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Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here at voice of generation, we are going through chapter four of Are you ready to succeed by Sreekumar Rao, it’s been a minute, but uh, you know, I was actually having a conversation with somebody else who’s gone through this book with me this round. And this isn’t one of those things where you’re trying to blast through it, right? You’re not trying to, you’re not trying to blast through life or, you know, same same concept of trying to enjoy life relish life and just experience it. So, in that, in that regard, that’s what I’m doing with this book. If I’m not able to do some of the exercises, to the degree that I’m satisfied with personally, and not even to the degree that I am beating myself up, but to a degree that I just want to make sure that I have done some of these exercises and that I am happy with my results personally, right. So not a rush to get through them. Not a rush to get through life, right? Want to be able to relish and enjoy it. So we are on chapter number four. And chapter number four is you can’t kill it. And it won’t shut up. The witness is your salvation, right? That’s the name of the chapter. And this one, to me. This was a little sneaky, sneaky, I’ll tell you, I’ll tell you about it kind of when we when we get away is not the chapters naked. So the next one, this one’s still sneaky. This one’s thinking. And I’ll tell you right now, too. I went through this book, Chapter maybe maybe a few weeks ago, a couple weeks ago. And what I found was super interesting was the idea that there was stuff that was redoing when I was coming back and going through the chapter, again, taking notes and building out the map. There was new stuff, there was stuff that I didn’t see before already, again, and it only been a couple weeks. So let’s jump into it. We’re going to be talking a little bit about the mental models again, right. And the idea is that your personal reality is kind of it’s between your two years, right. And the idea is that most of these models that have come through into your life that you’ve accepted, they’ve been accepted without questioning. I think that the idea is that sometimes an authority figure will toss something out there into your into your life, or television show that you watch or a series or something, that over time, regardless of whether or not you’re doing it on purpose, you have developed this you’ve accepted these mental models, right, they’ve just been pounded into your head over and over again, that they’re stuck there. Right. And these day, create your reality. Remember, it is a reality, not the reality. And, and or at least your perception of it. He does illustrate this with a pretty cool story, basically, you know, and this could happen to you anywhere, anytime, yourself with, you know, let’s just pretend that any surprise birthday party, right, that made the first couple of times that you’ve gone through one, at least I recall getting through one. And you know, I thought people were doing something behind my back, or maybe the party wasn’t going to happen or whatever. You know, I think we all go through this. And if not, I say that just because I want to be alone. But, you know, I still remember, maybe a birthday party doesn’t happen for you. And you’re like, Man, what did everybody forget? And then next thing, oh, there’s this big ol surprise party and you’re like, Man, that’s so cool. They did that. But like there’s this big, long period of time where you’re all worried and concerned. And and the idea is, you know, it doesn’t matter whether or not it’s true or not. What matters are the actions that you take, based upon what you believe, you know, so, so what? So there’s a line that, you know, that’s not what you know, that is not true. What you know, I don’t know, there’s a, I think there’s some Shakespeare line or whatever. But the deal is like, what you think, you know, is really what you act on. Doesn’t matter whether or not that’s true. And that happens in a lot of different places. And sometimes when you act on those things that you believe to be true. You can make a complete ass out of yourself, right? You can make a complete ass out of yourself. He also talks about the I love this idea that you manufacture, emotion to external stimuli, right? This isn’t new to you. And this will also happen to when you’re watching a movie.

You know, so if you’re watching any movie and you can see you know something’s happening on the screen and and it’s a love scene you feel good she it’s a heart touching scene, they call the heart touching scene for a reason, right? They make you feel this emotion. The thing is that you remind yourself during that period of time, that you’re watching a movie, like, gosh, if this isn’t real, it’s cool, man. Cool. The thing is your personal reality, the reality that you create in your mind during the day, when it’s not a true movie, it’s not much different than a movie, right? Your your perception of what you go on is going on around you. The thing is, you believe you’re in your reality, your realities, it’s got, it’s got emotion, it’s got, you know, it’s got these, it’s like the longest running series, right of your life, because it’s been going on your entire life. And you allow for your emotions to dictate your reactions instead of instead, just like, you don’t recognize that you have this ability to hold your emotions in check, just like when you’re watching a movie.

