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What is going on? What is going on BJJ report, start a Captain’s log, all those things,

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all those things.

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We are,

Brandon Handley 0:16
in turn a fan down here, I don’t want the fan all the way up, I want the Phantom swamp like, I really want that on. We are, we always have the opportunity to create or consume, create or consume. And that’s usually honestly, when I decide to want to make the decision to press the record button. I asked myself, do I do I? Do I feel like consuming or do I feel like creating? And do I feel that what

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I’m feeling?

Brandon Handley 0:56
It’s up to us a nice golden retriever. Do I feel like creating are consuming and no matter what really, you’re always creating, if you’re consuming something, you’re creating some thoughts about whatever it is that you’re consuming. My idea this morning was though, let’s wanna share some things. What are those things that I felt like sharing this morning? It was, it was on the tip of my tongue when I when I first started and strung the mic up. And I was listening to before I even got going here I was listening to start a song from so long ago, music goes better with you. And

Unknown Speaker 1:40
I just just

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love the song.

Brandon Handley 1:45
So let’s see, I don’t know that I’ve actually got something to share or create coming out of. That’s that’s kind of that’s what it was on to my time you see a switch? Do you let it go? And it comes right back to you. So it was this idea that I know that I’ve shared before I’ll share it again that BJJ going to Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is a part in part of my spiritual practice. It’s this is that is one aspect of when I do it, that’s spiritual dope for me. And I bring that up because of two things. One, I’ve got a friend that What’s up, who has just started doing some BJJ and she’s asked me herself, she goes, you know, she’s only gone to a couple lessons so far. And she said, she’d said, What was it? About BJJ for you, Brandon, that that really made it something that really brought it home? What was it for you that really brought it home? And I told her I said you know big a big part of it is that when you’re when you’re learning it when you’re beginning it. And at all times when you’re when you’re in it, that’s one of the few times that I’ve been able to find myself to be 100% present and engaged. First of all, because you’re trying not to die. Season theory, right? So your brain, your brain, your mind is all in the ego is at at play. And you so it’s like Oh, you got my attention here he goes like all right. You got my attention. And that’s especially especially in the very beginning. You’re You’re 100% engaged and you are in survival mode. And one of the reasons that you can only be in survival mode is because you don’t know shit yet. When you’re in BJJ and you’re just getting started and the beauty of this is the 490 percent plus of the people that get started in BJJ they don’t know shit, everybody starts from the same place. Even if you’ve watched it and read it, it’s not the same as the actual experience. You cannot 100% intellectualized Brazilian jujitsu is not the same as having the experience. Hey, right. So you’re in there and you’re learning it. Everybody starts from the same place and as you’re learning it You begin to put into practice the things that you’re learning. So now, not only are you 100% engaged, and you’re in survival mode now, because you have an idea of what is happening to you, because you have an idea of some of the expectations because you have an idea

of some of the possibilities.

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Thanks.

Brandon Handley 5:38
And a lot of times too, you’ve also engaged with the same partner over and over and over again, because you’re practicing with people in your class. So, now you you begin to have an idea of how it’s all working out. And you begin to be able to disengage the straight up survival mind the one that’s freaking the fuck out being like, Oh my god, you’re gonna choke? I don’t know how to stop it. Oh, my God, I’m getting choked. I’m getting hurt as taptap armbar, tap, tap she, how did that happen? triangle. Come on, man, they got me in this one last time. So you began to realize, you know what’s coming up, you begin to realize a either more offensive advantages that you have. And you can find and you begin to see those openings, your your awareness of the potential begins to expand. And as you see, the potential of things, like I said, start to slow down, who begins to breathe a little bit easier. And you begin to do things on purpose, with intent. And if you’re hearing some of the language being used here, that you find is spirituality, you can begin to see that. That’s the spiritual practice, the spiritual practices. Honestly, we all start from the same place. We all learn have different potentials from different angles from different teachers in different ways. And different schools of thought. I’m on my third school, third BJJ school. And each one has a different approach. I would not say that any one is better than the other. They all each have their own unique way of doing things, or they’re different from each other. And I believe, at least as far as I can tell, each school has a different intent. And what are they? How are they training? How they want to train? How do they want to come across? What is their intent for that class? And so how else does that come across in spirituality, like the different religions, which are inspired by different teachers that have a different intent, a different intentional practice a different wave of achieving the same outcome. And I bring that up, because, you know, one of the other guys in there were joking around today. And he’s bigger, stronger, faster, all the things and was the last last roll of the day. And I was looking for one more and I was like, God, anybody with you? And he’s like, I was like, I was like, I’m just kidding, man. Like, I just know that, you know, whatever. You know, I was looking for some fun. He’s like, We’re not here for fun. Like we you know, we have we have different desired outcomes. I enjoy the physical activity I enjoy the spiritual practice is more technical, right? He’s working on something different. And I get it. He’s got a different desired outcome for today’s practice. We have a different approach to what is happening here. But the the overarching question that Deb asked was, what is it that that really sparked in me and for me to think, think I was just, yeah, I was just rounding the corner out of my my awakening, you know, midlife crisis, awakening existential crisis, whatever you want to call it, right? I love the Self Realization foundation. It’s a really great talk. And I don’t know the guy’s name. He’s an old Swiss guy. I think he’s passed away. Now he was giving a talk in the White House. I think in the 2000s, early 2000s. And what he says is, that’s the reminder from God, you know that that’s what you’re seeking. That’s that’s

