannah White 25:23

Yes. Right? Well, so there can be self confusion because we identify with whatever we experience. Mm hmm. So, and that’s where it gets tricky, because people can feel like they’re expressing themselves when they’re throwing a temper tantrum. temper temper tantrum because they didn’t get what they want.

Brandon Handley 25:42

Sure, sure. There’s definitely so there’s self expression. And then there’s, there’s there’s a emotional outburst?

Shannah White 25:51

Yes. Right. So it’s the question of what is the self? And who? Who do I think I am in this moment? Am I feeling identified with a sense of perception that’s based on my history, and my emotional definitions of comfort? Or have I surrendered that sense of self, and I’m grounded in feeling that love energy and the clarity that comes from that love energy, which could be called truth. And that, and then I’m feeling like, these things that are coming through me through my core, instead of from my head? Through my core, are myself. Right,

Brandon Handley 26:35

your energetic self? Is that you know, the term does that, what would you would say?

Shannah White 26:41

Yes, it’s definitely energetic.

Brandon Handley 26:43

Versus versus the egoic. Self, right? Like, I don’t, I’m not really good with, I’m discerning between, like, you know, you know, because to me, the the mind is, I guess, the ego itself, right? That’s the piece. It’s like, latching on to everything and things that, you know, again, that, that it’s a part that it’s what’s doing all the things, right. But the mind is a tool, right? And anything that you can observe is outside of you. And if you can observe the mind, then, right? I mean,

Shannah White 27:16

right, that’s true, you can observe the mind you are not the mind.

Brandon Handley 27:20

But yeah,

Shannah White 27:21

I do consider the mind to be the entire chakra system, okay. And so I think of the ego as a mode of using the mind number one, it’s a mode, okay. And number two, it’s also the library of files that we stored, while using the mind in that mode. Okay, so in that mode, we’re not feeling love. So we’re storing beliefs about about a, an experience of self and the world that doesn’t have love in it. And this is why it becomes scary, to let those ideas go and becomes scary to do something else. Because we think, Oh, this is a scary world. This is a loveless world is a scary world. And we store these beliefs, because these beliefs are part of our survival strategy in this loveless world. So if someone comes along and says, You don’t need to keep those beliefs anymore, yeah, kind of like, I’m not sure I believe you

Brandon Handley 28:27

will take away my things, right? Don’t take away my stuff, I worked really hard to get all this crap to I like to carry around. And you know, it’s very important to me that, you know, when I go down this alley, I’m scared and terrified. Right?

Shannah White 28:42

So, so yeah, it takes a while. We’ve also learned in that state of mind to trust ourselves are, in other words, trust our ego self. Which is a feeling like I trust myself, and I just trust everything else. But when we’re looking to switch modes of mind, so that we’re not functioning from memory and imagination, and pulling from ego files, and instead, we’re hanging out in the unknown, not going for me to files, and then feeling and then trusting the voice of love, to give us discernment. That voice of love is we have a relationship, we are never the voice of love, we are in relationship with the voice of love. So and it changes the quality of our sense of self. But there is a requirement of trust in order to be in that relationship. When we’re in the ego mode, we are not required to trust. So when we’re used to not trusting, transitioning to Okay, I’m not going to pick up any of my stuff that I’ve accumulated for survival, and instead I’m going to trust this other voice. That’s not me. It’s bigger than me. Not mean,

Shannah White 30:02

that’s that takes courage to do that.

Brandon Handley 30:06

use that word courage to? Because I’ve been reading force versus power. Are you familiar with that book? power? So that topic. So have you ever seen the, the the map of consciousness map? right you’re seeing that now. Okay so David deep dives Dr. David Hawkins I think I’m saying the guy’s name right. And and it talks about the the map of consciousness and basically the different levels from like, you know, feeling like you know, total crap and worthlessness, right, and how it registers it, like, you know, sub 200. And all the things that are under like, 200 consciousness map goes up to 1000, all the things that are under 200 are the things that kind of eat away, chew and tear away at you, right?

Unknown Speaker 30:55

But 200

Brandon Handley 30:58

is the tipping point towards, you know, getting you into a more involved and more integrated sense of being in love and life and all that other stuff. But the tipping point is courage. Right? So 200 is courage and courage. lets you step into your greatness, right? Your sweat your super humanity self. Right? So, okay, that’s why I love the word courage. So thank you please go on. Will Tell me tell me what, you know, if I, if I’m doing a super humanity coaching session, what’s that look like?

Shannah White 31:37

Okay, well. So, in my mind, there are two categories of what people need. On the one hand, they need education. And on the other hand, they need

Shannah White 31:51

company on their journey.

Shannah White 31:54

So I do work with people. In both capacities. I work with some people just in one on one sessions, that are focused on timeline traveling with them with whatever their questions are. And I’m helping them to understand their self experience, within the model of self, that we are a vessel to express love. And that when we are not connected with that, we suffer from many stresses in the mind, and many illusions of how we understand things, or is this relationship trying to have a romantic partnership, when you don’t feel your heart? You You were designed to be in partnership with love. So we try to be in partnership with love with that person. And we try to see love out there. And then what happens is because we are in our head, and we’re thinking and we’re feeling around our thinking, and we like this person, that’s what we’re thinking. And we’re feeling them that we’re not actually feeling our own movement. So our source of joy is not internal. It’s not balanced, it’s out there. Now we’re leaving on this person. And leaning on this person accidentally produces control dynamics, control dynamics, now you have a friction of will, between two people. Either this person wants to be in the box that you’re making for them, or they don’t at some point, they’re probably not going to want to be exactly in the box the way they imagined it. And, but when they don’t want to be because this is totally tied to your sense of self worth, and your idea of love and all that kind of thing. Now, you can’t just have a conversation about Hey, that boxes the wrong shape. It’s, it’s, oh, Ouch, that hurts. You don’t love me. So there’s emotional layers, there’s will friction and it all comes back to the fact that this person is not actually feeling their heart. So their sense of their definition of love is skewed. And

Shannah White 34:13

so then, how do we correct that?

Shannah White 34:18

As a super humanity coach, I will give people exercises also to help them make transitions in their self awareness, to access that love energy inside. And a person can understand the difference. But it doesn’t do it to just understand that you actually have to feel that love energy and then suddenly you come back into balance. Suddenly your perception of what’s going on with you and your partner changes. Suddenly, the you know, the misunderstanding that was huge, becomes just one tiny little question that you might want to ask them and otherwise it’s no big deal. Right. So

Brandon Handley 35:03

if what you know, what are one or two of your favorite tools in this space that you like to use? If you don’t mind?

Shannah White 35:11

tools as an exercise? Yo, so

Brandon Handley 35:13

yeah, exercise What? So I would like to know, what’s an exercise that I could do? Well,

Shannah White 35:22

the, the first exercise that I would suggest working with that I always suggest working with actually is relaxing into a feeling place. So shifting out of thinking and into feeling. And I can do this with you right now, if you want to what I do with people is they investigate where they’re at, with how they can express themselves in those terms. And then I will make tailored suggestions for them. So let’s go. Okay, so how? What does your energy feel like to you and a sense of give a sense of where you were sitting? If you use your body as in that? Do you have a sense of where you’re sitting in your body?

Shannah White 36:10

Yes. Where is it?

Brandon Handley 36:14

Like, right below my belly button?

Shannah White 36:20

Okay, so do you have a feeling like you’re looking out at the world from inside?

Unknown Speaker 36:27

Yes.

Shannah White 36:29

And where are you looking at the world from?

Brandon Handley 36:32

My shoulders?

Shannah White 36:33

That’s interesting.

Shannah White 36:36

Okay, so um,

Shannah White 36:40

do you feel like that feeling of looking at the world?

Shannah White 36:47

Is

Shannah White 36:51

instead of feeling or is it a feeling quality?

Brandon Handley 36:58

Study feeling or a feeling quality is a

Shannah White 37:01

kind of instead of feeling like, looking instead of feeling? Or does it feel like it has a feeling?

Brandon Handley 37:09

Gotcha. Is it got like? I don’t think that. I don’t know, I’d say less of a feeling quality.

Shannah White 37:22

Okay, so can you then turn off the looking quality? And kind of bring our attention behind that, that behind it into the inner space of your body? And just notice, in First of all, can you turn off the looking quality and shift to Yeah,

Brandon Handley 37:48

absolutely. I mean, yeah, I’m doing it right now as we’re talking.

Shannah White 37:51

Okay. Great. So then.

Shannah White 37:54

So then, what do you notice? was just with curiosity? I don’t know if it matters if you if you tell me.

Brandon Handley 38:02

Yeah, I mean, so I think something I notice is just immediately, more, more centered feeling right? Less scattered, more calmness and to get togetherness, right. So feeling versus this kind of like, um, wolf feel pulled out right now. It’s just kind of

Unknown Speaker 38:30

centered.

Shannah White 38:31

Right. So, um,

Shannah White 38:38

is that exactly easy to maintain?

Brandon Handley 38:45

I don’t know. Because this is really the first time I’ve experienced it. Right. So so as you know, and this is part of, I think, the whole journey, right? Like and coming to somebody like you say, and we’ve talked about the awarenesses this is something I’d never been, has been never been brought to my attention. Mm hmm. Right. And you and it’s really hard to put your finger on something, if you’re not aware of it. Yes. So I’m feeling it. Right. And I think that there’s like some pulsating, like, urge to be like, uh, but my energy’s always all over here versus here. Right. So now I’m just paying attention to it. So I don’t know. Nice.

Shannah White 39:29

So probably what I would do is I would say, Okay, we’ll play with that for a few days. And meanwhile, we would be talking about any thing, any of your experiences you have questions about.

Shannah White 39:44

And then

Shannah White 39:47

I, so I can either just see somebody in a session, or here’s somebody a session, we do it on the phone, or I do also work with people in a different format where there’s where you have private sessions like that. On the phone or in person, and then text availability, between sessions, and then also supportive educational materials that are tailored for what somebody is working on. So and if we were working in that format, then I’d be like, okay, play with that for a few days. And, you know, let me know a couple days how that’s going, right. And then depending on what you text me, I might tweak it, or suggest the next step, as I would recommend it. So, um, my

Brandon Handley 40:31

comments was to have like, a videos too, sometimes, or just like, any type of supporting materials type of thing.

Shannah White 40:37

Sporting materials of this player are written, I do have an interest in producing video. They are usually, like, for instance,

Shannah White 40:50

a three page

Shannah White 40:54

very nice. So that I

Brandon Handley 40:57

know, I know that sometimes what I’ll do, I mean, just, from my, from what I’ll do is like, you know, similar to you, right? If somebody is going through in a different space, and like, hey, how’s that going, like, Oh, I’m feeling this way or that way. And I’m like, oh, then, you know, try out this, you know, dispenza video, or Yo, you need this Alan Watts video, or, you know, this clip, or something of that type of thing like

Shannah White 41:19

that, except that I just write it on the spot.

Brandon Handley 41:22

Okay, I love that. I love that. And, you know, I want to highlight something here that we haven’t really talked about, is that you’ve been in this space, your entire life. Right? Like, you know, you kind of grew up in like this, you know, spirituality space. And, you know, you’ve been involved with it, I think, head on for how many years now? Like, I mean,

Shannah White 41:47

25 years with sacred reality.

Brandon Handley 41:49

Right? So I mean, you know, and I like to throw that out there for like, you know, the the authority of sense so that somebody doesn’t go like, What if she started yesterday and got a, you know, got a certificate? Because, yes, listen, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. But I want people to understand that. You’re not dabbling in this.

Shannah White 42:09

Yeah. Thank you. Yeah. Thank you. Yeah, I was, I guess it would be 31 years ago that I started with a course in miracles. And then, five years ago that I started the secret.

Brandon Handley 42:20

Are you still having into Of course, a miracle? So you think you got

Shannah White 42:24

I was writing about innocence. And I wanted to really cool, pull out all the nuances of my own understanding. Yeah. So. So I wanted to read about it. And I actually tried to find something out there in the world. But I found out that people actually have a surprising perception of innocence out in the world, it’s very much like, innocence is that beautiful, blissful, untainted state of childhood that then you lose it, and you can never get it back. And, and not only that, you wouldn’t want it back. Because people will just take advantage of you like it’s a weakness thing. And like, really, that’s what people think about innocence. Yeah. But I anyway, so I want to go off with

Brandon Handley 43:12

that. Where’d you land on innocence?

Shannah White 43:15

Oh, wow. So innocence.