Unknown Speaker 6:09
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Brandon Handley 6:11
But it’s just, it’s the same thing. You can, you can almost, almost invariably just watch yourself in a scene as it is playing out in real life. And if you could hold off for just one second, if you can offer just one second before you react. You can save like, you can save yourself a ton of ton of time and effort. Because then you don’t react to the new remind yourself, you’re like, Oh, shit, this is in my mind. You know, maybe that’s not exactly what’s happening. Maybe I’ll shut up for a second and just let it play out. Right? Maybe, maybe there’s not a ghost in the closet with Scooby and Shaggy. Yeah, right. Maybe there’s they’re eating a sandwich, who knows what’s happening. So does reality work for you, you’ve got to, you know, maybe, maybe go through and reflect on your ideal reality exercise that you could have done earlier. And if you didn’t, you know, go check it check out doing the ideal life exercise. And if you can’t find it in the book, feel free to reach out to me, I’ll be happy to provide you with one. If you did the exercise, have you already created zero does your ideal life exists for you? Right now, today? If so, great, you’re down here, congratulations. Call me. I’d like to know how you got there. But if you are like the rest of us, if you are like the rest of us, most of us most of I mean, I don’t have a stat here. But you are massively dissatisfied with the life with the reality that you’ve created between your ears, you are concerned with what others are thinking of you, you’re always thinking of ways to win them over. And you you’re attempting to try to climb the corporate ladder, or maybe be successful in some other way. Maybe it’s not the corporate ladder, specifically that you’re trying to climb, but you’re always, you know, trying to impress somebody or you know, make it to the next level play. It’s always like level up. And each rung of that ladder that you’re trying to climb up and down, or each level that you get get higher up into each one brings maybe a little bit of joy, like I made it, but then then it just it goes away, right? Let’s just say it’s like a quick hit. And easily, you plateau, like almost immediately. You have frantic actions, do you want to hold on to the things that you’ve got? While you’re trying to get more, right? You don’t want to lose anything, but you want more. And, and often this leads to, you know, dropping balls. And you know, lots lots of frustration can happen there. And at some point, some point, this one just knows that every time I read this, you get through reading how all this is you’re, you’re doing this, and he gets up to a point, you realize that there is a song within you. And you don’t know how to get it out. You don’t know how to get it out. You realize there’s a song within you and he don’t know how to get it out. Each time I read that each time it’s like a severe impact because it’s so true. So true. And and you know, look, I’ve had multiple conversations recently where all of us so many of us have been directed in what to do that we get to that point. And we realize that we’ve been directed what’s doing and we want to claim our lives as our own. Right, recognize that we have this capability. And we recognize that there is a song that we want to sing We want to let it out and where we’re at right now. It’s not. It’s it’s not conducive, right? It’s not. There are people around or like don’t saying, I know, it’s like the song metaphor, but your song can be anything, right? It’s a, it’s an artwork, it’s a way that you feel it’s how you live your life. So, I’ll get to the next piece here. So he goes, uh, by golly, I’ll stop that mental chatter. So that’s all the stuff that’s gone in your ears, right? You’re still trying to climb, climb this corporate wrong. You’re beating yourself up, you’re trying to, you know, you’re trying to impress others so that you can get to where they told you that you want to be. Right? And, and, and so that they’ll give you permission to be great, right? And so you’re like, hey, look, I’ll just, I’ll just stop that mental chatter. I’ll just stop it. I’ll get rid of it. And the deal is that you may try and you will inevitably, you know, you, you and evitable bleed, you will find that you cannot, you will find that you cannot stop that mental chatter. You cannot stop that voice of judgment that’s always beating you up. And

we’re just judgment. It doesn’t always have to be beating you up, like we talked about before, it could be saying something positive, the likelihood of the positive voice judgment is less likely than then most others. But the deal is right, what will happen when you attempt to put an end to the mental chatter? Well, what happens when he gives anything some energy I wrote down here, remember, the Gremlins don’t feed those Fockers after midnight look, because they turn into monsters, you feed those you feed those things. The any energy, anything you give to energy is simply going to grow. Right. So don’t feed those fuckers after midnight. Because they’re Gremlins just in your mind. So he’s got an idea here that he talks about. Imagine a wild horse that is running in a field. Sometimes it’s standing there peacefully. But what happens if you go out and you try to mount that horse, chances are, it’s going to buck and throw you off. And honestly, I’ve experienced this. Remember, I was about 10 years old out in a ranch in California, and hopped on the back of a horse and, and didn’t necessarily bucked me off. But it didn’t didn’t really follow my every women command. And there was a gentleman right another horse in front of me who the horse thought that he was on it, it lost control, right and it took off running with him, ran him into a tree branch, I saw that guy get thrown off the back of the tree on bounce and I’m sitting I’m like 10, or 11 I forget was like holy shit. And I had two things happening. In my mind, I was like, I hope nobody hears me swearing. Because my you know, my family was watching from a distance as as I was riding this horse, and I was like, I don’t want to be the one that gets, I don’t want to get knocked off the horse that way. So I pushed myself off the back of that horse and smashed my face into the ground. And I, you know, I survived the incident. But, you know, when you get on something that’s running full bore, with all that energy as a good chance that you’re gonna get knocked off knocked over or it’s just gonna take off without without any control and go to a place where you you don’t want to be. So I’m going to clip this one here and we’ll clip on this one, this one, there’s quite a bit of information in this in chapter four. So click here and come back in just a sec, or when you need to be and we’ll continue