when when you realize that that’s really what it is that you’re seeking in life is that connection to God’s universe, create creative source, all that the source is the source that creates worlds. That’s what taps in. That’s what taps in during that time.

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And

Brandon Handley 10:55
there are so many, again, different outcomes bidding was around the corner out of that, when I found Jiu Jitsu. And it wasn’t until more artillery artillery thought about it as my spiritual practice. But it wasn’t until that I’d heard a vedantic talk by Swami Safari, or your prayer Nanda. And he had just mentioned how, when it’s a jujitsu, it’s a fighting art. And when it becomes Judo, it becomes more of a spiritual practice. And I think that it was the same with like, you know, I’m making things up now, but definitely, definitely was like, you know, talking about the sword arts with qinzhou or kenjutsu, or, you know, the sword, sword arts, into kanjo becomes becomes a spiritual practice. And, for me, that that’s what jujitsu is, it’s a spiritual practice, it’s an opportunity to also recognize and honor everybody, regardless of what belt they are, where they are along in the practice that comes in there to honor them and the effort that they put in. There is the ego. After a certain point, kind of checks out and jujitsu, checks back and everyone’s won, don’t get me wrong, I can’t say that it’s 100% checked out. But it checks out. Because you realize that you’re all there for each other, you’re all there to benefit one another. And you’re there. As a school, and not so much as a singular unit. Yes, of course, you’re there for your own good, Jessica, Portia there for your own practice. But there’s a certain point where you’re there. And it’s because it’s a school. And you’re there for all the other people just like they’re there for you. And I remember, I remember leaving the one day making the joke. Instead of saying, hey, thanks to everybody else. And, again, you gotta understand that I’m very tongue in cheek and just trying to have some fun. Like, you’re all better today because of me. And again, tongue in cheek, but at the same time, we’re all there for each other, we’re all there to make each other better whether or not somebody totally dominated me. Or I got them in something, right? Because even this is this is another part of jujitsu, that even even the days that you seem to fail a lot. I just use that word, you fail, you get submitted. Those are the days that you can really learn a lot. Those are the days that you really had the opportunity understand what was your position? What was your approach? What is a way to not even necessarily avoid that? What is you know, avoided? Sure. So how can you How can you defend against it? How can you make sure that you don’t get caught in that position? Again, what what are the countermeasures? So there’s so much that whenever I think I still think to this day, it’s one of the best things that startup in my life. I’d encourage anyone to pick it or some type of martial art. It’s one of the only ones that I can think of that you know, is fully contact fully immersive and can offer this experience And the way that it does, you know, in such a way that when you leave and you’re done, you’re like this, you’re inspired, you’ve got life coursing through your veins, you’ve accomplished, something you’re working towards. Really not working towards anything except for continuous improvement. And there’s still so much more that I keep going on. But so those those are some reasons that pop to mind. And they will they were inspired by questions that I was asked. Last night. I’m super excited again, for my friend Deb, who’s getting started. She’s feeling the love Jones and that one.

You know, she’s thinking about having her son do it. Like that was another part of it, getting to do it with my children. And then today, you know, Anthony, you know, good dude, solid guy talking about you know, we don’t do this for fun than I do. Right. And that’s the other thing too. All of those approaches are open to you. You can go in and you can do it for any reason. Right, you can do it for fun, you can do it for competition, you can do it simply for physical therapy, you can do it for just learning yet another art anywho all those things, all those reasons are the reasons that I would recommend grabbing some BJJ for yourself. Alright, check you later.