Shannah White 43:18

Innocence is that place where it is, it’s the untainted state of mind. And children have it because they haven’t learned this trust yet. Until they do learn to this trust, and then their, their state of mind is chained to the lead of the show. So they taught to this trust. Well, they might have an experience they don’t understand that’s painful. And so they can learn to distress from that itself. But then there are people in their life to guide them. And it could be that people guide them in a way that he also does trust. But that’s not really going on, because our culture is not educated deeply enough. With with the wisdom that I think the word spiritual or super humanity stands for, to actually help a child fully resolved.

Brandon Handley 44:15

For instance, with a lot we lost half of that we got we got hold give me once. I’m going to pause this for a second record resumed. All right, awesome. So we lost two disconnected on the idea of, um, you know, the children experiencing trauma or something like that right? To?

Shannah White 44:38

Oh, okay. Okay. Right. So that you were saying that children don’t have to distressed and so I was saying that they can have a painful experience, and experience distress naturally from that. But parent or guardian, if they, if a parent or guardian can hold a space of innocence themselves. And show a child through understanding how to heal what happened for them in that painful experience, then innocence we maintain trust can be maintained. But here’s the other thing that’s really interesting is that childhood innocence tends to give trust away easily. Whereas the innocence of that we know we earn through discipline is the trust. It’s a trusting state of mind. When we give that trust to the inner voice of love, which a child doesn’t know how to do, yet, it takes

Shannah White 45:43

take something learn how to do that. Sure.

Shannah White 45:47

So So innocence is actually a strength when you can allow your mind to become peaceful and untainted. In other words, unguarded and not biased by beliefs. Just open. But, but it’s not open in a way that’s honorable, it’s open in a way that’s invulnerable. Because you’re listening inside. For that voice of love, which is state of innocence allows to happen, you actually have to practice innocence in order to discover your super humanity.

Brandon Handley 46:26

would you would you? Would you say that, um, it’s kind of like a non attachment and judgment free sense of being?

Shannah White 46:35

Definitely.

Brandon Handley 46:36

Right. I mean, that the innocence isn’t and then you know, again, being love emotion. No labels, no attachments, and no judgment is a kind of a state of innocence.

Shannah White 46:51

Right? Yes. Okay. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 46:55

that’s great. So

Shannah White 46:56

actually, is also allowing the voice of truth to tell you what something is.

Shannah White 47:03

Does that make sense?

Brandon Handley 47:04

Yeah. I mean, you give me an example of that. What was that? What’s that look like to you?

Unknown Speaker 47:08

Um,

Shannah White 47:10

well, what comes to mind is a very, very tiny example. Sure. I just went by really quick example. But in that moment, when you have that feeling to ask me how to grasp my name, but not in innocence would just trust that in books,

Brandon Handley 47:31

right. Yeah, sure. Yeah. I like it. Like, it’s so funny, though. It’s so funny how that happened. But yeah,

Shannah White 47:38

this this was just an example. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 47:40

like that. You’re right. Right. And it says what trust, you know, trust? And, you know, follow that up. That’s great. No, that’s perfect, right?

Shannah White 47:50

Yes. And if I might just answer your question from a few minutes ago. Um, so as part of my rumination on innocence, I did go look in A Course in Miracles which, which is an old friend, but I don’t, I have no, you know, phases where I don’t pick it up. And then I pick it up later. And oh, my God, it’s such a good book. Like, every time I go back to it, I actually get more out of it, because of the growth that I’ve experienced in between, has allowed me to come back to it and see it deeper. And then I’m like, Man, this is

Brandon Handley 48:19

good. Where was this? 20 years ago? Do you know so? Are you do you have like the the big one that’s got all three of the books? And it was it got the it’s got the text, the lessons, the daily, the daily lessons, and then it’s got the teacher mode in there as well as that, right? Yeah. So do I’ve only read it and done the lessons and by the way, like anybody that’s ever listened to this listen to this never ticked off course for articles, I highly recommend that you go through it’s one year worth of like, daily, you know, kind of lessons, really, there’s more of like, just this kind of moment to self reflect or take something in, right, just those daily lessons, but I’d have not read the or dug into the teachers aspect of it all. Do you find value in that

Shannah White 49:08

part? of book? I do? I do. I wouldn’t say I have it all committed to memory. But one thing that’s very interesting in that section is levels of trust, which has already come up in our conversation, because that’s really, what you’re what the journey is one measure of the journey. And and since you could if you could put the journey on one metric. It’s going to be the metric of what do you trust? And how is your transition of trusting the ego to trusting the voice of love going?

Brandon Handley 49:43

That’s great. That’s great. I love I love using trust as a metric. That’s cool. Very cool. So let’s talk about you know, a little bit about you know, making the mystical practical, right and Sacred reality lists, you know, what are a couple things that you do? Because that’s a big part of this podcast. Right? It’s bringing the the mystical and making it practical, right? How can you How can you take these kind of thoughts and ways of being and apply them to your daily life and have a more fulfilling life? Right. So let’s talk about a little bit of a couple of ways that you might be doing that sacred reality.

Shannah White 50:29

Okay, well, let’s see. Um, yesterday, I spent time with someone in India, he is an India. And I’m here in the United States, in New York. And this was our third chat, they were just chatting as friends, but I’m always ready to be a beginner choose, the opportunity arises. And I actually thought you might enjoy being on my email list. So I invited him to my email list. And he said that he didn’t want to be on the email list, because he was enjoying just the feeling of our organic conversation in the Facebook Messenger space. But the fact that he had this response, opened up a kind of honesty in our conversation that set a tone in his space. And so we continue to talk about things life, like dynamics and rst. But

Shannah White 51:41

I’ll actually here’s what it was, he told me.

Shannah White 51:46

He told me, we have a whole email, man email conversation, and it wasn’t a big deal. But he wanted to make sure I understood that because he didn’t want to reject me, you want me to feel rejected? And so I was explaining I feel understood. And he’s like, you know, I think I’m just weird today, because I’m feeling kind of off. I’m like, What do you mean? And he said, Well, I’m feeling like, I don’t know what I want to do. I don’t know what I don’t want to do. And I said, Would you like a suggestion? And so I, and he said, Yes. And I suggested, very much similar to what I had just guided you through. And I was focusing with him, I was focusing on the breath as the navigating agent for the feeling. And she didn’t want to do it, actually, because he could feel that there was going to be a bunch of emotion underneath the surface. So then, okay, fine. You don’t have to do it. But our conversation continued, and a little bit later in the conversation. Oh, yeah, that’s right. So he said, You know, I will say one thing, which is, I experienced you like a candle in the darkness. Why is that? And so I started to talk about I asked him some questions. But I also started to talk about holding the space of truth, energy, because that’s my understanding. That’s my feeling of what he’s feeling. And, and then, so as we’re just exploring this topic, then he comes back around, and he says, and as far as that breathing, feeling, exercise goes, it feels to me like holding your hand and going to sleep in this deep peace.

Shannah White 53:46

And

Shannah White 53:49

he felt he has not felt, in fact, our entire relationship started because I posted about innocence. And he wanted to talk to me about it. And he said, I I lost innocence, and I will never have it again. So that’s what are Are those the beginning of our relationship some weeks ago, but here in this moment together, just being really honest about what’s coming up between us. She actually found a place where he felt the peace of God or the peace of truth for the first time. And he did not expect to ever feel that or anything like that.

Brandon Handley 54:29

And that’s also like the the space of innocence. Right? So it was talking about, okay,

Shannah White 54:35

yes. And he felt it very briefly that he said that it was deep and real. And so why is this mystical? Right. I didn’t talk to him even though I was sharing with him about the energy that I’m that I’m holding that he’s feeling. The reason that he felt it is because I was holding So we were having a conversation that’s bringing his understanding along. But the actual the actual communication that allowed him to experience that level of peace was the fact that I was holding a frequency. And as he’s talking to me, his intuition, which is our intuition is always operating, even if we don’t know how to do it on purpose, right? his intuition is picking up this frequency of truth from my energy field, even though we’re seven or 8000 miles apart. And he allowed himself in that moment, after talking, he got to feel like okay, I can trust to just feel this for this moment. And, and then he felt it. So this is the beginning. I mean, that’s what of course, miracles calls miracle is when love enter someone’s perception and changes it. And in fact, of course, in miracles says that that is a huge time saver.

Shannah White 56:09

Sure, alters time. Right.

Brandon Handley 56:12

All right. That’s all just matter of perception. Right? So that’s awesome. So this is what you do. Right? This is this is kind of a, you know, you’re out there creating super humanity, people. And you’re helping others out there making the mystical, practical. And I think that, you know, seems like you’re doing a great job, you seems like you’re, you’re happy with what you do, right? And this way, like, I still remember when we first we first connected, we talked to Matt, this is a life that you’ve always led. And I love that, too, because because it’s, um, you always hear somebody say, well make sure you didn’t put your ladder up against the wrong wall. Or a ladder in life. And here, you know, in my humble opinion, you know, you put your ladder up against a great wall, right? Because at the end of the day, you know, you’re out there and you’re being of service, but you’re, you know, not being a servant. Right. Like, you know, there’s, I think there’s a big difference in that. And I think that that’s also a challenge

Unknown Speaker 57:21

for another

Brandon Handley 57:22

another day, but, you know, for when you come into this space, you talked about, you know, letting go of all the things and giving all the things away and wanting to be of service, but like, you still need to be of service to yourself. Right? It’s Jerry,

Shannah White 57:38

actually say two things that come to mind based on what you just said. One is that, absolutely, I have to stay in my own alignment. So if I’m feeling like I need to go to sleep, and someone wants to be talking to me on Facebook Messenger, the thing I need to do is go to sleep, because if I don’t, I’m actually going to a won’t be able to hold the space that I bought for them, I will start to feel resentful. subtly, but nonetheless resentful, because why? Because I’m not respecting myself. So it does start with a very solid foundation of listening inside and respecting what I hear, which includes time of asleep.

Unknown Speaker 58:25

Oh,

Shannah White 58:26

yeah. And I will say also, that is not just, it’s not just the energy space that I hold, which is not a property of my own. It’s also that listening. That’s what that’s what the energy is, actually if I stopped listening, then the my energy will go flat. Hmm. So it’s the fact that he writes something. And then I feel inside myself. What my responses? And if I think it, it’s going to come out flat. Sure. So So yes, has to take care of itself. And here’s the other thing that I find really interesting and important. I did run across on Facebook, a they call it some kind of association for spiritual ethics. And they have an interesting and potentially worthwhile mission, which is that they want to get I guess, there’s some people who can find themselves in an inappropriate relationship with someone who was a spiritual guide for them and and then they feel like you’re hurt, whatever is going on out there. That’s what they’re trying to protect people from and they want to give guidelines like this is the way it should look. So it looks different than this. Maybe you need to reconsider. And sure people need help processing contrast to make healthier choices in their experiences. That’s totally fine. Fine. But one of the features of this organization is that someone who serves the public in a spiritual capacity could become certified by this ethics Association, which means that they answer to that ethics Association. And I thought to myself immediately, I said, No, no, no, I don’t answer to anyone but God. Like, I’m listening to love inside. And I will say and do as love directs me to do, I’m not going to sign up with some human run rulebook. completely the opposite of what it means to be in the flow, even though the character of love matches what they’re trying to resemble. With their roots.

Brandon Handley 1:00:53

For me, I listen, it’s not a soft, the worst thing, right? Because, you know, you and, and I could feel that way. You know, I operate out of a place of love. Whereas, you know, there’s, there are the people out there that take advantage of others, and use this way of being in somehow, right, in a malicious way. Right, in a way that self serving and, and, you know, we talked a little bit, just a moment ago about, you know, a lot, you know, aligning ourselves and whatnot, but not to the detriment of others. Right. When you and I are talking about, you know, becoming into alignment with self, we’re talking about how do I, you know, you know, spend time in my love being whatever that looks like to you, right, you know, love and motion as it were versus You know, this this kind of morphic space where you can create it, and you can have everybody inviting, get all this sense of being, but then, you know, basically, you’re creating a cult, right, and you’re like, hey, follow me, this is the only way to be you can’t deviate from what I’ve just told you. And you know, and you’re sucked in, right? And you’re sucked in. And so that, to me, you know, if somebody’s got a certificate, at least, like, burned by this before, I’m not doing it again, right type of thing comes from it sounds like it’s not the worst thing.

