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Brandon Handley 0:00
Welcome back spiritual dope we are working on are you ready to succeed written by Mr. Rao? And we are on chapter four, you can’t kill it and it won’t shut up. And we’re on part two of how many I don’t know, it’s just God, we’ll have to, we’ll have to play by ear. We just finished up with by golly,

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I’ll stop that mental

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chatter. And now we’re going to get over to an incredibly fertile plot of land. So the deal is, look, mental chatter is not the the overall enemy. It only seems to be the enemy, because you just let it run amok. I’ll give you my, my chickens, for example, right? Like, if we don’t clean up bathroom makes a big old mess, right? If you don’t, if you don’t know that they’re running around, it’ll make a big ol mess like our kids, right? If we, if we leave him alone for too long in any one area, with all the things, they’ll make a big mess, because you haven’t been paying attention. I know mine, mine, don’t do that. And you haven’t been aware of it. So the idea is, though, now now you are aware of it. All right, now you’re aware that, you know, you’re you’ve got this mental chatter going on. And it’s been going on all this time. Sreekumar says, hey, look, imagine this is a plot of land with plenty of fertile ground. And if you’ve ever, if you’ve ever just kind of cleared off a spot in your yard or anywhere, and then you walk away from it for a while, you know, with your intention was, Hey, I’m gonna, you know, do this garden. I mean, I don’t know how many of you guys tried to do a garden over, you know, 2020 COVID. But what happens is, if you don’t pay attention to it, you’re gonna get all kinds of overgrowth, and there’s no way that you’re going to be able to see, you know, the bare ground that you left behind is going to be so much overgrowth, it’s like, wow, I’m not even gonna bother, screw it. Like, I’ll get to this next year. I know, that was me and my, my garden this year. So but imagine now what what happens if you leave this incredibly fertile plot of land alone for years, and years, you’ll have a forest job a big old mess. So your mind is pretty much the same thing. Right? Your mind will grow and nurture no matter what you kind of, you know, let in there or on there, it can not be prevented. There won’t be it’s impossible, right? Something’s going to grow there. It absolutely will produce. And here’s the good news. The good news is you may influence the garden, right, it’s going to take, it’s going to take some weeding, it’s going to take some rowing. And eventually, if you’ve ever had a Successful Garden, you’ll know that you’ll have so much leftover and you’ll have an abundance, you’ll have so much leftover, that you’ll be sharing it with others. The I remember a garden that I had a few years ago, and a fig tree and all this stuff I had so much I didn’t know what to do with it, though I couldn’t even with the tiniest garden, I had so much I didn’t I had to give stuff away. Right? This is this is like your mind when you nurture these, these awesome thoughts when you begin to nurture? How you cultivate the mind, right? I mean, it’s literally cultivation of the mind. So the deal is, you’ve been away from your mind, you’ve been away from tending to your mind for four years, right? You’ve been you’ve not been tending to the idea of your mental chatter you just been like that? Well, that’s just how it goes. And it rolls out this way, right? Because who has taught you previous to now that you just you write it out, there’s just your thoughts, your thinking your thoughts, and there’s one thing you can do about them, they come they go and you know, you talk yourself like shit that’ll happen. But deal is of course we know this now. That’s not that’s not necessarily true. So when you show up to your garden, and it’s a fucking mess, don’t be surprised, right? The real thing you want to do is be grateful that there are some useful plants right thoughts and ideas anything good at all in there. And then literally set about to tending to that shit, you got to imagine that imagine the the people that came to the United States of America, and they had to they had to cultivate the land right in order to grow they had to clear down fields and forests and they had to create fields and they had to do that do a lot of that they’ll do a lot of work. That’s your mind right? You know just pretend like you’re no secrets for Columbus when there’s somebody Christopher Columbus man, but the deal is imagine years some years some adventure, right? And you get stranded at some Island and right now you’re you come into a place that you’re very familiar with your mind, you know, the things that are in there and and now you know Now you know that you can create within your mind, right? So we’ve got this, we’ve got this idea of your mental chatter. Now you’ve got the idea of, you know, awareness, right. And he’s got a great line. And it’s the weeds in your mind will wither