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Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope? How are you Brandon Handley here the voice of a generation voice of generation Heiser? You know, coming over here from the fatherhood podcast, I used to have that call to the voice of fathers to give a damn. So what are we here? What do you what is this community, this is a voice of, you know, spiritual spiritualists that give a damn anywho guys popping in here I wanted to share out something that we’ve just done recently over on Facebook, if you’re not familiar with one of the things that we’re doing over there, we’re doing a kind of a weekly thing with introduction into Buddhism. And we’ve got one more left. But so far what we’ve done is we’ve done the Four Noble, I’m not a Buddhist, obviously. So we’ve done the we’ve done the Three Jewels. We’ve done, the Four Noble Truths, and one of the podcasts that we’ve released already is the five mindfulness trainings. So one of them, I’m gonna go over with you today, the short version of them is the Four Noble Truths. And also do a short version of the Three Jewels, but I and I’m also going to link a lengthier version of these to the website. So you can go see kind of what that Facebook conversation looked like where I had Reverend Sam, who’s a Buddhist Reverend, on with me to, you know, to talk to about this. And one of the reasons that we’re doing it is so that you can approach Buddhism to find out a little bit more about what it is in a safe and welcoming space. And can hear that straining, love it, want to make sure that you feel safe, right, and it’s a place where I think that sometimes, for me anyways, if you go somewhere, and you’re brand new to it, and there’s JIRA there alone, it can be intimidating to talk to people that are there who look like super sacred or whatever. And, you know, you see a monk out there and you’re like, Hey, what do you do here, and it can, some of it can be intimidating, and you hold yourself back a little bit on those conversations. And Sam and I have created, what I like to believe is a very open space and welcoming space for you to come in, explore these topics, we share out the link. And you can come there with any questions that you might have, as it might relate, like I said, we shot the link. This one was the foremost noble truths of Buddhism, and I’ll share that on the page as well. And I’m gonna go over it with you quickly today, quicker than it took us are like, I think 45 minutes or so, on the foreigner will choose. So, the Four Noble Truths are perhaps the most basic formulation of the Buddhist teachings and they are expressed as follows. All existence is Duka, right? And the word Duka means suffering or anguish, pain, or unsatisfactoriness. The idea is that our lives are a struggle, and that you do not find ultimate happiness or satisfaction in anything that you experience. And this is the site this is the problem of existence. And we went back and forth quite a bit on this, Sam and I know that what he’s saying here is that there’s no there’s no way around it. You might think that you have different ways around it. You may think that you don’t suffer or have any suffering for yourself or any anguish, pain or sadness, but everybody does. All of us I have it, you have it. And so how do we how do we work through it? Once we know that this is going to show up? How do we work through it and that’s part of what we what what this is about. So, the second part of it is that the cause of Duka is craving says here that the natural human tendency is to blame our difficulties on things outside of ourselves. But the Buddha says that their actual root is to be found in the mind itself. In particular, our tendency to grasp things or alternatively, push them away. Places is fundamentally at odds with the way life really is.