Shannah White 1:02:25

It’s, it comes from a good intention, for sure. It might help some people out there

Brandon Handley 1:02:30

that are upset. I know how you said to is it resonates with love, right? Just you know, from a place of love, but

Shannah White 1:02:37

it’s also true that, that anyone who is hoping to grow spiritually into actualize super humanity and their self experience, the authority is within. So a mentor, such as myself, and I understand that you mentor people as well. is a is a guide. Right? But if you give, whether that guide is acting in a holy fashion or an unholy fashion, whether they, you know, morph themselves into an ego picture of spirituality, and they’re acting that out for themselves in their own karmic cycle, we still have to, or whether they’re acting like Jesus, we still have to, as someone who’s being mentored, we still have to look within this, like, you know, we have to feel what’s right. So if something doesn’t feel right, and then the other person says, No, no, it is right. You gotta just leave. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 1:03:44

Yeah. And but it can be tough, right? It can be it can be really tough again, you know, we, you know, go back to the beginning of, you know, losing that son, you know, losing that selfishness sense of, of, you know, too many variables. Right. And that’s the thing, too many variables. And if you have never experienced, even trusting yourself, right, that’s, again, that’s that that point that’s that that’s that tilting point that I was talking about in the in the book, Foursquare’s power, of coming to courage, right, because everything under courage is is doubt, fear, all these other things because you haven’t stepped into and realized your true potential. You’re, you know, birthright as it were, all those things.

Shannah White 1:04:34

That’s true. I have another thing to add, actually, because then this connects to what we were talking about before, like creating. And I can speak from my own experience this way too, because I had a relationship not with a spiritual mentor, but I had a relationship that before, before I really came home to prioritizing voice of love inside myself. There was this relationship with Were love was outside. And even though I was trying to work everything in a spiritual way, like really work hard at my life and in spiritual ways, but I still had this perception of love outside myself. And, and I attracted to myself, the perfect partner to act out a painful experience. Right, right. And so even when we’re not relaxing and flowing in the ocean of God’s creative thoughts, we’re still creating because we are created in likeness and image. So our mind is creative, when we have a thought that connects with a feeling gets impressed in the magnetic component of our mind, and then that starts to magnetize something to us. So I hope if, if my desire can bless anyone, I hope that people who have found themselves in a harmful relationship of any kind, whether it’s with a spiritual mentor, or not a spiritual mentor, that they find the presence of self reflection, to use the opportunity that’s given to them, that where they’re resonating with something that they become attracted to, and they’ve attracted to themselves. And if they can recognize that they can take the opportunity to become empowered through growing through that experience, rather than disempowered thinking you’re a victim of it.

Brandon Handley 1:06:35

Yeah, I mean, that’s not that’s all along the path. Right. That’s all the quote that that’s the quote unquote, the process,

Unknown Speaker 1:06:41

right? Yes. Yes. That’s

Brandon Handley 1:06:42

the process. So when people are talking, I always ask people that because they’ll say what’s the process? trust the process? was, I mean to you? Right, because I think it can mean a lot of different things. I think you just described the process fairly well. So where can we send people to connect with you?

Shannah White 1:06:59

Um, people can go to sacred reality.org and my coaching profiles on there and because send an email through the contact form.

Shannah White 1:07:10

I could also give my email address. Does that make sense?

Unknown Speaker 1:07:15

If you want to Yeah.

Shannah White 1:07:16

Okay, great. Anyway, you want people to connect with you? Very good. That’s Shama s h a n n. h. at Sacred reality. Work is my email address and I’m also on Facebook. I’m Shawna dot white that three

Brandon Handley 1:07:33

nice way. I just want to say thank you so much for hopping on today. Love the conversation. I think this is a one where we could go for hours right type of conversations. So I appreciate the depth of your knowledge and you know, the things that you shared with us today and hope that the people that are listening out there they they took something away from this guy, thank you, you offer quite a lot. So thank you.

Shannah White 1:07:57

Thank you so much for having

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When you are going through an awakening, sometimes it can feel like everything is going off the rails!

That’s how it was with me, and I was lucky enough to come across an amazing spiritual life coach, Christian Wiese.

Ever since Christian helped me along the way, we have been in communication.

Take a listen to find out how you may be able to practically apply spiritual wisdom, even if you are in the midst of a very high-level financial group!

Connect with Christian on Facebook

Also, should you be interested in his books check them out here:

https://christianmwiese.com/

Brandon Handley 0:00

Two, one. Hey there spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here today. And as we continue to explore how we can apply spirituality in our everyday lives, businesses, and whatever it is we want to do. I have with me today, author and spiritual coach, my good friend, Christian M. Weiss, and he is a, he’s an author, spiritual coach. But he didn’t he wasn’t always in the space. In 2008, he was working in the professional finance field, with a PhD in finance and as a freshly minted dad. And working in this market. He’d been introduced to a wonderful world of magic, healing and love. And he finally left the financial industry and decided to work today as an author, educator, a spiritual life coach, and he’s on a mission to share the gospel of the capitalized way and to help other spiritual Travelers awaken to their path. Christian, thank you so much for joining us today.

Christian Wiese 1:05

Thank you for having me. Being here.

Brandon Handley 1:08

Yes, yeah, well, so first, you know, here’s people people may not have followed me since the beginning and that’s okay. So if you’re just tuning into any of my podcasts for the first time, Christian I first met years ago now, when I was doing a podcast called fatherhood for the rest of us and I had reached out to fathers who had experience and kind of a spiritual awakening and Christian is the only one who raised his hand. He has lived to tell the tale so before and thank you for that. And we’ve had I think, a great friendship since then we actually had to meet in person last year. That was a very What do they call that? You know, synchronous, synchronous synchronicity

Christian Wiese 1:52

secret? Thanks, Jerry. Yeah, for sure.

Brandon Handley 1:54

Yeah, yeah, we that was just so random how that happened. And to me that just showed the universe opening up, right?

Unknown Speaker 2:02

That’s right. Um,

Brandon Handley 2:04

what I like to start this off with Christian as a little bit of how you and I are conduits for creative energy, right? That’s right. And you and I are talking to share a message with somebody who’s listening to the podcast today. What What do you think that that person needs to hear today?

Christian Wiese 2:26

Well, I think the main message is life is fun. There’s so much creativity in life. And we spent so much time thinking about it and thinking what we want and what we should get, and we sometimes overlook what we have and what we’re getting every day and excitement and I think so again, just a little bit of background. I kind of have always been interested in spirituality. But I was in the middle of my career, the two boys had just been born. Suddenly there was that moment, which you also experienced, where suddenly you said, Wow, what’s happening here in this incredible app to tell other people about it. And then I literally spent seven years doing both very similar what you’re doing right now, in the day, kind of hanging out with some very smart people in the financial industry and kind of testing my spiritual theories. And then that night writing about it and writing books, and we’re talking today about the second book, which I think is is really written for people like you and your, your viewers, because it makes a case that spirituality is not some sort of philosophy that we practice on Sunday. Spirituality is something that we do everyday and also at work. And for seven years. I literally tested my theories and they work, we can really be incredibly creative, connected. We can have a lot of fun doing kind of spirituality and living.

Brandon Handley 4:05

Now 100% I love it. I enjoyed the book. And, you know, right when I read the review, I’d already started reading the book. But when I read the review on the back here of the endorsement by Carl Bozeman, and this book is intended to kind of pick up before you go to sleep and just have a quick read like small short stories, right? And, you know, here’s the book in my hand, thanks for shooting it over. Appreciate you sending. So the way of the Meister and it gives you some time to pause and reflect and also see how somebody such as yourself who had a PhD in it was it was at finance that she had a PhD in economics, economics. Oh my god, right. I mean, that’s the that’s the last place. Most people are going to be looking for a virtual coach. Right, or, or spiritual birthing at that, right? That’s

Christian Wiese 4:55

right. And that often happens and I think it’s really important to stress it. We always say, if you are spiritual, be on the right or be on the left, whatever your favorite direction is. But often in life, instead of being on the right, we’re actually on the left. And it’s extreme contrast between the two that then gets you that, that breaks through. And that’s, I think, by work in the conflicts at work in the context of family and all that. It’s sometimes an opportunity to opportunity to stop and say, Hey, what’s going on here? What can I learn from this conflict? And the way I would put economics, economics is a science of scarcity. scarcity, the main assumption is you don’t have but you want the only one right Right, right. Increase your utility and your income as your poor. Yes, the main message of spirituality is abundance. We live in an abundant world. We deserve to live in a world and that I think we need spiritual life coaches like you to remind us of that premise and we should work towards it

Brandon Handley 6:10

was like, it’s like you said, Christian when you when you stop to look at what you have versus what’s missing. That’s right, right is doo doo doo. I feel like there’s a space for an economic approach that says, hey, we actually have quite a bit Do you think I mean, I mean so look, let’s not laugh too hard at this because we had, you know the Science of Happiness to psychology. You know, so, which was laughed out at the beginning, right? I’m reminded of I’ve listened to this guy, Robin. Oh, gosh, his last name Sharma. Right. And one of his lines is they laughed at all the great ones at first, right. So is there do you feel like is that would could we apply economy you know economics to an abundant sides. Cuz like you said, we’ve been focused so much on the scarcity economy. Is there an abundance economy?

Christian Wiese 7:08

Absolutely. Economics just needs a rebranding, which is

Unknown Speaker 7:13

exactly right.

Christian Wiese 7:14

I mean, we should call it the science of abundance. And there’s a joke that I was told whether, whether it’s supposedly true at all, no. But somebody taught at Harvard, and gave the idea of to the utility function and the income line and that it keeps growing and expanding to the right. And that is kind of our mission in life. And there was one guy from the Middle East, supposedly a crown prince. And he said, I’m what happens to the picture, if you don’t have any income constraints. And of course, everybody laughed. You know, he was a prince, he had limitless resources, but it’s actually a very good point is in economics, that certain bliss point where you’re having more income is not the issue at all. It’s about having more meaning. And I do think, to a large extent, the spiritual journey is just about awakening to what you truly want. You know, we initially think it’s so much about wealth and status and reputation. And then we realized, no, no, it’s about love. It’s about meaning. It’s about the ability to create an Express. And when you go down that path, it’s very easy to be very fulfilled and happy, abundant life.

Brandon Handley 8:30

It is, is once you learn about it.

Christian Wiese 8:37

That’s right.

Brandon Handley 8:38

Right. So, you know, it’s really interesting. My wife just quit her job after being there for 23 years. And she’s terrified because she was taught to go get a job and work and stay there for for your entire life. And that was the idea. And since she married me that was her own fault. The You know what? learning this stuff that like, wow, we, you know, you always hear about you know, don’t put your don’t put your ladder up against the wrong wall. That’s right, right you know, we we worked for money, right and income versus working for or towards meaning or towards a beautiful life right? You know, we want we want the things we want the experiences we want I love this bliss point that you bring up. But it’s once you’ve learned that prod and nine then you have to learn how to apply it, which is what you know, I think I’ve done taking the concept and applied it in life and found it to be true. You know, I think of one of your stories in the book. And actually kind of I was actually telling the story last night at dinner about how you would come up with theories that seemed like they would be sure shots let’s talk a little bit about like, you know, working in the economy and you’re working for I’m guessing people that had a lot of money and they trusted you, with your, you know, with your doctorate in this field to explore and give sounds strategies, right. So tell us a little bit about, like, what that looked like and what some of the outcomes were.

Christian Wiese 10:17

Um, so when I started out I was actually very similar to your vise Korea. I was there for I think, 22 years. I’m originally from Germany, I arrived in 1990. I went to Brown University, got my PhD there. And then literally, just after five years, moved one hour north to Boston from Providence to Boston and started out there. And I started out as an economist, you know, I had to learn, you know what finance is really all about. But, you know, after a while, I got the hang of it, and you can realize that finance to a large extent, yes, it’s about knowing what will happen tomorrow. Extensive thoughts about psychology, human psychology, and I love that stuff. You know the the being in the pressure point and people say no, you have it all wrong. Now’s the time to be actually that this year was perfect. Everybody said run for the hills run for the hills. And the moment they did that was exactly the moment that the Gnostics started taking off, right? It’s all it’s all psychology and you have to get a feel for it. So what in the end brought the, the the spark when you kind of awoke to something different? I can’t tell. But what I can tell is that I had a very interesting psychological journey they had that place because part of the process of you know, doing this kind of spirituality for a few years is to realize that we kind of live in our head. You know, there are certain stories that we want to be nice to each other. We want to be loved. You’re going to get, and there’s a lot of heads, the art sometimes says something very different. And what I enjoyed in the pressure cooker environment is to kind of test and also learn. And I kind of went into two directions. And I think they’re very powerful. And I think you as a coach really can breakfast that there was one this spiritual dimension where I learned cooperation and trust is so powerful if you work with a group of people and you guys trust each other. magic happens, but also learned and there was a second aspect something about myself, I had not understood how competitive I really was. And you know, we spreadsheet people will tell us Oh, we are so nice and so relaxed. But when tell people to tell you, you’re full of it, you suddenly get you know, I’ll show you and that’s a very human reaction and I love isn’t playing with both balls on the one hand showing the magic of connection tivity and caring for each other as I put it, but on the other end, also realizing, you know what, you’re telling yourself stories, you’re as human as everybody else. And I think that’s really the the the potency of a coach to help people with that struggle because we shouldn’t live in lala land, we should live in the real world, where not everything is about love. And you know, and being so serene and uncaring.