once exposed to the light of awareness, and you know, plenty of people will tell you this one too, that, you know, darkness goes away, once you expose it to the light, right, it’s super, super simple, same thing. And you will recognize as you begin now, with their, with your practice, the distracting and unsupportive thoughts are the things that are bringing you down and simply not serving you, you’ll be able to, you’ll be able to recognize those now. And, you know, simply recognizing that you’re having those thoughts will tend to diminish them, right, it’s kind of the idea of weeding them out. As built up, round up in your mind, if you will, or again, you know, think of it as like this kind of nocturnal plant that once exposed to the light just shrivels away, you don’t really have to say or judge anything is something that I would say about this experience, once you just recognize it, you know, see the thought for what it is, it’s a thought, it’s no judgement to it just be like, Oh, it’s not really helping me, ah, I’m gonna let that one go. Or, and literally the other concept of it is, it is a stream of consciousness. Let it go on down its merry way and it’s bubbling fucking broke and just let it go. So we get to the witness, right, the best friend you will ever have. This is what will assist you with your awareness. And this is the idea of right of watching your thoughts dispassionately and again, he calls it says, this does have a name they call it the watcher. And when I say they, it is a universal concept. I know that this is prevalent inside of Hinduism, and in mindfulness and meditation. And you the watcher merely observes, right? It is dispassionate, there’s, there’s no judgment, again, no labels assigned, you just you look at these things as their thoughts or emotions. And I learned through about that myself and headspace, right thoughts or emotions, what is it, and you don’t have to say that’s a good one or a bad one, just which one is it and be dispassionate about it. Once you begin to leverage the watcher, you will begin to feel like you are on two tracks. There’s the just kind of emotional piece where you are doing it, where you are the one doing the things, but then there’s this uncanny ability to kind of watch yourself doing these things. And it’s very interesting, right? It’s very interesting. So initially, he says, Hey, initially, you you won’t be able to hold the water for a few seconds, right? Because it’s, it’s basically like saying, the mind is like, ah, or we’re like, shut the door, I’m in the bathroom, right, it’s natural for the mind to resist the light be just kind of shoved away. And I think the other idea too, is like you’re building a new muscle, you’re building a new skill and it’s not going to be until after repetition that you’re going to be able to hold the watcher for longer periods of time. And I jotted down here too that the watcher can be seen and NLP exercises. Consider the idea of, you know, if you kind of close your eyes and you know, remove yourself one person back, take one step out of yourself. And then pretend like you’re watching yourself, when you when you remove yourself and you see yourself as here I see myself is creating this podcast saying these things and I can see my face and emotions and feel them. But I’m one step removed. And then you can do it a second time. You can say here’s the guy watching a guy who’s doing something then you can do it a third time. Here’s the guy watching a guy watching a guy watch a guy doing something and it’s kind of once you get pulled away like that far back the emotion the passion and and these kind of attached emotionally the attachment to what is happening begins to diminish and I think that’s very interesting how we’re beginning to see the merger of of these kind of East meets West the psychology energy fields and thoughts and processes. What’s even funnier is you know, here we are like NLP who does brand new, you know, thing Neuro Linguistic you know, practices and These are things that are, you know, 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of years old, that, you know, people are stumbling upon and feeling they’re brand new whereas, and primarily because they’re not familiar with Eastern philosophy or an Eastern way of thinking. They, they’re like Eureka.

So, and if you if you’ve been following along through this book, and if you’ve been following along through some of these exercises, and you’ve sincerely begun to watch your own thoughts as passionately, chances are that you have begun to see your voice of judgment kind of diminish. And it’s very interesting how you how quickly you can stop beating yourself up simply because you are you, you’ve got this, you know, you got this witness, you’ve brought somebody with you, you’ve got this observational ability that you didn’t really have before be or realize that you had before because you’ve been so attached and invested in your thoughts. Because your thoughts, they’re not man, you’ve gotten these thoughts from like the rest of the world. So they’re your thoughts. And then they make you body and your life and you feel these things. And these are my feelings. Oh, makes me so mad. Like, if you take a step back, and you’re like, well, that guy’s just getting mad because he thinks it’s these thoughts, those sayings and he’s feeling this way. But as an observer, you know, you can kind of zoom out as it were, and you can see the the, the forest right, you know, people always like you can’t see the forest because of the trees or whatever to close the tree. So it’s the same thing. We zoom out and you get to see the whole scene. And you get to detach on the video, those emotions because, you know, they’re no longer your emotions, you’re watching somebody else’s emotions. And it’s very interesting anyways. So the the witness is the friend you ought to care for and nurture more than most. I think that’s I think that’s pretty interesting one, so I’ll stop it on this one too. We fill out a little bit more to go through on chapter four.