Brandon Handley 4:59
And again, this was inside of you, right? How do you think about something that is that is happening? And and I don’t know exactly where we landed on how to grasp it them or, you know, we pull it them, you know, we leap to conclusions versus just kind of experiencing what’s really in front of us without giving it some how to, it’s challenging. How do you do anything? Without giving it a label, the cause of Duka is craving, right? So, things on the outside of you, right? You couldn’t get this job. So you got pissed at the world, right? The world’s against you. Or, you know, maybe somebody ran into your, your car and popped your tire and you get pissed and the world’s against you. And that’s a you wish things were better. You wish you were somewhere else and you wish things weren’t the way they were? And you feel like they could do better. And the thing is, you can feel a different way or have a different life experience if you if you wanted it or interpret it differently. So yeah, that’s kind of like the high level idea of it, right? We I think we spent quite a bit of time on that one. The idea again, is that there, the actual root of craving can be found in the mind itself, which kind of leads into the next next piece here, the cessation of Duka. Now this is the third of four noble truths comes with a cessation, cessation of Duka, cause with the cessation of cravings, as we are the ultimate causes of our difficulties, we are also the solution. I like to say, you know, as you are the ultimate cause of your difficulty, you are also the solution. You cannot change the things that happen to you. But you can change your response. I don’t know how many means I’ve seen with this one, how many and you know, set in, you know, different ways. But if you change the way you look at things that have changed how you look at things, they change differently, right? They, they change just by just by your your thought process and how you decide to see them. And then you can change your response to what you interpret is happening around you. So, you know, if you’re seeing a craving, and you want something for some reason, you have to understand where that where that craving is coming from what is causing that craving, and address it, right. I like to use the example of how when we want to move to a different place. We don’t like where we live anymore, we want to go move or live somewhere else. And then the idea is, you know, why? what’s, what does that please have that we want to move to have? That’s not already available here. And when you approach it that way, you know what’s over there that you don’t have where you are right now is the ultimate question. And what’s causing you and prompting you to move. And then when you take a look at it, you realize, well, maybe nothing, maybe there’s no reason. And then when you kind of when you take a look at it in that way, you you eliminate some of the pressure to make the move right to force yourself into any certain direction. So you can change your response, right. So the thing that’s happening is that I am where I am. And instead of saying I wish I wasn’t here, let’s say I’ve got everything that I need. Got everything that I really want. If I take a really good hard look at it so I can change my response. Right, so I got to get out of here can’t be here. Whoa. So now I got everything I need. And finally, so there’s a path that leads from Duka. Although the Buddha throws responsibility back on the individual, he also taught methods to which we can change ourselves. For example, it’s a Noble Eightfold Path. And I honestly don’t know what that is. But I do know this I do know that next week on October 3, on Facebook, Sam and I’ll be getting together to discuss the Noble Eightfold Path can also leave a link for that in on the site. But look, there are ways around it right. Just like we said here, although the Buddha throws

Brandon Handley 9:55
responsibility back on the edge visual, he also taught methods which we can And yourself, the one that I just use right back on number three is, you know, reframing it, taking stock, separating yourself from the situation. That’s a really interesting exercise you can do in NLP. Where you close your eyes, there’s a cognitive behavior therapy, it’s one of the two, you kind of close your eyes. And you picture yourself in your mind. And then you picture yourself doing whatever it is that you’re doing, whatever the situation is, feeling, whatever it is that you’re feeling, and then imagining that you are watching yourself, right? And what is the experience of watching yourself, like, you know, so when you watch yourself with all those emotions, feelings, and situations, and thoughts and ways of being? What is it that you see as the watcher, right? And then take it one more step beyond here. So now you’re watching yourself, watch yourself. Right? So there’s watching 1123 of us in this scenario, and, yeah, how much more objective Can you kind of become in this scenario when, in the end, right, the first person, you know, if you’re sitting with yourself, and you’re deep inside, you’re feeling the things, you’re feeling the emotions and you’re experiencing everything. When you are one step removed, you for some reason, you still feel some type of sensation, you still feel some type of way about all the things that are going on, because you’re just one step removed, but there’s less, it’s a little bit more objective. Now you’re watching the watcher, who’s watching you. Because one objective, there’s less sensation, there’s less things happening. And when you kind of watch the whole thing play out. And if you put one more in there, you put a fourth image of yourself being three times removed. It really just becomes you see somebody sitting there thinking, you’re watching somebody, watch somebody else, watch somebody else who just looks like all those people are looking at somebody just thinking, you’re so far removed, but you can separate yourself from yourself in that scenario. And when you do that, when you’re able to do that you for just that time you eliminate the suffering, the anguish, and you’re just an observer, and things just are what they are. So, I hope that was helpful for you to go through these four noble truths. All existence is Duka. The cause of Duka is craving, cessation of Duka comes with the cessation of craving. And then finally, there is a path that leads from there, the one tool that is shared with you there is helpful. And then on October 3, we are 2020 on Facebook 7pm Eastern Standard Time, Sam and I are going to cover the Noble Eightfold Path. I’d love for you to join us. It’s open to everybody just kind of come check it out if you’ve got some questions, and just feel like you know, this is this is all part of part of it. Right? The beauty is a lot of what we do here in personal development and personal growth space, is accessible with other tools has been around for a long time. And we can apply it in different ways. And they come from different sources. And one of those sources that we have available to us at all times is this ability to access Buddhism. All right, take it easy.

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