Brandon Handley 13:29

Yeah, yeah. I mean, look, that’s it. That’s a you know, that’s, that’s great. And it’s an ideal it kind of world and I don’t think that it’s, I wouldn’t say that it’s impossible, but the likelihood of seeing it, and then would you really want to live it? That’s another question like, yeah, that’s, that’s another question. And I’m reminded of, you know, at least hearing this kind of first from Alan Watts, right. It’s kind of like stew you got to season it just enough. There’s got to be enough, you know, kind of flavor and Taste where it’s not so bland. So if we have all this, you know, love peace and serenity all the time, it’s gonna be real boring. I’m sorry, right? We’re not gonna, we’re not going to be able to experience we’re not going to even notice if we have an upper down, right? I mean, you know, I’m not saying hey, let’s invite some drama. But if you don’t have any drama, you will go to your head and you will create some it’s just human. So you know, I love that you said that because that that is the true premise two is spiritual dope, right. So this is the this program this podcast and courseware whatever gets created out of this is like, it’s not all it is a huge percentage of peace, love and light, but there’s also some, you know, we’ve got to go through some. We’ve got to go through some seasons of our lives to have a fully rounded experience. That’s right, right.

Christian Wiese 15:02

And something. So the way optimized, I think is perfect for this setup, because I think it speaks to the experience that many people go through. Should I be in this profession? Should I not? Am I really expressing myself creatively as I should? On the other hand, there are financial constraints. Can I really make it right now on my own? Or should I also have, you know, a secure income stream? Those are all issues we have to deal with. But the person

Brandon Handley 15:28

just has to pick that apart for right now. Right? Yeah. For everybody who’s who’s chased the secure income stream and the secure way of life. I think that COVID has been a true disrupter in continuing along that, that path, right. That’s right. And, and also, I kind of want to just loop back to when you were, you know, understanding, you know, yes, the cooperative and trust support, right, you know, your groups and creating that and finding that also understanding your competitiveness, but you also have illustrated how you you come up with some theories that will seem bulletproof. Write that on paper, and in theory should be working and they would flop and then you would say, all right, well, here’s, here’s something that I’m going to throw out there. I don’t think much of it. And that’s the one that takes off. Right? Play with me really this then right? So I’ll play let’s play. Let’s play like kind of spiritual devil devil’s advocate type. Okay. So with the one you had these great expectations, you were kind of attached to an expectation of the one that you thought would work right there was pressure on it to work in the way that you thought that it was supposed to work. And so there was there was like a focus on it. Versus the one that you came up with great. I would say almost ease and you let it go. And you said you know what, fine, let it go. Let’s Let’s the worst that could happen. Right. And that’s the one that you did with ease that it came in and flowed. Yes. Or to see it that way.

Christian Wiese 17:08

I think it’s a very important point. Actually, that was the direction I wanted to go in my original comment. The main message is, and it’s a very tough one, because we have been programmed for four decades in the education system to do exactly the opposite. But the main message of spirituality is, get out of your head. Look at what lie and look at the amazing abundance that life has to offer. And especially when it goes in a direction that you didn’t anticipate. That’s the time to be excited, because you can actually learn something. Right? And that was really my spiritual experience, experience and breakthrough to realize this is just a voice. It is not us. It’s just a voice. Sometimes it has something interesting to say sometimes not. But there’s an authority for you. On the voice in the head and that is all to spirituality.

Brandon Handley 18:03

Now fair enough. One second Chris, I’m gonna go ask my kids to go move. So the letting go right and getting out of your way. And the aspect of of us trying to apply direction, right? mentally, mentally direction versus Heart, heart feel it feeling it forward, right? That’s right, feeling it forward. Well, all right. How do you do that?

Christian Wiese 18:36

Well, that’s really exciting stuff happens it is we are not independent of our life. The life that we experience the people we bump into, I mean, I am always messenger it’s just so apparent. person one context me person to contact me five minutes later, person one and person two are in my life connected. So I see Just even though they have no idea what’s going on, I can literally see the strings. Right. So with those modern technologies, we actually can see almost how life operates. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 19:11

Yeah, yeah,

Christian Wiese 19:12

I think that’s a great thing too, that that gets you out of the head. And but again, I would say is always know on which level you work. Because I think you and I do. We do different things to work as a spiritual life coach, you help people with their career choices with their personal choices, right. The next level that I’m interested in this kind of what is that no self experience. There is no self, it’s just your part of life. You are there no thoughts, just the no self. I mean, that’s what the you know, well, the gurus talk about it’s an exciting, almost philosophy or experience, but it doesn’t help so much. The guy who has those has just two newborn children and has a little make a living. Right? That’s where you come in. Sure. Yeah, you know, it’s such a challenge to

Brandon Handley 20:09

fall into this space, I guess it’s kind of the best way to say it to to, to open once you’ve opened up to the spiritual self, right? Or the your spirituality, your spiritual being. How do you reconcile that? Right? How do you integrate that? And that’s, that’s a huge challenge.

Christian Wiese 20:28

It’s a challenge, but it’s also a huge opportunity because

Brandon Handley 20:31

so much for sure, listen to your your speaking a new language, you’re learning a whole new way of being. So you cannot. So it’s kind of like the Buddha and the and the, you know, the Rosebud, right, flower bud, you can’t squeeze that right. It’s expected to bloom so you got to you’ve got to nurture it, understand it and follow it. You know, I still remember when people were telling me you got to trust in the process before I had ever experienced the process. Right? So there’s trust in the process, which is kind of a faith in this, this possible way of being that you, you simply you can’t convey it in

Christian Wiese 21:17

words. That’s right. You cannot write but what we can convey is how much fun it is. That synchronicity is something that we discussed in our last talk, right? I think you are also an experiencer Can you pronounce it Suresh polities scientists, so it’s either the numbers or just the human connections. And the the first experience is so much fun, you understand it to gain it’s no longer the, you know, it’s it’s all about life or death. It’s literally again, you making a mistake, and you hear somebody laughing in the background. Ha ha ha you messed this one up.

Get ready not that serious,

Brandon Handley 22:02

right? Well, you know, I, I poke fun at that too because the word light is in enlightenment. That’s right, right. So how can we come at this from a sense of it’s heavy, hard, steady work. But it’s also meant to kind of lighten the load, right?

Christian Wiese 22:24

We are creators. I mean, it just stink up an entrepreneur or the guy who inventing or an Albert Einstein every day when they got up, they were all smiles. I can’t wait to see what I create today. But I think that that experience, I think

Brandon Handley 22:40

that that’s a great, you know, how can somebody applied themselves in that manner? Today right now, regardless of you know, I’m in a nine to five, right? How do I apply that principle of I am a creator of Wherever I am, that might not

Christian Wiese 22:56

be the thing that you actually do, which hopefully gets your meaning but There’s also the interaction with the people, you know, very much like I described as my messenger experience, you suddenly bump into that person and the person says something which the person never says, exactly that kind of word that resonates with you, because you read it yesterday in a book, and you suddenly start and this is really important. I don’t know how. Yeah, this is the process. And it’s a lot of fun. And everybody can experience even in a in a workplace that they consider boring. It’s literally the lightest streaming in and you can experience it anywhere. But on the other hand, I understand sometimes you are forced in a new direction. And I give myself as an example, I actually had plans to be at a job until today 2020 because I’d always wanted to start with a friend, a meditation center and she just wasn’t ready. So For me, that jump came two years ahead of time because there were changes at work and it just didn’t work for me anymore. So suddenly a new situation comes and for a couple of years, I was a little bit bored. I have to say, Yes, I was writing books, and I was working with people, but there was always a feeling. You know, I wish I had three more hours of actual creative work to do because only so much spirituality I can do. But guess what, that was a very, very spiritual experience where I really went to the next level, understanding better about my own drive above my own cross patience above my own limits. And that’s part of life. You have to if you’re really interested in spirituality, and that’s where the life coach starts differing from the spiritual coach. The Life Coach job is to make sure that that person is successful in the way that they want. Creating love, whatever it is that they want versus friendship quotes gets a little arrogant says, Whatever happens to you, you will learn a lot. For sure it’s you know, I don’t know, sometimes you have to build something and then afterwards you can have that arrogant perspective. Do you understand which direction I’m going?

Unknown Speaker 25:21

Now go ahead and give me a little more on that.

Christian Wiese 25:23

Okay, so I just saw the psychologist, the young cago stuff young, I think put it very well. He says the first half of our life journey, we develop the self.

The second half, you actually

Brandon Handley 25:40

had I had that I actually had that one.

Christian Wiese 25:42

I had that as a quote. And in the second half of the life journey, we start letting go, right. So as the Buddha which puts it over everybody else, but if you die before you die, felt kind of disappears. This integrates,

Brandon Handley 25:58

right yeah, not lost. Uh, you know, I never, you know, I’ve definitely always said, This ease but I’d never done this integrate. Right. Which, you know, right yeah, that explains kind of a lot.

Christian Wiese 26:19

Well, I feel bad it was like so let’s take the example of when you bump into your colleague when that person says what she never says just out of the blue uses a ratchet she never used the point it’s exactly the birth if you just read in that meaningful book at night, right? everything for you stops right just stared her. There are no thoughts. There is just that feeling of I can’t wait to see where this is. This is going. So you see this is just an example of the self disintegrate the the knowledge that everybody talks about. You’re so excited to be in the moment that innocence us Then, as an identity kind of get integrated into colleagues in the story in what’s about to come. That’s really the kind of, you know, living now. So it’s not that you as a person disappeared, it’s just that you literally just become out of it

Brandon Handley 27:16

when you become kind of the observer. Is that what you’re saying? Yeah, you kind of

Christian Wiese 27:21

the actor, the everything.

Brandon Handley 27:24

And you’re seeing all that at the same time. You’re seeing it all at the same time. Is that what you’re saying? That’s

Christian Wiese 27:28

right. Yeah. And many people have thought experiences, it’s just they never put in a spiritual meaning to answer just say, Wow, that was Mind blown. Yeah, sure. Sure.

Brandon Handley 27:41

I think I think that that’s what you and or I or even religion provides is this kind of framework for when it does happen? That’s right. Right. So because there’s going to be this whole building of the ego to Carl Jung talking about that you’re talking about there where you’re going Go your whole life and it’s gonna seem to fit everybody else’s expectations, patterns, societal norms, but then there’s going to be this threshold that you cross over, where you disintegrate with that identity of the self and you recognize the connectedness. That’s right to everything. That’s right. And if you don’t know, this is where I think this is where I’m gonna play big is there’s a bunch of over 33 million in the United States, right? last census not this last one. They don’t claim any religion, right? So they don’t have a framework for when this happens to them. That’s right. So it’s like, hey, it’s okay. That’s right. let’s let’s let’s a let’s figure out kind of, what’s your what’s your what’s your background? And let’s, let’s steer you to a couple stories that reflect exactly where you are. Right.

Christian Wiese 28:52

Yeah, but more than that, if I could add on that, because I really think it’s important for people like you and I and your viewers. Think of that. See? You that was brainwashed by his father mother to be somebody, you know, go to Harvard. Yeah, buddy, no be member of that golf club or whatever it is. And then you meet all those competitive people and you just put all your identity and building profits. And then there comes that moment and God forbid anybody, if it happens to anybody, but let’s say the daughter certainly gets cancer. Can you just suddenly say, Whoa, I couldn’t care less what the profit statement is, I need to make sure that my daughter is okay and that she gets healthy again, so that those life changing moments, but he didn’t say, well, it’s no longer about profit, but what is it about? And that I think is the opportunity to really have the people in the important places, CEOs, the upper management, the inventors creators, that they have that guidance of You know, moving towards a new model? Yeah. And I think if we if we get a few of those people, amazing change.