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What is going on spiritual dope? How are you Brandon Handley here the voice of a generation voice of generation Heiser? You know, coming over here from the fatherhood podcast, I used to have that call to the voice of fathers to give a damn. So what are we here? What do you what is this community, this is a voice of, you know, spiritual spiritualists that give a damn anywho guys popping in here I wanted to share out something that we’ve just done recently over on Facebook, if you’re not familiar with one of the things that we’re doing over there, we’re doing a kind of a weekly thing with introduction into Buddhism. And we’ve got one more left. But so far what we’ve done is we’ve done the Four Noble, I’m not a Buddhist, obviously. So we’ve done the we’ve done the Three Jewels. We’ve done, the Four Noble Truths, and one of the podcasts that we’ve released already is the five mindfulness trainings. So one of them, I’m gonna go over with you today, the short version of them is the Four Noble Truths. And also do a short version of the Three Jewels, but I and I’m also going to link a lengthier version of these to the website. So you can go see kind of what that Facebook conversation looked like where I had Reverend Sam, who’s a Buddhist Reverend, on with me to, you know, to talk to about this. And one of the reasons that we’re doing it is so that you can approach Buddhism to find out a little bit more about what it is in a safe and welcoming space. And can hear that straining, love it, want to make sure that you feel safe, right, and it’s a place where I think that sometimes, for me anyways, if you go somewhere, and you’re brand new to it, and there’s JIRA there alone, it can be intimidating to talk to people that are there who look like super sacred or whatever. And, you know, you see a monk out there and you’re like, Hey, what do you do here, and it can, some of it can be intimidating, and you hold yourself back a little bit on those conversations. And Sam and I have created, what I like to believe is a very open space and welcoming space for you to come in, explore these topics, we share out the link. And you can come there with any questions that you might have, as it might relate, like I said, we shot the link. This one was the foremost noble truths of Buddhism, and I’ll share that on the page as well. And I’m gonna go over it with you quickly today, quicker than it took us are like, I think 45 minutes or so, on the foreigner will choose. So, the Four Noble Truths are perhaps the most basic formulation of the Buddhist teachings and they are expressed as follows. All existence is Duka, right? And the word Duka means suffering or anguish, pain, or unsatisfactoriness. The idea is that our lives are a struggle, and that you do not find ultimate happiness or satisfaction in anything that you experience. And this is the site this is the problem of existence. And we went back and forth quite a bit on this, Sam and I know that what he’s saying here is that there’s no there’s no way around it. You might think that you have different ways around it. You may think that you don’t suffer or have any suffering for yourself or any anguish, pain or sadness, but everybody does. All of us I have it, you have it. And so how do we how do we work through it? Once we know that this is going to show up? How do we work through it and that’s part of what we what what this is about. So, the second part of it is that the cause of Duka is craving says here that the natural human tendency is to blame our difficulties on things outside of ourselves. But the Buddha says that their actual root is to be found in the mind itself. In particular, our tendency to grasp things or alternatively, push them away. Places is fundamentally at odds with the way life really is.