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Brandon Handley 0:00
Alright guys, what is going on? Welcome a spiritual dopers working with a small group. And I figured I’d share on the podcast to the book is called Are you ready to succeed? This is about the third or fourth time I’ve gone through this book, it’s very powerful. I’m gonna be working on chapter one today, and one of the things I’m working on is do a vine map of this. So you may want to check out the video, you may want to just listen to podcasts nanji, May, you may just want to reach out to me. But that that’s what today is about. Yeah, so we’re gonna be we’re gonna be sharing some of that with you. The book is again, are you ready to succeed streak Kumar Rao. Great book, I found it when going through, you know, my Ted bench fees. And he’s got a video a TED talk called, you know, you are hardwired for happiness. that inspired me quite a bit, pick up the book. And when I first got the book, in the beginning of the book, it basically tells you, you need to commit to this, you need to be ready to go through it, you should have a group to do it and all these other other pieces. And I thought that was pretty cool. But I wasn’t ready at the time took me a year to even decide to pick up the book. And then I went ahead and I decided that I would also I would also create a group to do it with and I did that. And this is I think the third or fourth year that diet each year I get a little bit different takes from it. And each year I grow a little bit more and come at it from a different angle. And just just wanting to share some of it with you. This is the first year that I’ve gone as deep as I’ve gone. Where I mean, I’ve got notes written I’m holding up on hold up the video, but i’ve you know, I’ve already highlighted it for the past couple of years. But this year, you know, I’ve got I’ve got new highlights, I’ve got new underlines. I’ve got notes in the I’ve got notes in the actual book, where are you? What are these things making me think of? All right, what is one of my takeaways? What’s my level of understanding as I approached this book, this year, and this time, so this year, and this time, I will be recording, like I said, the this mind map that I’m using an app called x mind, I got this idea from God, gosh, man, what’s the guy’s name Rodriguez, he does some amazing videos over on YouTube. And I saw him going through his ex map, an ex mine and sharing out some other books that he’s done. And I figured, hey, let’s try that out for just myself as a way to again further ingrain some of this stuff and really embody it. The knowledge so I’m gonna go ahead and I’m going to pop over into I’m doing this in a video, like I said, I’m gonna pop over to x mind. The book is going to be rd rates succeed. The first chapter that we’re dealing with here is his ideal life, right talks about what does it look like to build out your ideal life? And you know, because he has some questions in there, he says, Hey, are you you know, do you feel he sets the whole thing up? Right? Do you feel stagnant is uh, do you have low Connections is it you know, as you feel like life is short, and talk through it, because again, look every day, this this is some of the stuff makes you crazy writing every day that you’re not radiantly alive and brimming with cheer is a day wasted, which is to me, like an uppercut into the soul. It takes your breath away. All right. Um, he also talks about the idea that there’s a nonlinear relationship between the work that you do and the results. And he also ties that into a story

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of like a Zen master. Right? So it turns into like a story of a Zen master the uses to, you know, illustrate this and basically, you know, let’s say a monk or a lay person comes up to a Zen master or just a person who has mastery and goes, Well, how long is it going to take me? Master to get to your level, or at least a level of mastery? Because if you work at it now, it’ll take 10 years. A guy goes bad 10 years. Well, what happens if you’re at it? 24 seven, if all I do is is this? And his intent is to cut the time in half and in his mind is And this took me five years. And the master goes, if you double your efforts, instead of taking 10 years now will take you 20, it will take you 20. And when you think about it, you just think about all the efforts that you put into everything. And in my mind, it kind of brought up this this idea of if you’re also again, this comes from a level of understanding all the other stuff that I’ve got my mind. So it comes up with the idea of all the imagine, you know, nature abhors a vacuum, that’s, that’s the line that I’m working with here. And maybe instead of putting all my energy into a space, I create the space and let nature fill that vacuum. And so what’s that look like? It means again, if I’m putting all my effort, if I’m doubling my efforts, I’m not allowing anything else to get in. To my space, i’m not i’m not i’m putting all my energy versus letting some other energy or ideas into it, I think, you know, right now, my current level of understanding, that’s how I that’s how I see that. So in the ideal life section, it also talks about learning to create serendipitous moments. If you keep doing what you’ve always done and acting in the way that you’ve always acted, you can pretty much and thinking the way you’ve always thought you can pretty much expect to have the same results. So what does it look like to create a serendipitous moment, maybe you’re inspired to go volunteer somewhere, you’re there because you simply want to be there. And, you know, you run into some other people who believe in the same cause, and, and, and they, you know, they’re in the spirit of giving their opening, giving and the happy to be there. And they know that their efforts are meaningful, and you create a connection with that person, then that person and you connect and then further further on throughout life and you know, eventually create something together. That would have never happened if you didn’t leave your house because you are inspired to go volunteer, go do something, it doesn’t have to be a volunteer activity. But that does it does look like acting on your inspiration or inspired moments in order to create those serendipitous moments. And that’s right there be moved by deep inner conviction and you What do you believe in what is powerful for you? Right. I believe in this pledge believe in this. I believe in this book, I believe in you know, caring for my children, I believe in things for my family. For before like, career, all right. I believe that you know, I want to see what happens here or or even within right? If you look at the motto, I think I was Keller Williams for a little bit. It’s God family, career, God family work, right. And as as we kind of come along this path and if you’re a fan of Vedanta, or you know any other religion, they all tell you kind of focus on God first, but what does that mean? That’s going to be you know, something that’s up to you. So, you know, your ideal life again, you there’s something in that you deserve, right? You deserve to wake up and have a brilliant and beautiful life that’s filled with joy. So, how do you know that this book would be a fit for you? He goes through this book and it says, Hey, you know, how do you know this book would be be for you? Well, it basically this was the line of the book that that I knew that it was for me. Do you have the nagging sense that there’s a great deal that you have to accomplish in this somehow? You are not living up to even a fraction? even a fraction