Brandon Handley 30:08

What’s your what’s your vision of a new model?

Christian Wiese 30:11

quantum new model is just the understanding that the economic model of scarcity is gone. That we live in a world of abundance that everybody has to find it and that’s a spiritual journey because we have to start overriding the voices of our parents, the voices of society, the voices of our spouse, tables, Rosa, that’s amazing thing. It’s not an any spiritual folks always say us versus them. It’s not true, or the unconscious person if it wasn’t for the unconscious person.

It’s not true, right?

Brandon Handley 30:45

We have growing Why is that not true? Let’s Let’s hit on. Why is that not true?

Christian Wiese 30:49

Well, it can be true in the sense that people get so annoying that we just say I have to leave. And then they’re part of the process, but often, it is our own. As I said to you, my spiritual experience was for the last two years where I didn’t have as much to do as, as I used to when I did exactly what you were doing having my nine to five job and then at night, you know, working streamer hours to get my books out, I suddenly realize you know, there is an inner void that I had to face. And yes, I was so cool at my work and I was so cool as a life coach and so cool in my writing, but you know what that coolness means something to me. And that’s not I don’t want people to project to me that’s, that’s not it. I have to find a way to to to face it in a void and of course the underdog it’ll say meditation. You go invert, you discover the light within. The first part of the journey is we see the light without the second part of the journey is we discover the light within minutes. It’s really not rocket science. So without It happens to everyone.

Brandon Handley 32:01

Well, you know, and but but it you know, it’s still again, I think until you begin the journey until you kind of start to experience. It’s not part of your peripheral, right? It’s not it’s not, it’s not something that you’re willing to accept. Yeah, that’s right. I, you know, like I said to you earlier, I’m working on my, on some of my information, right? For kind of describing, because it’s, this is a I’m building it as I go. But what does it say? I said, you know, spirituality. So this, you know, look, I’m, I’m talking to my generation, right? Mm hmm. But also, spirituality for the person that couldn’t give a shit about it until now.

Unknown Speaker 32:46

Right, because,

Brandon Handley 32:48

until you until until you have had an experience, you’re not going to be triggered to seek more and seek harder because you have had That experience.

Christian Wiese 33:01

I think those people are incredibly powerful and incredibly potent, because I do see a little problem as those very spiritual guys. Again live in their own head. Yeah, oh, you have to be a vegetarian. All you have to do all you have to do that, by the way, I am a vegetarian at moral grounds, but I eat a burger over the veggie burger. I do not feel any difference. However, on the moral ground, I’d say, yeah, it’s not nice what we do for our animals. But the thing is, if you just live in your you have to feel it. If you just live in your head, you will always play those us versus them games and they’re always different, us versus them never because the only insight of spirituality is we are all one. The critical voice that confronts us is us speaking to ourselves. We have to just find a way to either say I don’t want to deal with her right now going a different direction not to say There must be a way how we can integrate our views because we have one. Right,

Brandon Handley 34:08

right right now. And I love that. I think it was for me to work with a particular group where I understood about, you know, cooperation and trust and supporting each other. And just like you were saying earlier, I feel like that’s a place where, if you can’t be or don’t feel comfortable with being vocal about spirituality, you can apply spirituality. Would you say that that’s true?

Christian Wiese 34:38

And don’t talk about it, that the other mistake that the spiritual books say, they go out to the public and say, Oh, you just don’t know the power of communication, the power of connectivity, the power of caring, don’t say a word Just do it. Right. Because when you say something, the other person will say, Well, what a loony but the moment when you actually do it, The other person will take notice. And I do think there is incredible I mean, when it comes to the power of actually, I think it’s a course in miracles that says creation is communication, which I think in our modern world is incredibly important because in a sense, it’s all especially what you do. It’s all about communication, connectivity, creative, creativity, caring for each other. So I had in the book, the four C’s, as I called it, I think that that all applies for the modern society, especially the stuff that you’re doing. And if you start using the experiment, I’m not an ego. Let me see if I think that the other guy ain’t so bad. If I start with a premise, let me see what happened. In next day. The guy starts You know, taking the foreign advantages, okay, Soviet experiment wasn’t, wasn’t so successful. But in my experience, I did it for seven years. It worked like a charm. But it was a psychological experience. You felt the fear the other person felt the fear the getting together is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight. But when you start out with that process, let me experiment those very powerful themes. A you will be successful. But if you do it on a higher level, if a CEO start saying, you know what we are all, we all talk the talk, but we don’t walk the walk, right? We all say all we can take care of each other. But at the end of the day, whoever brings in the most money is the guy who gets promoted and whoever doesn’t bring in the most money as a problem, right? Well, that’s a very spiritual because it might be that this is support person, a blue guy who actually carries himself A team, right? But you only reward the guy who brings in the money. Sure. So if you really start with the premise, we are one unit. Let’s take care of each other. Let’s build something together. Let’s have an incentive structure that really rewards true connectivity and trusting each other. I do think operations can go very far. Because when you really believe in the in the company you’re working for you go out of your way to deliver when you think Well, my boss is just telling stories, and he doesn’t care for me at all. And the moment when things don’t go my way out the out of the door. You will not deliver the same goods that you do and I think it’s a very powerful

Brandon Handley 37:48

100% hundred percent like, you know, I just left one company not too long ago, and that was the feel you nothing ever felt safe and secure. Right? Not for For top performers or bottom performers, nobody. So how are you going to perform on a consistent basis in that environment? versus where I’m at now, um, similar environment of me similar similar type of work. But, you know, like I said, the, from the top down, they’re leading with spirituality, and they mean it. It’s very powerful. It’s also challenging to wrap my head around some of it, you know, because I’m just grown up with this other environment, right? So you’ve grown up in this other environment, you’re like, Okay, well, you’ve got to adapt and somewhat rapidly, but it seems like what is this? So just going through a new wardrobe right here, you gotta try on these.

Christian Wiese 38:47

For anybody who has been trained by the modern Western model. You know, tough guys finish first. nice guys finish last and similar statements. America, it shouldn’t happen. But the model that we are living, the Western society is living and the eastern guys are a little different. They’re smarter than us. They have, they have a little bit more of that idea of oneness. And the Europeans are somewhere in the middle. So I know a little bit about it, because at work, I was covering Japan, which is really at the other extreme of the, of the spectrum. I live. I’ve spent now most of my life in the US, but I grew up in Germany. So I actually felt that I experienced was all three models, Europe, somewhere in between the Americans very much about the individual, and the Asians, the Chinese, the Japanese kind of really believing in the power of one, right. Every model has its strengths and advantages. I guess if you play football, you should believe in the proper cause. If you play golf, you should you should believe in the power of the individual. But if you’re on a company, maybe some of the spiritual concept people make you a lot of money.

Brandon Handley 40:02

Yeah, no, no 100%. You know, just just again, going back to the point like when you show your teammates, you know, cooperation and you give them trust and you support them in, you know, give them some autonomy, right? Don’t micromanage price and value their inputs genuinely. It’s changes the whole dynamic.

Christian Wiese 40:29

They work from early in the morning until late at night if we need to produce something because they believe in, right?

Brandon Handley 40:38

Yeah. No, that’s true. That’s true. I wanted to hit you know, two more things here. The bliss point, you know, I think that’s an interesting concept and idea, what would you you know, what would you say that that is, is there a specific one, there’s definitely been numbers thrown about there. How can you tell that you are As your bliss point,

Christian Wiese 41:02

it’s very complicated, then I do think you sometimes need a coach like you for that. Because you shouldn’t short sell yourself. You shouldn’t say all text is not good for me. That’s what the book said, Oh, I shouldn’t be greedy and shouldn’t earn money. And I hate those capitalists who have that big house and right. No, that’s a lot of repression in debts knew it could be true for some, maybe there are some monks, but there’s a lot of repression. And I don’t think that’s spirituality at all. I think, again, going back to the young example, first you try to assert yourself, you say, I need a loving companion, I need a worker I can really express myself. I like because it’s and I like big cars and I like to have a motorcycle. I want to have those three things. And then you try to try for 10 years. 15 years, maybe After the changes, you know what? I now understand the trade off. Yes, I could earn money but it doesn’t give me meaning. Or maybe it’s the kind of well I earn a lot of money and it gives me so much meaning. We can’t say what happened to an individual, but everybody has to try to so the way I would put it is everybody has to create a garden, you know, the Garden of Eden, your own personal garden, and you figure out over the decades what it really is, that is important. We, of course, family men. I mean, to me, family is everything. No. But we both love creative expression and connecting with others.

Brandon Handley 42:39

Yeah, listen, I mean, that’s that for me is so huge, right? I you know, we you said, you know, so we’ve used the word creative and creativity so often through here, you know, I think a lot of people are under the mistaken impression that creativity can only be applied to painting or drawing or writing? Where else can it be applied from your from your perspective?

Christian Wiese 43:05

Well, I was at work, as I said, I started out as an economist, but then I realized if I just put out an economic forecast, people say very interesting, but how can I make money? And you know, then you say, Okay, well, how can I help them making money and then you go into the direction of well, it’s all psychology. As long as that line goes down, people are depressed, but the moment when it stops going down, that’s the moment when markets get exciting. So it was about psychology about getting appealed for short term forecasts and how it can, can use it. And the most wonderful transition happened over those 20 years. 10 years I spent as a scientist, right. And then 10 years I spent as an artist, because then certainly when I came to psychology, it’s but above feeling when it came to those lines that went up and down was literally taking the pencil thing I have a hunch that over the next couple of months, we will start seeing this. And I literally became an artist of have better pattern recognition is is as much an art as a science. And I immediately went into the artists position. So Can anybody be creative at Walmart? I don’t know. You know, sometimes we have to leave certain places. But Can everybody within that job description can find ways to connect more to be more creative to really express themselves? Absolutely. Because I lifted I learned about I needed a long time for that, I hope with your help other people that can do it faster. I literally needed 10 years. But it’s been a long time now, because I went from the left part of the brain to the right part of the brain. And you literally have to restructure your neurons to be to come out on the other side.

Brandon Handley 44:55

Now for sure, for sure. And I think Well, I think that with technology Today, not necessarily the, you know, compute power or any of these other things, but with the ability to listen to audios and go out and find what it is that is striking your chord. And you can go and you can do, you can build those neuron paths quickly. I pray, you can build this neuron pass quickly. So the others I asked about, like, you know, kind of, and I appreciate, you know, how you applied like the artistry to to your work and you became an artist in that space. But one of the, you know, you ended it with like, you know, the person at Walmart, can they be creative? Can they become an artist? I say yes, in the sense of, they create the experience. Right? You know, how do you create meaning in what it is that you do and the example that I use years ago, for me, was when I was banging around on Excel spreadsheets and press n Buttons every day as a man, all I do is I show it to work, I bang bang around on this machine, I press buttons, I say, what what are you really doing? And what am I really doing? And, you know, so for me, I was selling to a large service provider at that time. And I thought about the, the idea of what I was doing was enabling all the bits and zeros in like, everywhere that was happening because the work that I was doing was directly touching almost every bit of zero that you know, covered at least east coast. So, and, you know, I was like, well, who’s at the end of the end of that today? I’m creating relationships today I’m enabling, you know, these things. So, I would say, you know, for the person that is at Walmart, and if they can create a happy experience that they can help somebody locate, you know, maybe racquetball for whatever for that person’s dog. They’re creating an experience and so they are In essence creating, it’s your willingness to recognize your creative capacity.

Christian Wiese 47:06

That’s right. I have a beautiful story that I share in the upcoming book, which will come out maybe later this year, early next year. It’s called the daymaker. Did you hear that story? Now? Tell me about it. Okay, so there was a guy who was flying business class from Australia. And he was flying business class and he was sitting next to and you know, one of those very serious business type people and, and, and the guy said, so what do you do for a living? He said, Oh, I’m a daymaker. The guy looked at him as a daymaker. What are you okay, so it turns out, he was a hairdresser. But he said he had so much fun doing it and he had so much energy that, that he, you know, emitted in a sense he was doing He was making the day for people. And initially when you had to start this out a very interesting UI opinion of themselves, but then the start continues and says one day he was in this in a shop and a woman came one customer, she came two weeks ahead of schedule, it’s out. Can you speak to me in Excel? Absolutely. And he said on that day, they both had a lot of fun developing support, and he presumed that she had a special event that you had to go through. So you know, they spent an hour together and then she went off. And a week later, she got a he got a letter from her saying that on that day, she actually wanted to commit suicide, but she kind of wanted to look good. And by just hanging out with that guy and feeling his energy, and you know, she always liked him, he decided not to. So you know, that really gives meaning to the word daymaker. And I think very much like your spiritual experience to see ones and zeros. If we just if we just start To remind ourselves what kind of input we have, right? I think that already would be out of this point.