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And again, this was inside of you, right? How do you think about something that is that is happening? And and I don’t know exactly where we landed on how to grasp it them or, you know, we pull it them, you know, we leap to conclusions versus just kind of experiencing what’s really in front of us without giving it some how to, it’s challenging. How do you do anything? Without giving it a label, the cause of Duka is craving, right? So, things on the outside of you, right? You couldn’t get this job. So you got pissed at the world, right? The world’s against you. Or, you know, maybe somebody ran into your, your car and popped your tire and you get pissed and the world’s against you. And that’s a you wish things were better. You wish you were somewhere else and you wish things weren’t the way they were? And you feel like they could do better. And the thing is, you can feel a different way or have a different life experience if you if you wanted it or interpret it differently. So yeah, that’s kind of like the high level idea of it, right? We I think we spent quite a bit of time on that one. The idea again, is that there, the actual root of craving can be found in the mind itself, which kind of leads into the next next piece here, the cessation of Duka. Now this is the third of four noble truths comes with a cessation, cessation of Duka, cause with the cessation of cravings, as we are the ultimate causes of our difficulties, we are also the solution. I like to say, you know, as you are the ultimate cause of your difficulty, you are also the solution. You cannot change the things that happen to you. But you can change your response. I don’t know how many means I’ve seen with this one, how many and you know, set in, you know, different ways. But if you change the way you look at things that have changed how you look at things, they change differently, right? They, they change just by just by your your thought process and how you decide to see them. And then you can change your response to what you interpret is happening around you. So, you know, if you’re seeing a craving, and you want something for some reason, you have to understand where that where that craving is coming from what is causing that craving, and address it, right. I like to use the example of how when we want to move to a different place. We don’t like where we live anymore, we want to go move or live somewhere else. And then the idea is, you know, why? what’s, what does that please have that we want to move to have? That’s not already available here. And when you approach it that way, you know what’s over there that you don’t have where you are right now is the ultimate question. And what’s causing you and prompting you to move. And then when you take a look at it, you realize, well, maybe nothing, maybe there’s no reason. And then when you kind of when you take a look at it in that way, you you eliminate some of the pressure to make the move right to force yourself into any certain direction. So you can change your response, right. So the thing that’s happening is that I am where I am. And instead of saying I wish I wasn’t here, let’s say I’ve got everything that I need. Got everything that I really want. If I take a really good hard look at it so I can change my response. Right, so I got to get out of here can’t be here. Whoa. So now I got everything I need. And finally, so there’s a path that leads from Duka. Although the Buddha throws responsibility back on the individual, he also taught methods to which we can change ourselves. For example, it’s a Noble Eightfold Path. And I honestly don’t know what that is. But I do know this I do know that next week on October 3, on Facebook, Sam and I’ll be getting together to discuss the Noble Eightfold Path can also leave a link for that in on the site. But look, there are ways around it right. Just like we said here, although the Buddha throws

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responsibility back on the edge visual, he also taught methods which we can And yourself, the one that I just use right back on number three is, you know, reframing it, taking stock, separating yourself from the situation. That’s a really interesting exercise you can do in NLP. Where you close your eyes, there’s a cognitive behavior therapy, it’s one of the two, you kind of close your eyes. And you picture yourself in your mind. And then you picture yourself doing whatever it is that you’re doing, whatever the situation is, feeling, whatever it is that you’re feeling, and then imagining that you are watching yourself, right? And what is the experience of watching yourself, like, you know, so when you watch yourself with all those emotions, feelings, and situations, and thoughts and ways of being? What is it that you see as the watcher, right? And then take it one more step beyond here. So now you’re watching yourself, watch yourself. Right? So there’s watching 1123 of us in this scenario, and, yeah, how much more objective Can you kind of become in this scenario when, in the end, right, the first person, you know, if you’re sitting with yourself, and you’re deep inside, you’re feeling the things, you’re feeling the emotions and you’re experiencing everything. When you are one step removed, you for some reason, you still feel some type of sensation, you still feel some type of way about all the things that are going on, because you’re just one step removed, but there’s less, it’s a little bit more objective. Now you’re watching the watcher, who’s watching you. Because one objective, there’s less sensation, there’s less things happening. And when you kind of watch the whole thing play out. And if you put one more in there, you put a fourth image of yourself being three times removed. It really just becomes you see somebody sitting there thinking, you’re watching somebody, watch somebody else, watch somebody else who just looks like all those people are looking at somebody just thinking, you’re so far removed, but you can separate yourself from yourself in that scenario. And when you do that, when you’re able to do that you for just that time you eliminate the suffering, the anguish, and you’re just an observer, and things just are what they are. So, I hope that was helpful for you to go through these four noble truths. All existence is Duka. The cause of Duka is craving, cessation of Duka comes with the cessation of craving. And then finally, there is a path that leads from there, the one tool that is shared with you there is helpful. And then on October 3, we are 2020 on Facebook 7pm Eastern Standard Time, Sam and I are going to cover the Noble Eightfold Path. I’d love for you to join us. It’s open to everybody just kind of come check it out if you’ve got some questions, and just feel like you know, this is this is all part of part of it. Right? The beauty is a lot of what we do here in personal development and personal growth space, is accessible with other tools has been around for a long time. And we can apply it in different ways. And they come from different sources. And one of those sources that we have available to us at all times is this ability to access Buddhism. All right, take it easy.

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