Brandon Handley 9:20
of your potential?

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That’s it That’s a hell yeah, for me it was a hell yes. Every time I read that line, it’s a hell yeah. Is this is comfort, strong and growing again, that’s a big Hell yeah. A big Hell yeah. Are you willing to make the effort to Know thyself every time? What who is thy self goes back into that deep inner convictions. Right? Who? Who are you?

Unknown Speaker 9:52
Right?

Brandon Handley 9:54
That’s where we kind of get into you’re not living up to even a fraction of your potential. Where’s your connection who With right, according to his book, you know, these are these are just a couple of the the key indicators that you are indeed a fine fit to we pick up this book and check it out why change matters, right? You know shifts of consciousness can occur with started startling rapidity. When I first picked up this book, I think that I was in I was in just a, you know, follow these steps, and these are the things that will happen for you. kind of mentality, it was very external. It was very, I guess, career externally motivated. And is somewhere in between reading this book and, and, and the first and second time, it has some massive shifts in consciousness. And it’s hard not to say that the part of that didn’t because it wasn’t because of this book, or in part because of it. So where are a couple of areas that need to change, you know, where, where change will need to occur. So that’s individual change. And I think that that’s, that’s fairly self explanatory. It goes on to so there’s three levels of it. So the individual, organizational and societal individual fairly self explanatory. Organizational. goes over says, look, the old command and control hierarchies are unsuited to our current era. Right? That and, and some of the change mechanisms that are out there, they’re, they’re really literally just just band aids. Right. And I love the visual that sukumar puts out there is that band aids cannot cope with a severe artery, right? She shouldn’t need surgical, high level medical assistance, you know, a complete and total, you need the doctor, right? He’s somebody who can really come in and help with that. So that’s an organizational change, right? And then under societal value changes, better leaders will only emerge when we change what we honor. Right now, we honor a lot of this material, external success only at the detriment to the detriment often, of the internal personal self, to the family to too many other things. And it doesn’t have to be that way. God, I love this line Tuesday of spreading ripples from a stone tossed into a pond. And this is under societal, right spreading ripples from a stone and toss it upon with ripples growing stronger instead of attenuating. Let’s take a look at it in this in this one way. We can look at it in in kind of a social network kind of way. Or if you’re from the finance world, one at one of the things that they’ll have you look at and finance when you’re going through it. Business Finance and and you know, who’s kind of like the most likely to pay? Or, you know, be engaged with you? Is it the person that has, you know, kind of put the most money in? Or is the person who’s paid last I mean, that’s, that’s one of the that’s one way to look at it. Right? Generally speaking, it’s going to be the person who’s engaged last with you. Versus, you know, over time, so who the one closest and most recently engaged is going to be your stronger ripple. Another way to look at it as kind of as, as you speak your truth, as you engage others, the ripple you know, you know, attenuate it means that it gets, you know, kind of weaker as it goes out there. Instead, it’s going to grow stronger. And we’re going to talk a little bit about that as we get into the third report societal change, and you’ll see how and why that can happen. But again, imagine, imagine that, you know, it’s weak from the center and it’s not until later that that, that that, that that ripple finally grows into a tsunami

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