Brandon Handley 49:06

Yeah, yeah. No, I love that story because the impact that you’re having is so much greater than, than you’re giving yourself credit for. That’s right, right. That’s wrong. So well, you know, so you’ve got the two books, you’ve got the way of the Meister that’s out. You have the experience. Experiment. What’s the other one? Because a magnificent experiment, magnificent experiment. And now you’ve got another one coming out. Yeah. What’s up? Do you have a you have a working title yet?

Christian Wiese 49:34

Yeah, actually, we have a couple of books. So I mentioned my partner, we want to open a spiritual center and, and she has a mentor in Cape Town. And, and she has translated a book that deals with chick Gong. So the energy dynamics and we put out that that book because I think it really is addresses an area that that in our in our industry, I was almost tempted to say in our you know, in our profession is often overlooked the feelings of power feelings. So literally to understand the feelings that are going through it and having method of dealing with them. So that’s one very exciting book, The title is letting go release your suffering. Okay. The other book is a little bit more into the philosophical direction that I started to discuss here a little bit. It’s kind of what is religious state of no self, it’s really the ultimate freedom so that the title of the book is breaking free. So really the discussing the next step in the spiritual journey that happens to everyone, which is just in a sense, becoming part of a bigger oneness, which itself increasingly being, you know, out of the picture, which is really a lot of fun.

Brandon Handley 50:54

Right, right. I mean, once you remove yourself and you know, I talked about it without One of my first podcasts is kind of letting go and letting God

Christian Wiese 51:02

Right. Yeah. Right. Same idea. Right. Do you want to talk

Brandon Handley 51:08

about spiritual center at all? I just got coming up. How’s that looking for you? I think it’s super exciting for you. How’s it? How’s that? How’s that feel?

Christian Wiese 51:14

Yeah, so we got a little delayed with the COVID crisis, because, you know, meditation is all about hanging out with each other. We haven’t done anything. She sits in Washington, DC. So the hope is we start something in Washington, DC, but we will only get a reading on that next year. Okay. This is just about getting the book out and hopefully, we’ll build some momentum.

Brandon Handley 51:38

Awesome. I love it. I love it. So I think I think the book, both ones I’ve read, I’ve enjoyed and I think that they’ve helped me on my spiritual journey. They’ve helped me to, you know, see how you’ve gone through it right because others other Listen, people have gone through what you’re going through for any listener out there, right. So no matter what you think you’re going through Somebody has gone through this, you’re not the first you won’t be the last. That’s right. It is a it is a wonderful, crazy experience. But there are people like, you know, I can reach out to Christian if I’m going through something and just talk about it right? And he’s gone through it. A lot of the stuff that I’ve gone through or you’re very good at helping give me direction at least feel like hey, maybe not me, but maybe maybe go you know, look in this area, here’s, you know.

Unknown Speaker 52:27

And so

Brandon Handley 52:29

by reading your books, I can kind of see where my journey is going. And so I really enjoy that. So thank you for writing these books. Thanks you for sharing with with not just me, but with others, right? Your journey has been very, very helpful. Where should we send people to go kind of find you and get in contact with you?

Christian Wiese 52:47

No, I think the best way I mean, you can find me on Facebook, but otherwise, the best way is really my website. It’s w w w dot Christian and then my middle initial which is m which is also the maesteg And then my last name visa.com. And they can find everything access to the books and to the block and and also to somebody who wants to work with me my services. So that’s the best way of

Brandon Handley 53:15

awesome thanks for hanging out today.

Christian Wiese 53:16

Thank you so much for this

Load for lifters

Paresh Shah is a human being – 100% genuine article. check out part 1 for an in-depth introduction to Paresh.

We pick up where we left off on https://spiritualdope.co/paresh-shah/ – we dig on some integrity and some great ways to keep on going on if you are feeling down.

Places to connect with Paresh:

https://www.glimpulse.com/

https://www.liftersrising.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/pareshshah1

Whats a lifter look like?

Paresh Shah is a human being – 100% genuine article. Please read the transcript for his introduction.

We talk about what it is to be a Lifter, about manifesting, about being a homo luminous, transcending the mundane and living a life that may have at one moment seemed impossible…

Places to connect with Paresh:

https://www.glimpulse.com/

https://www.liftersrising.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/pareshshah1

paresh shah 0:00
Okay, so I would love to give the honest resume instead of like the the accolades that my mom and dad, we’re very proud but issues first is engineering class. I want to be like that to me. We’re starting to get boring even for me. Awesome. And so let’s revisit that and kind of come on air. Here we go. Real and just go. I love it. I love it. Man. So 54321 Hey there podcast. This is Brandon Handley on with Paresh Shah. We’re slinging some spiritual dope today and press. I love press for this because I started to read his, you know, online resume bio, which reads awesome, like in any corridor, right? But he’s like, Hey,

we’re doing spiritual dopes a we’re leading with spirituality. We are leading with authenticity. I want to share my real resume my life resume, so fresh eyes.

Brandon Handley 0:59
I don’t have that in front of me. I’d love to hear it though.

paresh shah 1:04
Thanks, Brandon. Thanks for having me on. I love this spiritual dope

concept, it’s more than a concept you’re actually

creating the energy around conversation through conversations that uplift you know, everyone who’s listening here and beyond because you don’t even need to be a listener because it’s a buy. It’s a buy. It’s it’s the, the the vibe of what you’re creating. So I must say you and yeah, it was kind of weird. Because part of you know, you talked about the journeys that you have been on Brandon and we’ve talked earlier about your your journey and the various journeys that we go on. And they’re a dear friend and you speak to me in a way that where you get me and we get each other and we we have telepathy in many ways, because we’re thinking the same thing at the same time. And there’s even evidence of it where we have written something down and say, Hey, you know what, you just said that I work so hard to that won’t even say I worked hard. Frankly, it came easy for me for most things to get that laundry list of whatever you would call his accomplishments. On that bio, I was like, and as you were reading it, this I was going oh my god, this is so boring. Can we like move on? And it was it’s so funny because I was like, I work so hard. My parents are proud. I actually have didn’t work hard in certain ways. Things just kind of snowball. Often, you know, it’s kind of like, you know, when the kid like, you’re good at stuff, and then people like, throw more stuff at you. And I was like, This is so boring. And this isn’t what this is about. And it felt kind of gross with my friends. So I wanted to thank you for kind of rewinding, rewinding, and that’s not what it’s about, primarily, and I think this whole sphere we’re in right now, as a world, one of the beauties that’s come out amidst the struggles and the suffering and you know, what’s really, you know, happening is it’s forced us, some of us to kind of go inside and go, what really matters here? What really matters here? And how do I want to show up, which is our third lifter mind shift that you’re familiar with. In the lifter leadership world we have serve up, listen up, show up with all of your yes and qualities that make you unique, and then act up. And I was talking with my brother yesterday, and I was like, why don’t we just have like an honest resume? And so I went out and I bought on his resume.com because the best way to remember an idea is spend 999 on GoDaddy and park the domain so you never forget the idea and feel you didn’t do anything about it. So honest resume. And so I started thinking and we were jamming on it. You know what would our honest resume be? And my brother

Brandon Handley 4:05
I really want to interject right like cuz teacher telepathy right earlier today I was listening to you know one of your other podcasts and you were talking about the time that you took off for a year to go travel with your wife and hike and do all the things you like houses one year absence can look on my resume and I wrote down is like, what happens if you take that thought away? You know, take that would build your life resume right like and you know, what does it look like to say? It doesn’t say there’s nothing wrong like it’s great go create a business, get people jobs, get them into a certain space and and and all these things. But what happens if your goal is to live an amazing life period? And you know, there’s not a fear of, well shit, I can’t I can’t take a year off and go explore life and what am I What am I

paresh shah 4:58
going to say about me? Myself, even my mind, right? We’re like, what are you going to do about the gap in your resume? I’m going to backpacking for one year and and there was truly that there was an aspect of that a little bit, but it was very much drowned out or over or I wouldn’t say overshadowed over lit by the possibility of how cool would it be to go backpacking for a year, we went to India and Nepal, we hiked the end of foreigners, my wife and I, she had just finished her PhD and so it was a great, like, you know, let’s just kind of see what’s going on. And I there was a little bit of that. What am I gonna have to say for myself? Because you don’t just like take off. Um,

and, um,

it was kind of funny because when I came back and was in the job market, I got a call from GE, from a headhunter and they had this cup The management program that you get to be, like, part of like, they’re like they’re your your starting leaders if you get to be part of this program, and they put you in different business units, so you can really kind of learn the ropes. And you know, kind of it’s like the leadership group. So I got a had a headhunter call me about that. And I was like, Yeah, see, I’m marketable. This is great. I’m getting ahead under call from GE, and one of my teachers, Professor, Joe Bauer, who’s still a great professor at Harvard Business School, we had this class called management is about management leadership, and he had a total crush on jack welch. Like every case, we had, like 50 I don’t know it was a semester course. And it was like a study how great jack welch is and how GE because the GE thing was like the gold standard of how do you you know, run a great enterprise based on how things were defined then. And so I had this conversation with the with the the client, the headhunters, client G, And I was excited go, I nailed it. Right. And they’re like, when you told them that you went backpacking for a year, they’re like, we don’t want somebody who’s gonna just like take off and do something like that. That’s not our way. And I was devastated. I was devastated. But then later on, I was liberated to go. Yeah, you know what, that’s not really my path. And so I’ve, you know, been an entrepreneur since then. So, yeah, the journey takes you to amazing places where new frontiers get open. And on that trip, one of the pivotal things we did was, we took Julia Cameron’s course called the artists way. It’s a it’s a book a workbook that you do. It’s a self guided workbook, and it’s called the artists way. And I had felt that I had gotten to left brain from my engineering and from my business work, and then I was in consulting as great, great left brain stuff like super cool projects. We were on And, you know, the musician from high school and other things we used to play with, sort of didn’t get enough voice. And so the artists way was a way of kind of recapping into the creative side. And so we started doing this, this course called the artists way by Julia Cameron. And I recommend it to anybody, anybody. And through the process that Julia took us through in this workbook. We started seeing the world in a whole different way and started experiencing some of the first

miracles non obvious

you know, coincidences, telepathy, and all kinds of extraordinary ways of experiencing the world. And she really opened opened my aperture around. You know how to see the miraculous, even in in in the darkness, and am I 100%? there all the time? No. But I didn’t even realize that was like a doorway. Before.

You know, this part of the journey.

Brandon Handley 9:09
I love it. I mean, because you were you were on you were on the managerial track you were you were on the fast track you were, you were bits, ones and ones and zeros, right? And you got to be productive, get in line and stay in line. And if you get out of line for a year, you can’t come back.

paresh shah 9:25
Okay. It was a fear of that. There was there was a fear of that. There really was,

Brandon Handley 9:28
I wanna, you know, I love that you’re bringing that up artists way. I’m gonna share this with you. I’m actually doing what is the right brain artists or whatever, right? I’m teaching myself and you can’t really see. Well that can

paresh shah 9:40
see that’s beautiful.

Brandon Handley 9:42
Right. But I mean, that’s, that’s, you know, they’re teaching you how to draw like, I’m doing that right now. I’m trying to engage my right brain, right, like and going through that process.

paresh shah 9:51
It’s so great. And you know what, in many ways, this whole right, not the right brain left brain characterization is it over simplification doesn’t really work that way. But we kind of we kind of use that as a vernacular. It’s really tapping into this, that creative, that intuitive and bringing it all together. My wife, Eliza, she studied with a Nobel Prize winning biologist Walter Gilbert. He won the Nobel Prize for biology. And he was off the chart genius like, you know, DNA sequencing. And I think he was in the company of the one who did the pea pod experiment in biology. Right, right. Yeah, that guy? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 10:40
Sorry. Like, I forget that. What’s the guy’s name? Michael Mendel

paresh shah 10:42
was it? Yeah, Joseph Mendel. So he was kind of in that league of like, super extraordinary minds. Off The Charts genius. Walter Gilbert and he, like he, when he was a lecture, like listening to some other Speaker a professor at Harvard, my wife pointed out that he’d have his little sketchbook and he would be sketching the person or the scene or the hand upside down. And, and I think he may have now I may be extended, but he may have even been using his opposite hand. And in doing so, it’s like, wait, why would you sketch someone upside down because that whole other perspective would lead to a very different outcome. And that was, you know, a kind of a glimpse of his genius of how he saw things very differently. And cultivated both aspects of his his genius. Then he became an artist and a photographer, and he sells scarves with his art on it. And so he’s, he’s been this polymath anyways. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 11:54
I love it. I think that um, you know, that talks to, I’m gonna I’m gonna weave in some real quick Guys if you’re joining in oppression I have had conversations before which you may or may not be picking up on and and the thing is we’re talking about spiritual dope and spiritual dope is is got its target line set up on you know we’re looking at what does it look like to lead with spirituality What does it look like to be a spiritual person but integrate or you know Professor heard you talked about it earlier and some of some things I was listening to it’s like interweave right be all of who you are not and don’t separate your spiritual self from your business self from this you know this other software you know be one self right but also recognize right the Divinity within is precious you know, you know gosh you had an expression of divinity right surfaces you had a great line on the Nobel Peace Peace. Peace one right we’re like, you know, let that divinity come out right. And, and when you do, I think you you You said you were having one of those buzz kind of days right? Give me what I would say today you’ve had a hit of spiritual dope right like you’ve hit a spiritual high Tell us about that. But again guys, we’re trying to align like people who have had success by leading or integrating their spirituality into their their overall lives and how you can do that for yourself and if you’ve been thinking that it can’t be done or if you’ve been concerned about what that might look like for you then come take a look at what’s happening here and spiritual though connect with a Paresh connect with anybody else connect with me. The people that bring it on? Yeah, is like let’s, let’s, let’s help you shine your light, right.

paresh shah 13:42
Ha, it’s, um, we had we had a team call today with our with some of our teams and we have hired 13 summer interns because I wanted to have as many of these young people because a lot of the internships have been canceled and it’s a total bummer. One of the ones that we just hired yesterday, he moved to San Francisco. And he was on his resume. He was one of 12 out of something like 4000 applicants to get like that internship. It reminds me of like that, you know that that movie, where the where, who is it goes to Google to be the interns.

Not Tom Hanks.

The guy from Night at the Museum anyway, the two older, older, older guys trying to come to me. So anyway, so and then he moved to San Francisco to start this job, and it just got canceled last week. And we’re like, oh, and you can feel it. These young folks are just like, dang. And so part of what we’re doing is trying to create as many opportunities for internship where people can have meaningful work, you know, make a contribution collaborate. And so we have actually more than a handful now, of interns and We had a team call today where people were just at the stage now where we’re giving each of these interns like, this is your project bread. And now, and this is your project, and we’re giving them like, real projects that are a bit bold for interns, and they are so amazing. And we’re getting so many things done that, you know, you talk about the day I’ve had, it’s Friday afternoon, and I was on with my team and we were just like celebrating the victories and it feels good to win we celebrate victories. It helps us not forget, we actually got a lot of things quote done, because sometimes you can get a lot of things done and then the next day go, Oh, I haven’t done crap. What a loser I am. You ever have that feeling? Oh, yeah, yeah. And so we were like, wow, we just and these young folks are taking on their like, My responsibility is I’m creating it’s it’s so energizing because as it pertains to spiritual dope, these young kids, they get it. They get it disproportionately. And we talk about being a lifter we talk about, you know, being open hearted and serving others and really seeing a vision of what you want to create that’s good for the world, and how you can attract that in even when you’re feeling in a crappy mood, or in a low period, which, you know, while today, it’s been one of those great days. It’s quite the roller coaster for all of us. And there’s all kinds of things happening. And there’s like this flow that’s going between the turbulence of people having like realizations about this is what I really love doing and I’m really a moved by it like your friend the medium. And these young folks. I call them kids but they’re they they’re getting this that we can’t keep up with them. They go Yeah, and when you talk about applying your yes and qualities, and really creating What you want, the way we see it is you could really, you know, you know, change the world and manifest this whole new way of being and, and they’re pushing the thinking and they’re really embracing it. They’re just soaking it up. And that to me is is one of the greatest things of today because we haven’t talked to them about two weeks. And I used to have weekly meetings and then we didn’t have to, we had two weeks and I, I told the team, I need a pep talk just to be in their energy, right? This gets things going it gets that flywheel going, when you move to a higher frequency of joy and celebration and gratitude. It’s from there that you can you know, get that Vantage on what you want to create, you know for for the world or it or in service and it helps you pop out of what gets you angry. And I was just telling my my sister Yes, yesterday that I had a day where I was on Facebook at the end of the day. I looked at myself and I tell him my kids, like, you know what I did? all day. I pretty much was on Facebook most of this day. What have I done and it was, I was like on Facebook for like five or six hours, and I was totally like, I couldn’t even get out of the sofa. And I was like, there’s got to be something good. Oh, that’s good. But they give me more, give me more. And I was so I got my vibration was like, Whoa, hmm. And I got into the car and my 77 Nova, and, you know, took off listening to some music very loudly and called a friend, like you were saying earlier today, like you feel the impulse to call someone and within within three or four minutes, we were back to you know, feeling good about the world and what’s happening. You can’t feel good about everything that’s happening, but you can hold a higher vibration that supports everybody. You know,

Brandon Handley 18:52
I say I think they I mean, you know, in terms of like the higher vibration and have have an elevated conversation is really kind of what we’re seeking. Like that, well, you’re having we’re looking for an elevated conversation. It’s not that these things aren’t important. It’s not that they aren’t happening. It’s not that you need to ignore them. But how can you elevate the conversation, bring it somewhere else and take it somewhere else entirely. And that’s the higher vibration that you’re talking about. Right? You You also, you’d mentioned like, you know, you don’t want to come from a scarcity power driven mentality, right modality. If you come from there, if you’re coming from a place of restriction, or fear of losing your place in line, right? That’s good things don’t come out of bad places.

paresh shah 19:40
Ultimately, they do when you look back at them sometimes I guess, but it doesn’t seem apparent. Right. Right. Well tie Right. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 19:46
And I’ll make it again, like, you know, coming from places of fear coming from places of scarcity, things can come out of there, like I was talking with somebody else, and they were saying, you know, ultimately, you need to hit rock bottom before you can, you know, bounce back up again and that has not you know i don’t care whose story is what story that has not been my story it’s very frustrating in to like for me to hear that line all the time because you can find yourself just wanting a different life right just realizing I think that you did with your pX 90 self right and with with with

Unknown Speaker 20:22
Tony Horton, Tony Horton but we love you

Brandon Handley 20:25
so, so fresh tell the story about what happened. You know so you’re you’re in you’re in. You’re in Paris and you’re you’re you know,

paresh shah 20:34
let’s call it being in a flat spin like goose goose and Tom Cruise. We’re in Top Gun where you’re just like something’s not working.

Brandon Handley 20:45
Yeah, I can take that. Yeah, yeah,

paresh shah 20:48
yeah, that’s kind of but not in the family side. family has always been wonderful supportive. Just kind of more in you know, kind of whatever you’d call it. I wouldn’t call it a midlife crisis unless I was in that mood it was it was a blender, a blender, but we don’t need to get into it. Part of the honest resume, by the way as a parent identical is, um, I prefer not to repeat the stories. And it would be cool if you could just like write down, by the way and here’s my journey. I thought I was all this. I thought it was all that I was really good at this and then this happened. And I realized I wasn’t this I realized this and that’s my story once and for all. So that we don’t live in our stories.

Anyway, this is apparently identical.

So p90x came in so I did not. I wasn’t, I didn’t feel attuned to direction let’s just say around what is the next step I thought that my thinking logical mind was the primary mechanism or dashboard in which to discern what the next action would be, etc and The The funny thing is you might call it well you know it’s Spirit spoke to me mediums books to be God spoke to me or somehow you listen to your true nature your higher self in yoga we call it own animal guru dev Namo your you call on your highest self to help you do your best. I didn’t really talk any of this I thought it was a bunch of hogwash, but I’m speaking to right now. Okay in the pendulum bride, and I got a message because I was in the flat spin and I’m like,

Unknown Speaker 22:34
you know,

paresh shah 22:37
what are they gonna do? What are they gonna do?

And then the message was you got to do something impossible press to get out of this situation. And I’m like, impossible. Who am I talking to? I don’t really believe in anything up there. Impossible, and I really wasn’t. You know, Constantly attuned to kind of listening to that spirit source. And I was like, Okay, sounds like I need to do something impossible. What is it? Do I need to like climb Mount Everest Do I need to like what’s impossible? And it came from so many places it was just like, like five or six conversations in a row around the inquiry of what’s impossible What do I need to do to get out of this spot spin? And I thought it would be like this. You know, big you know, go meditate for 500 days you know in it. I really need a K for this. Give me a cave give me a cave. Yeah, but make sure it is great espresso in the cave. You know, that’s the the spiritual dope. So what came before I really would even speak of things coming in the in the listening was You want to get out of this situation per rash? Like, yeah, it really doesn’t feel good and it sucks. And I feel kind of low right now. And it doesn’t make me a great dad either sometimes. And the answer was great. I got it for you. I’m like, Great. I’ll do it. I climb Kilimanjaro with my buddy Dave. I can do it. p90x. I’m like, What? You need to do p90x. I’m like you mean the. I’m Tony Horton, you up 90 days get the best shape of your life. And, and it was a joke. It was kind of like what? Right and I realized later that I had never pushed myself that hard. without someone kicking my butt to do it, ever actually in anything because, like academics and things came naturally I played tennis. Since Swimming, but it wasn’t really like, you got to show up yourself to do something really demanding where it hurts. And you got to get that extra pull up up. And so I started doing it, which was weird that I followed through on it, but it was kind of like the let’s call it a voice but it wasn’t a voice. It was a knowing, um

was Yeah, like to you that’s kind of impossible

to be like ripped and, you know, and be that, like so fierce, right I had I had not been fierce. Physically, I’d never played like football or anything.

And

so I started doing it and my little living room in a village in France where the kids went to school and we’d occasionally go to a dance garden, and I got into my body in a way I’d never seen gotten into my body and the message I got was like, Yeah, you’re going to do this. And if you don’t, this time, then shut the Bleep up about ever getting in shape. And if you end up being on the sidelines, you know, when your grandkids are playing football, just remember this and not in a loving way not in a in a you know, shame bill way or anything like that. Just like a dude, this is your moment, like step up is it and so I did it in not 90 days, it took me longer. But I really did it. Like I’d come home at one in the morning from work. And I’d put that disc in and I had never really put the disc in like that before in my life, put that disc in and go I’m gonna do this. And I actually did complete it. I felt really good about myself and showing up my kids like wow, Dad’s going crazy. Doing this stuff. And then and then Tony Horton and his whole gang of people all become like our friends in our house and you know, my kids come home to dad you hanging out with friends. Wherever today because Dre has like Tony sidekick. And then there’s Greg over here. And so they became personalities in the house. And I found the physicality and the pushing myself. And the message was, you know, and I was like, I did it, I did the impossible. I did something I didn’t feel I could do. And then the learning from that, or the lesson was, once you do one thing, it’s impossible. Nothing’s impossible. And so my flat spin started coming out. And so I kind of came out of my flat spin. And I was like, wow, okay, this feels good. I’m starting to really get some traction around other aspects of my business in my life and what I wanted to create, and then and I felt really good. Like I did the impossible, Tony, exit up. And what happened was then my wife decided to do it because she had seen, you know,

Brandon Handley 27:51
the results or whatever we call it.

Unknown Speaker 27:54
And don’t be shy.

Unknown Speaker 27:56
That’s all right. Yeah, it worked for you. I’m not so rip,

paresh shah 27:58
as but anyway.

So she’s like, I’m gonna do this. And so she started doing it and then guess who showed up in the spiritual domain? In my little on the shoulder here going, Hey, Paresh Guess who showed up?

Brandon Handley 28:14
Under the answer, so I don’t want to give it away.

paresh shah 28:17
Doubting Thomas.

Doubting Thomas was like a press. Yeah.

What if it was a fluke that you did that impossible thing?

I’m like, No man, I sweat. I I went from rubber bands.

To massive man.

Unknown Speaker 28:38
Massive man, you know me.

paresh shah 28:42
Oh, man.

Unknown Speaker 28:45
All the time.

paresh shah 28:49
I like the mini massive. I get mad. I went, I went for a minivan.

So I went and I was like, No, no, I’m not going to accept that. I I’ve read the Four Agreements

I’ve gotten. So I got into all the spirituality, and I found it like this amazing new world. And I was like, No, I’m not agreeing with that. It’s what you agreed to is what you experience is what you create. It’s what you out project. Like, I’m not gonna agree to that. It’s like, dude, dude, it was a fluke. It was a fluke. I’m like, No, so I started going online. And looking up. Can you do like, what if you do p90x multiple times, and there’s some guys who’ve done it like five times, they’re really freaky.

Unknown Speaker 29:39
There’s so

Brandon Handley 29:41
many pack.

paresh shah 29:43
So I said, you know, I’m gonna do it again. I’m gonna do this again. Shut up, shut up. And so I started doing it again. And again. I wasn’t so strong. Um, I’ve gotten I’m pretty much like a weakling. But my barbells and dumbbells were getting more heavy. And I my wrists, I didn’t like exercise my wrists and my wrists got injured. doing that, and I finally got it into my physicality. And I’m starting to really, you know, feel like what it feels like to push hard. Push yourself beyond, and I said, you know, this physicality of like, really being in the moment of something is really a powerful experience. And, and I’m feeling really powerful. I’m getting my fearlessness back, let’s go do something else and and the ideas are flowing. And so then I said, Well, let me do some yoga or something. So I can, you know, rest my wrist and just do some other and meditation. Thus, I got into the yoga and meditation, which is, you know, so part of,

Brandon Handley 30:53
you know, who you are and what you do, right. Right. I love Now, here’s the here’s my big Take away from that story, right is is the the whole idea. And the reason I asked you to share is because once you do the impossible once, right,

Unknown Speaker 31:09
and then you begin to see that other things

Brandon Handley 31:12
are fine. What else have I been holding yourself back for you today?

paresh shah 31:15
Exactly. Right, exactly.

Brandon Handley 31:18
Right. And it’s so funny because the way you tell your story about the tailspin, you know, I totally relate right and and, you know, you could you know, plenty and I think you and I had this conversation, plenty people could call it a midlife crisis. I like the idea of awakening, but a second chance at life. I’d like you like you would mention there’s like,

paresh shah 31:38
a second chance at life. That’s pretty good, right? Because even awakening is kind of like, well, what’s that really mean? I mean, he says, it’s kind of a chance, a second chance of living. Yeah, like that.

Brandon Handley 31:48
But the thing is, is that, um, you, you made a conscious real superconscious decision and recognize that there were two paths you could go down right? You I could I could get on a path where I sit down on my ass and watch my grandkids play and it’s great. But if I have the opportunity to participate, I choose that opportunity. So I really view that the whole you know, second second chance, right? you get you get presented, right, you get pretty bad. It’s a presentation. It’s a present

paresh shah 32:24
to like that. Yeah, it’s,

Brandon Handley 32:26
it’s a gift it is it’s a gift. Because because here you go. And it says, All right. You have, you know, you’re smart enough, you know, the outcomes if you continue this way for the rest of your life. Make a choice, right. And once you make that choice, it’s put up or shut up.

paresh shah 32:46
Right, in every in every moment of your life

Brandon Handley 32:48
for the rest of your life, actually, because

paresh shah 32:50
there’s a lot you caught you constantly have. Right, right. It’s way but it’s also good. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 32:55
it’s also not until you recognize how powerful That moment is where you make that choice. Yeah. Right. Just like your point, you know, so, you know, if you’re listening, you know, press has got like a V, they’re like, you know, there’s an intersection there. And this is this is the power of choice. Yeah. Which which not for nothing, it took me 40 years. All right, I’m not I’m not the I’m not the fastest one of the bunch, right to recognize that when the power of choice and exactly what that’s gonna mean, first of all, you got to choose to own your life. This is your life that everything that happens is it’s a choice, right? You, you made that choice to lose that job at GE because you went on that hike, right? You know, you made it maybe not

paresh shah 33:47
consciously, right, maybe not consciously, right.

Brandon Handley 33:49
And you showed up there when you showed up there.

paresh shah 33:51
Right.

Brandon Handley 33:52
You accepted that right? You own it. You said all right. Well, all right. Well, that was a choice I made right and here we are. This is my life now. And these are the The choices that I’m making. And that’s the look and again, I think this is stuff that you’re teaching with lifter leadership to with the opportunity let’s let’s talk about, you know, bringing all of who you are to work right like, let’s because listen I want I want people to understand that you are leading a spiritually LED, you know, art center of all of who you are your Divine Self. Yes, but you’re doing it with a purpose and a passion that is leading others in that direction so that they can know give give me give you give that you give the story because it’s yours itself.

paresh shah 34:33
Yeah, so our team is this lifters thing is really

resonating. It’s resonating with a within our team within these young folks who like yeah, that’s how we would like to be led, you know, give us responsibilities. let us apply our yes and skill set and show up in different ways. And so When I will describe to you I’m going to draw it but I’ll guide in space as well for the audio listeners is like the Four Agreements.

Pop quiz asshole. What are the Four Agreements Brandon come on you can nail

Brandon Handley 35:15
me I don’t I just you know be impeccable with your words like the

paresh shah 35:19
right okay? The snipers taking the laser beam off your head. Look, I mean that’s a shame. That’s I’m going down I’m gonna be impeccable with my word.

Brandon Handley 35:30
picking one.

paresh shah 35:32
And you know what that might be. All you need to do is be impeccable with your word, put your word out there and then receive and accept and let it go. I think that’s pretty much the simple truth that my the teachers who I most respect convey and one of these days I’ll get it. Um, but yeah, that was a speed reference would I believe was filmed here in LA so I’d love to see that. Now that I’m in LA and see that school bus with galleries that dun dun dun dun dun Cuz Now I know what the five is. I know what the 405 is, and I think it ends at La. So that’s an action movie. But anyway, um, the four agreements are very powerful, be impeccable with your word, always do your best.

Don’t make assumptions. And what’s the other one? There’s one more. Okay, listeners, you know it, you know, the back of what

Brandon Handley 36:29
you call it.

paresh shah 36:30
Don’t take anything personal. Okay, that’s very, very great one. So

those are the poor. And so, and it’s all about making agreements with yourself and with what you’re willing to accept, in, you know, your your world. Now, there is a collective consciousness where you can’t begin to say, Well, you know, I’m agreeing with the violence that’s going on or I’m agreeing with the division or the other ring and the brutality and you know, actually And around that is important and essential. So I don’t want to, you know, convey that, you know, it’s just that simple bippity boppity boo, you know, I’m not agreeing with this, and therefore it doesn’t exist and put your head in the sand. So in a similar way to the Four Agreements, lifter leadership has, for what we call mind shifts. We need to shift our minds to adapt and evolve into a new way of being as humans and as humanity. And what’s happening is people are aligning up with these ways of being and what we have found from the business perspective. And from the innovation, team motivation, customer loyalty. Sustainability perspective is that this model works for organizations to be able to do their jobs and, and thrive very effectively in today’s time, so we have four mind shifts. And it’s not a mindset. We don’t want anything to be set in stone, everything is always moving always evolve the clue that we are notes in a sacred song. That’s just a symphony of energy moving through what appears as the universe to us, which is a song all around us and we are each a unique divine expression and unique divine frequency pulsating in no other way down to where I believe every hair is an antenna, a different little antenna 20% that creates a unique note, and we’re all notes in a sacred song. And we could just fly in the song and let it be it just you know, respond to what comes and take the next right action or we can fight and be discarded and attitude. cetera. So we have for mind shift and lifter leadership. The first mind ship, we call serve up, serve up game on is that you game in town serve up and this game is a shift from scarcity to abundance from me, too We from that command control dominating way of being to cooperation and co creation, right and so the just observe up is to recognize that the hunt is over, it’s no longer about hunting. Okay lifters don’t need to hunt lifters can attract cuz they saw a whole different game.

Brandon Handley 39:45
I got to tell I got to tell you, right so i’m gonna i’m in a new I’m in a newer job role right right now and I saw that they were bringing on what they called hunters. Right? And so I had, we had to give a presentation on you know what we’re doing or whatever And I, the girl that I’m working with, I was like, Can we change this? kind of want to be a hunter? I was like, Can we change this and we win and we call ourselves rainmakers. Right? I love it and, and they accepted that too because I mean, the art art or title or job was like rain or was hunters right and everybody’s accepted our rebranding and I’m just like love

paresh shah 40:21
that isn’t that feel great?

Brandon Handley 40:23
Oh my god cuz I like I don’t make me feel like a hunter like I’m running out there like you talking about like with and I just remembered our conversations right I’m like, I don’t want to be this photosphere out there trying to catch my catch my next meal, you know and and,

paresh shah 40:39
and divvy it up because it’s all about market share not very, you know, the mind shift is the market share scarcity, competition, right sharing. That’s the new economy. That’s the new way of being

Brandon Handley 40:50
so to to just create something together. What exactly what can we come together here to co co create, right there’s something here and if you and I can can you know If we can be impeccable with our words, right? We can if we can come together in those ways and and and identify each other as humans, trying to, you know, bring better things to the world, right and improvement somehow, then we can co create this thing, right? And yes, I don’t need to hunt you, we’re going to attract each other.

paresh shah 41:20
Exactly. I don’t want to be a piece of meat. I don’t want to be a piece of meat. So anyway, what the, the first mic is, is about serve up service instead of transaction. Right? And it’s serve up. It’s a new game. It’s a new game. And the game is a very different game with different rules. And when we shift into this lifter way of being, then everything works a lot better or most things work a lot better. So that’s serve up the first mind shift that we just talked about. The second mindset is Listen up. Listen up, and we teach four types of listening because listening is The new way is the new language, essentially. And we teach four ways of listening. One way is listening to your embodied dashboard. So what is your intuition telling you what your gut telling you? And let’s consider that part of your brain in addition to that logical and rational, you know, kind of more mathematical or analytical way of being which also has its place, but let’s really tune in to our embodied listening and go you know, does this feel like it’s an integrity does this does this is feel right, what’s the right thing to do on the front lines in this situation with this customer and tuning in to that feeling and we call it you know, having more than a feeling it’s like really like, it’s more than the feeling that gets us into that. It’s the spiritual dope, like when you really tap into that vibration of of

Basically that that embodied knowingness as an additional way of responding. Then we listen then we have listening to others. And then we have listening to that inner self, which is the whole mindfulness piece. So lifters have a mindfulness aspect. So that is listen Ops, we have server. First one, listen up. The third one is show up. And that’s like the centerpiece of this. And there we say it’s about writing your yes and breathing. So you’ve

Brandon Handley 43:28
got thanks for tuning in today, guys. This is gonna be a split file. But I want to make sure that the ending where you can connect with Paresh is available to you. So I’m keeping that on the end of both tracks. So this is week one, at the end of week one, you’re just going to be able to hear where you can connect with them. Don’t be surprised when you hear the same ending on week two. Shaw, everybody. Thank you so much, man for taking the time today for for reconnecting. Where? Where might you look? I mean, where am I going to some people find press today?

paresh shah 44:05
Ah, well, we are all one according to Mooji. And so get them here and there you are there I am there there. There it is.

If you go to our website lifters rising calm the tea team, as you know put some things out there as resources. If you feel you’re a lifter, which you know I’m imagine your your audience gets attracted into your your messaging, then come to lifters rising calm, maybe share your story. Connect with us if we can be of help to you. That’s one way of getting in touch with us. We are also creating an app. This company, that’s basically an app for lifters is the way to describe blip pulse. And so we’re going to be getting, we’re putting this app out into the world. That’s all about Love big lifters and and you know creating a messaging and kind of social media experience that’s around love and happiness and joy and basically spreading the spiritual dope, I guess is how we might your hope dealer I mean, oh my goodness. But as I told you know not due to sex, drugs and rock and roll of this, this situation here so so yeah we’re so we’re going to be launching a beta on that app and so connect with me however you like through LinkedIn or lifters rising and we’re going to be having certain people be beta users to help us really flesh out this experience that helps us share love and compassion and caring and giving loving impulse which is what glint pulse is really oriented around so that’ll be glim pulse, calm GL impulse calm, the giving, loving, impulse, cheery, that giving loving impulse so we’ve got lifters rising calm and good Paul dot com. And if we can be of any service to you, your audience in any way. Absolutely, we’re here. We’re here to serve up and we want to listen up to you so we can show up in our best way to act up and make a difference. All around noms day.

Wednesday Brandon, thank you so much Brandon Handley.

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